Why do parents value their parents more than their children?

Updated on : December 3, 2021 by Camryn Mendez



Why do parents value their parents more than their children?

I just commented on a question that suggests that people don't even know if the parents are alive! Loving parents is not so bad. After all, for years, they have provided unconditional love just as you receive it from your own parents. The impression you have seems to be because you feel a lack of love from your parents, maybe! In this modern age, both parents decide to have a career. Perhaps that is the cause of this concern. Maybe you were passed on to grandparents, the elderly, retired neighbors or hired help and you have this interpretation! It's not as bad as it seems

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I just commented on a question that suggests that people don't even know if the parents are alive! Loving parents is not so bad. After all, for years, they have provided unconditional love just as you receive it from your own parents. The impression you have seems to be because you feel a lack of love from your parents, maybe! In this modern age, both parents decide to have a career. Perhaps that is the cause of this concern. Maybe you were passed on to grandparents, the elderly, retired neighbors or hired help and you have this interpretation! It is not as bad as it seems.

Not all of them do. Those who do, mostly do it because they know that the time they have left with their parents is relatively limited ... also, there is a better understanding that they have gained after becoming parents, about how difficult it must have been to raise them. . It is also gratitude.

Because your parents were taught by their parents. It has nothing to do with value. If you become a father, you will understand.

When someone asks what is most beneficial, a proper answer requires an evidence base. To have evidence-based answers, research must exist.

A PubMed search for Parenting Philosophy returns just 1,000 articles and without examining them all, I can tell you that the momentum of the body of work generated using that keyword is not in the goal of a body of research on the philosophy of parenting based on examples from the articles:

  • Hegemony and Heteronormativity: Homonormative Speeches by LGBTQ Activists on Gay and Lesbian Parenting.
  • A new ethical model of commercial surrogacy agreements for
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When someone asks what is most beneficial, a proper answer requires an evidence base. To have evidence-based answers, research must exist.

A PubMed search for Parenting Philosophy returns just 1,000 articles and without examining them all, I can tell you that the momentum of the body of work generated using that keyword is not in the goal of a body of research on the philosophy of parenting based on examples from the articles:

  • Hegemony and Heteronormativity: Homonormative Speeches by LGBTQ Activists on Gay and Lesbian Parenting.
  • A New Ethical Model of Business Surrogacy Arrangements for Australia.
  • Genes and Virtue: Exploring how heritability beliefs shape conceptions of virtue and its development.

Research on parenting that I have seen does not use these categories. Researchers use these three parenting styles:

  • Authoritarian
  • Authoritarian
  • Indulgent

Authoritarian has the worst results.

Authoritarian parenting has the best results.

Let's take a look at the research:

Attached parenting

I came across a research article that mentioned attachment parenting, Parenting Styles.

Attachment is most often mentioned as an aspect of parenting, attachment, and parenting styles.

Attachment is a very important process that must occur for healthy parenting.

Positive parenting

If you read any of my articles or books, you will know that I support positive parenting practices. But positive parenting is considered a strategy. It was developed in Australia as a way to help parents develop skills that would curb undesirable behaviors in their children.

Positive parenting skills work.

"This comprehensive meta-analytic review of the current evidence base for Triple P confirms the efficacy of the intervention in improving parenting skills, children's problem behavior, and parental well-being." 1

In terms of parenting styles, positive parenting will most likely be seen in parents who have an authoritarian or forgiving style.

Unconditional parenting

The Unconditional Positive Gaze is the closest thing I could identify. I also found unconditional schemas that develop in response to emotional abuse by a parent.

The role of unconditional parental consideration in parenting that supports autonomy.

Research is primarily focused on how unconditional positive regard affects various outcomes, such as whether unconditional positive regard from a parent or teacher regarding a student's gender identity had more effect on the student's school performance. There was only one study and it showed that unconditional positive regard from the teacher had more impact on student success in school than unconditional positive regard from parents.

In this article, The Impact of Parenting Styles on the Development of Psychological Complaints, unconditional positive regard led to fewer negative psychological outcomes compared to parents showing conditional regard.

It would be possible to show unconditional positive regard for children using an authoritarian, authoritarian, or forgiving parenting style, although it would be more difficult to do so as an authoritarian parent.

Spiritual nurturing

Spiritual fatherhood is the title of a book, but the book is not based on scientific evidence as there does not appear to be any evidence related to spiritual fatherhood. The research that exists raises questions like, "How do parents' spiritual practices affect outcome X?"

