Why do most women have a job but not a career?

Updated on : December 3, 2021 by Phoebe Morris



Why do most women have a job but not a career?

Women sacrifice their careers at the altar of marriage.
A career is not considered a mandatory option for women. A career is a luxury until one is "established" in marriage. Marriage is considered the ultimate goal, not just a major milestone. With marriage, a woman stops being herself, loses herself, and goes to great lengths to become a perfect wife, daughter-in-law, mother, and all that. A race is an afterthought.

Many of us will argue here that empowered women have complete freedom to choose between home and career, and they alone will choose the former.

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Women sacrifice their careers at the altar of marriage.
A career is not considered a mandatory option for women. A career is a luxury until one is "established" in marriage. Marriage is considered the ultimate goal, not just a major milestone. With marriage, a woman stops being herself, loses herself, and goes to great lengths to become a perfect wife, daughter-in-law, mother, and all that. A race is an afterthought.

Many of us will argue here that empowered women have complete freedom to choose between home and career, and they will go with the former on their own. But there is a fundamental fallacy in this argument.
Since we were little we have been trained and we have seen our mothers / grandmothers find their true comfort in a happy home managed by them, that is, we are socially programmed to believe that the home is the maximum responsibility of women and that a man is just a co-inhabitant, not responsible beyond issuing checks. And when it comes time to make a decision, women, in a Pavlovian way, "choose" home over career as a conditioned response. This is anything but a free choice!

The way we are conditioned, if a woman does not prove herself to be an efficient mother / wife / daughter-in-law, she will surely feel guilty. And most of the time it is this guilt that makes her abandon many aspirations and choose an option that keeps her home warm and her heart boiling.

We choose the family over the race. Happiness for the money. We are not greedy and we are satisfied with the little things. We are biologically made to be this way. Nothing can replace the happiness of being a wonderful mother, not even a promising career with tremendous growth and a high salary.

I am not the best person to answer your question. I am an older man and I have more traditional values ​​than the young people of today.

My thinking is that young people must marry first before having children and that BOTH parents are responsible for the upbringing of the child.

Let me start by saying that Family is a word that implies a specific relationship rather than just a group of related people living in one place. For me, a family is a Mother and a Father and their children. Everyone has different roles and different expectations.

I grew up in an intact family. My dad worked and my mom took care

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I am not the best person to answer your question. I am an older man and I have more traditional values ​​than the young people of today.

My thinking is that young people must marry first before having children and that BOTH parents are responsible for the upbringing of the child.

Let me start by saying that Family is a word that implies a specific relationship rather than just a group of related people living in one place. For me, a family is a Mother and a Father and their children. Everyone has different roles and different expectations.

I grew up in an intact family. My dad worked and my mom took care of the house and us children. We weren't rich or privileged, but my parents took care of our needs, our morals, and our values. We had no problems with alcohol or drugs, we did not suffer more violence than would normally be expected in our time. I consider myself lucky.

So, I think that young people should have a clear understanding between them before deciding to start a family. Who will be responsible for what. Children should not carry luggage, leave it with a concierge during the day, enjoy it at