Ethnic differences in the effects of spiritual well-being on long-term psychological and behavioral outcomes in a sample of homeless women.

Authoritarian parenting is most often associated with a religious upbringing. Spiritual education has wide variations. For some people, the spiritual includes religious education, for others, it is spiritual but not religious.

So within spirituality, there are not many consistent concepts. For some, their spiritual practices include things like loving-kindness and the desire to have unconditional positive regard for others and the belief that God regards them with unconditional positive regard. But spiritual beliefs can also delve into the occult or believe that crystals, runes, or tarot cards have magical properties.

Spiritual is far reaching and not suitable for study without further definition.

The other study option is to strictly define and then study people who have specific beliefs, but that would be extremely difficult. It happens that I am spiritual and not religious. Within my spiritual community there are people who also consider themselves Catholic, Hindu, Christian and I am sure of other religions that I do not know. There are also people who are wrapped in crystals believing that they have healing powers, in tarot, in astrology, in numerology and in enneagrams. The nature of my spiritual community is such that we do not try to convert anyone to a true path. If it works for them, it doesn't matter if it doesn't appeal to us.

Identifying a group with similar enough beliefs to study could be difficult. This problem is not an isolated problem. Religious people within the same church interpret its dogma differently.

There is research showing that, in general, having a spiritual or religious practice leads to healthier results.

I never see an investigation that goes deeper. I would like. There are a number of high-level factors that could be considered that would provide a clear picture of how and when religion is beneficial and when it is harmful that would not be too difficult to achieve, but it is not being done in the research. You've seen.

There were a number of articles, posted by religious and spiritual sites, that used the term spiritual parenthood. The Urantia site defined spiritual parenthood quite well in its article, Spiritual Parenting.

“The difference between spiritual fatherhood and simple fatherhood - is the recognition that our children not only have bodies, minds and emotions, but that a soul is growing within them. And it is part of our privilege and responsibility as parents to provide the physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual environment that provides all possible advantages for raising a healthy, successful, and contributing son or daughter of God, unlocking the eternal potential of the personality to rejoice in the service. in the universe forever. "

Slow parenting

Slow parenting is a movement based on some books (based on opinions) that says doing less is better. There is no research to support the movement. Slow parenting is about choosing not to rush a child from enrichment activity to enrichment activity and can include avoiding time-consuming things like watching television.

It would be possible to apply slow parenting using an authoritarian, authoritarian, or forgiving parenting style.

conclusion

These are not evidence-based parental philosophies. The effect that our parenting style has on the lifetime outcomes our children experience is significant. If it weren't so sad, it would be amusing for authoritarian parents to be so unhappy with the results their children are experiencing without realizing that it was their parenting style that led to the poor results.

There is a wealth of research on what helps children thrive and what hinders their ability to thrive. My book, Rescue Our Children from The War Zone: Teach Social and Emotional Skills to Improve Their Lives: Applied Positive Psychology 2.1, provides the latest research in positive psychology pointing the way to non-dogmatic parenting strategies, philosophies, and styles. rather, they achieve good results for children. Strategies that parents and children can use to build resilience are provided, as well as ways to minimize external stressors, such as racism, with healthy responses.

It is important to remember that parenting style not only influences the level of success a child achieves during childhood and adulthood in the classroom, on the athletic field, or in their career, it has a profound effect on their physical health. and mental throughout life. .

How we raise our children determines, to a large extent, whether they will experience chronic illness or good health. If we raise children in ways that increase stress, the child will be more prone to illness and disease. If we teach our children good stress management strategies, they will accomplish more and experience better health.

Parents' decisions are based on deeply held and very personal values. It is important that counseling considers this and does not require strict adherence. It is best to teach parents how their decisions may affect their child based on research and let the parents decide what is best for them at any given time.

There may be a time and a place for authoritarian parenting. If you are in a dangerous situation, immediate unconditional obedience can save your child's life. I remember teaching my children that there were times when they had to immediately obey without question. If a child needs to crouch down to avoid being hit by something unexpectedly flying through the air, he does not have time to argue why he should obey him at that moment. We had a keyword that meant: “Right now, obey me without hesitation. We'll talk about that later. "

Parents who do better tend to question themselves frequently when faced with new situations. "Why am I answering this way?" "Am I doing this because it is the way I was raised or because it is the best way to approach this situation?" A few questions along with an open mind and some personal development can help anyone be a good influence in their child's life.

Footnotes

1 Parental personality and positive parenting as predictors of positive adolescent personality development over time

It wasn't what he said that was amazing, it was what he did. My second son was homeschooled from the beginning. It was always strange to teach him because he has a different way of learning that none of my books on teaching seem to cover. You do everything on your own time and you cannot be bribed or intimidated into following someone else's schedule. I couldn't teach him to go to the bathroom until he was three years old and one day he announced that he was done with diapers and he was. The thing is, at that point he had already been riding his little bike in the yard with no training wheels for almost a year.

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It wasn't what he said that was amazing, it was what he did. My second son was homeschooled from the beginning. It was always strange to teach him because he has a different way of learning that none of my books on teaching seem to cover. You do everything on your own time and you cannot be bribed or intimidated into following someone else's schedule. I couldn't teach him to go to the bathroom until he was three years old and one day he announced that he was done with diapers and he was. The thing is, at that point he had already been riding his little bike in the yard with no training wheels for almost a year. You just do everything when you decide and not a little before, no matter what.

When he was in fourth grade, he was doing very badly in school. He kept falling asleep during school and seemed to fail every exam I took. I told his father that maybe he would have to repeat fourth grade. My husband suggested that I give him a national achievement test before deciding what to do. So I ordered the test and gave it to him. Parents do not score these tests. We have a limited amount of time to administer the tests that we schedule when we order them. We are responsible for keeping the correct time for each section of the tests and then sending them back to be graded by the supplier. We did not receive a response key. When my son's results came in, I was speechless. His lowest score was in math, which was still at the fifth grade level. The rest was shocking. All of her language skills were in high school or college! Then he finally explained his past behavior to me. It seems the reason he fell asleep every day was because he was awake most nights. He couldn't pass my exam because he was too tired to concentrate. He had developed the habit of reading all night. He read almost every book he had. That says a lot, since my obsession with collecting books borders on some kind of disease. I have lost count of the books, but I calculate more than a thousand. I mean, we live around books, they are on the shelves in every room in our house. I have something on almost every topic you can think of. Some are technical and over my head, but we have them anyway, in case someone develops an interest in those areas. He read history and science books, grammar and English, psychology books, biographies, and of course all the fiction. I thought about the past and realized that I had frequently referenced things from some of these books. At the time I was wondering how he knew these things, but my life was very busy and I didn't dwell on that thought for long. We called him our librarian for years because he was the only one in the family who could quickly locate any book we were looking for and also tell me if he already had a book before buying another copy. I thought about the past and realized that I had frequently referenced things from some of these books. At the time I was wondering how he knew these things, but my life was very busy and I didn't dwell on that thought for long. We called him our librarian for years because he was the only one in the family who could quickly locate any book we were looking for and also tell me if he already had a book before buying another copy. I thought about the past and realized that I had frequently referenced things from some of these books. At the time I was wondering how he knew these things, but my life was very busy and I didn't dwell on that thought for long. We called him our librarian for years because he was the only one in the family who could quickly locate any book we were looking for and also tell me if he already had a book before buying another copy.

He is now twenty-three years old and has been alone since two weeks before he turned eighteen. She wasn't ready for him to leave, but she said it was time. He and his older brother share a place and work together in construction. He is learning all he can in the hope of having his own business one day. I have no doubt that it will, when it is ready, and not a little sooner.

Because their parents taught them to be disrespectful. They gave in to all demands, did not set limits for behavior, did not set and enforce any consequences for misbehavior, were inconsistent in enforcing the rules that existed, and did not hold their children accountable for their actions.

I saw it in action. My friend whose oldest son died of a drug overdose before I knew her (but it wasn't his fault for taking the drugs, it was his girlfriend's fault for not calling 911) is raising his grandson because the boy's mother doesn't he stays out drugs and is always back and forth between prison, r

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Because their parents taught them to be disrespectful. They gave in to all demands, did not set limits for behavior, did not set and enforce any consequences for misbehavior, were inconsistent in enforcing the rules that existed, and did not hold their children accountable for their actions.

I saw it in action. My friend whose oldest son died of a drug overdose before I knew her (but it wasn't his fault for taking the drugs, it was his girlfriend's fault for not calling 911) is raising his grandson because the boy's mother doesn't he stays out of drugs and always goes back and forth between prison, rehab, and jail. I have known them for 5 years. At the age of 12, the girl began to steal his butts and then his cigarettes. I pointed out to him that his grandmother was stressed about trying to quit smoking, and how STUPID it was for him to start smoking. She didn't say anything to him at all; do not impose consequences for smoking or stealing.

He had some things stored in his storage shed. The monster boy got into my stuff. He left a condom wrapper at home. I spilled my black leather dye on my photos and messed them up. God only knows what else he got into and destroyed. When I told her grandmother, she just said she would pay for it. A. How are you going to pay for the ruined photos and B. What are you teaching the child about taking responsibility for their actions?

A year later, his great-grandfather was dying and his grandmother was struggling to save money to bury his father. A jerk kid stole $ 600, said he spent it on marijuana, but disappeared 2 days later. Yeah right. How do you smoke $ 600 worth of marijuana in 2 days? Without consequences.

Fast forward a couple more years of misbehavior without consequences. He lives with a 30-year-old woman with 2 children and she ignores decent behavior as much as he does. They decide to get high on methamphetamine. With the children, 6 and 7 years old, in the house. He lost his last functioning brain cell and was unleashed, racking up multiple violent criminal charges including assault with a deadly weapon, domestic assault and assault on a child. He served 18 years in jail, spent a couple of months there, then inexplicably came out and joked about how he enjoyed his time there. Tell me if you see something positive likely in his future.

I'm just a teenager and I don't have kids, but I'm sure I would make sure that when I have kids they don't grow up like me.

Now, I was not raised in a neglectful or abusive home, but I will say that I don't think I was raised in the right way.

The environment I was in was not the best. I am the youngest of three siblings and my older brother is autistic. I remember hitting me in the stomach, why I'm not really sure, maybe he didn't like me to grow up.

My mom and dad had some arguments that I remember, but not what they were about. And they told me that, because I don't remember,

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I'm just a teenager and I don't have kids, but I'm sure I would make sure that when I have kids they don't grow up like me.

Now, I was not raised in a neglectful or abusive home, but I will say that I don't think I was raised in the right way.

The environment I was in was not the best. I am the youngest of three siblings and my older brother is autistic. I remember hitting me in the stomach, why I'm not really sure, maybe he didn't like me to grow up.

My mom and dad had some arguments that I remember, but not what they were about. And they told me that, since I don't remember, my father favored me more than my sister and bullied her when I got into trouble for something.

Now, I don't remember much of my childhood but I remember strangely that when I lied about something they yelled at me and I ruminated it made me lie more because if this is how they react then, then if I do something wrong, I do. I don't want to see how they react then. I will be honest. I still feel like lying when I know I've done something wrong.

I also remember being spanked when I did something wrong. I will never, NEVER hit my kids when I have them. I think that partly contributed to my lying more because it sucks to get hit, so when you do something wrong you lie in the hope that you won't get hit.

I never went to school. I was homeschooled as a kid but as I got older and my parents got separated and we moved my mom got busier and basically we were supposed to do school work online but just like my mom and sister , I have partial dyslexia and so I struggle with things like math and sometimes reading. I don't consider myself unintelligent because I have basic math skills that I think would be all I would need in the future, but I think most would call me stupid because I didn't go to school.

I don't know when this started, but I am really disconnected from my family. There are so many things they don't know about me. I started to get closer to my brother and sister, but I find it very difficult to keep talking about personal things with my mother. And this plays into the last thing I'm about to say.

I think like my father I am bipolar. Now when I was 11-12 years old, I stupidly made a youtube channel vlogging and stuff like that and started to get bullied. It hurt. And as I got older, I also started to get bullied at games. It got so bad that I contemplated suicide.

He had said something in a game about it and an old friend of mine told his parents, who told my dad and then he told my mom. She called my brother and my shared phone at the time to try to talk to me about it, but she was so upset that she didn't want to. Not for her at least. I would have preferred to speak to a friend.

Every time I got so mad, I kept it to myself because it made me feel weak and I didn't want help because I felt like my family (other than my dad I guess) would never understand. So every time I felt suicidal I found something to cheer me up and today I lose myself a lot in thoughts and daydreams wanting a different life.

When I have children, I will never want a life like this for them. I never want them to get hurt or feel like they can't talk to me. I would make sure that whoever his father is, he is not abusive or neglectful of an addict of any kind. And if it turns out that I end up being a single mom like my mom, then I'll work hard for them.

Sure you can bet on that.

Children can be "bad" in many different ways. It is your responsibility as a parent to try to understand what drives particular “bad” behavior. If you don't understand, seek professional help, ideally long before you give up on a "bad boy."

There are many reasons why a child misbehaves that you can correct and manage successfully. Examples include inattention from an adult, the inability to share, having a lot of energy and being forced to be locked up, the desire to break the rules just to "see what happens", and so on. All of these are so normal that the lack of some of them should be of greater concern to a parent than their

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Children can be "bad" in many different ways. It is your responsibility as a parent to try to understand what drives particular “bad” behavior. If you don't understand, seek professional help, ideally long before you give up on a "bad boy."

There are many reasons why a child misbehaves that you can correct and manage successfully. Examples include inattention from an adult, inability to share, having a lot of energy and being forced to be locked up, wanting to break the rules just to "see what happens", and so on. All of these are so normal that the lack of some of them should be of greater concern to a parent than their presence.

That said, there are relatively rare psychological conditions, such as sociopathic or psychopathic tendencies, which even the most recent science considers innate and incurable. If a child exhibits such tendencies, again an early diagnosis is very important, because it is still possible to raise a functional and productive member of society as long as you understand the nature of his condition.

An even smaller swath of the above are children who cannot be helped by their surroundings. But even in those cases, you have to wait until maturity to be able to say that your parents, having done their best, can be exonerated for any bad behavior.

The bottom line is that parenting is a dynamic process. It is not about who is to blame. It's about doing the best you can, figuring out who you have as a child, and then figuring out what works for them. Telling yourself that you "only have a bad boy" is like a general who says after a losing battle that maybe "it's just a bad war." It indicates that you are ready to throw in the towel, and that's never a good sign. In fact, it may be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

It is much more productive to always believe that you have a good child who is misbehaving, for reasons that you must discover.

"Should parents befriend their children?"

No.

Just as teachers should not befriend students, there is a dynamic of authority in the relationship between parents and children. That doesn't mean you can't be friendly, but friends are the same and you are not the same as a child.

I know this sounds terribly authoritative, but kids need reassurance. To feel safe, they need someone else to be "in control." Someone needs to give them structure, teach them social skills, tell them how to become independent, encourage them to persevere when they want to give up, comfort them when they are sad, etc.

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"Should parents befriend their children?"

No.

Just as teachers should not befriend students, there is a dynamic of authority in the relationship between parents and children. That doesn't mean you can't be friendly, but friends are the same and you are not the same as a child.

I know this sounds terribly authoritative, but kids need reassurance. To feel safe, they need someone else to be "in control." Someone needs to give them structure, teach them social skills, tell them how to become independent, encourage them to persevere when they want to give up, comfort them when they are sad, etc.

My son was mad at me a few years ago when he was six years old. He turned to me and said, "I hate you." I could see in his eyes that he was surprised by his own statement, but he was still defiant. I looked at him kindly and said, "Okay, as long as you remember that I will always love you, no matter what. However, that won't change my decision." I could see that that was not the answer I was expecting, and he stomped off to his room. I stayed where I was. About five minutes later, I heard him come down the stairs and come to where I was sitting. He came up to me and said, "I really don't hate you." I nodded and said, "I understand. I hope you understand that I really love you, but I am not your friend. I am your father, That is why I have certain responsibilities towards you that force me to make decisions that you will not like. It hurts when you hate me for it, but that doesn't make me change my mind about taking care of your well-being, health and safety ”. Then we hugged and he never told me he hated me since.

It's hard to be in control and take on these responsibilities, but it's harder to befriend your child and have to go back to being a parent when you need to put your foot down.

I will share my experience, although I am sure there is a lot of research that can shed more light on this.

I was a single, adoptive mother, working full time outside the home for eight years; then I got married and my husband immediately adopted my daughter.

Before I got married, my daughter asked me frequently asked questions about having a father. She knew many other children who had parents and she wanted to know where hers was, why she couldn't have one now, and what it would be like to have a man living with us. I realized that I longed to be loved by a father and to be 'daddy's girl'. She real

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I will share my experience, although I am sure there is a lot of research that can shed more light on this.

I was a single, adoptive mother, working full time outside the home for eight years; then I got married and my husband immediately adopted my daughter.

Before I got married, my daughter asked me frequently asked questions about having a father. She knew many other children who had parents and she wanted to know where hers was, why she couldn't have one now, and what it would be like to have a man living with us. I realized that I longed to be loved by a father and to be 'daddy's girl'. In fact, he would point me to male prospects when we were out in public and wonder if he would choose one of these men to be his dad. One day, when I was about seven years old, he came to approach a man a few meters from me in the supermarket and ask him if he was married or had children. If not, would you like to marry your mother and be your father? Fortunately, he was a kind man with a sense of humor, so I was spared the aches and pains thanks to my daughter's creative ideas about pairing.

Not long after I got married, I remember my friends asking me if I liked married life. There were many things that I liked about him, but I told them, honestly, that the greatest thing was that I loved not being exhausted all the time since I now had a co-father who shared the responsibilities of parenting. It meant that not only could I enjoy my personal life more, but I was also a better parent as I had more time, attention, and energy to devote just to being with my son. The fun that my husband brought to our family, as well as the physical and material resources, also made my life easier, in general.

Around this time, I asked my daughter if she liked having a dad. She said, "Great!" He seemed happy and at peace to have satisfied this need.

It takes a village to raise a child. My experience taught me that this village must include very close personal relationships with both women and men so that children learn about all kinds of love.

Some parents choose their favorites and the reasons vary. My dad put a lot of pressure on me to be everything he wanted and dreamed of in a daughter because I was his only daughter. His family hadn't had a daughter in over 80 years before me, so I became a family favorite, not just my father's. It was tough and, at times, humiliating. I know there were times when my mother got angry that I received extra attention, and as a result, she was even more resentful of me. I think part of his abusive behavior towards me was due to the amount of extra attention I received from my siblings and even him.

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Some parents choose their favorites and the reasons vary. My dad put a lot of pressure on me to be everything he wanted and dreamed of in a daughter because I was his only daughter. His family hadn't had a daughter in over 80 years before me, so I became a family favorite, not just my father's. It was tough and, at times, humiliating. I know there were times when my mother got angry that I received extra attention, and as a result, she was even more resentful of me. I think part of her abusive behavior towards me was due to the extra attention I received from my siblings and even from her at times. He would often look at me bitterly when I was sitting with my dad and we were bonding.

I hate being the favorite because of the attention and the shower of gifts that made everything uncomfortable with my mom, my brothers and other people. The pressure was also always hard. And then as an adult, I got a lot of confusion for not being good enough for my own father. I lost sleep from hurting or bothering him even a little. I married a man who didn't exactly like me. He had several children that he did not approve of. I joined a religion that made him mad at me and that made me anxious because he wouldn't accept my decisions.

My dad chose me as his favorite because I was his o and daughter

Some parents choose their favorite because they are the smartest, or they have a certain sex that they always wanted, or they are the prettiest, etc.

If a parent has a favorite, they should not let it be known. It is difficult for the favorite, but it is also difficult for the other children to listen and then they may feel resentful towards their own sibling.

Not just parents, all humans get angry and fight with close relatives but not with each other. Similarly, In Kids too. They are not kind to their children or other children. There are many reasons, but actions are a combination of all these reasons knowingly or unknowingly.
1) They are not in a good mood.
2) They think they have a right to do this to their children.
3) He remembers a relative father / mother and that irritates them.
4) The input failures of parents are forced to achieve success in the form of success of their children.
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Not just parents, all humans get angry and fight with close relatives but not with each other. Similarly, In Kids too. They are not kind to their children or other children. There are many reasons, but actions are a combination of all these reasons knowingly or unknowingly.
1) They are not in a good mood.
2) They think they have a right to do this to their children.
3) He remembers a relative father / mother and that irritates them.
4) The input failures of parents are forced to achieve success in the form of success of their children.
5) They may be unable to improve and try to improve children.

6) The desires are infinite, therefore, how much good a son obtains a father, they appreciate the other. Because to appreciate you only have to know the positive points. But to misbehave, even if you know the good part of your son, the bad part comes out front because the father is afraid of repeating the failure in his son's life as well.

Short explanation: Child A gets 60 points on Exam 1 and 90 points on Exam 2.
Child B gets 90 points on Exam 1 and 95 points on Exam 2.

Child A's father scolds: Why are they getting 60? It is a useless brand. Why do you get 90 frames? Look, the neighbor gets 95 marks.

But the real comparison should be. 60 to 90 is 50% Growth is greater effort than 90 to 95.

Listen to your parents. But don't follow them. You are here to do more, better or different in the world.

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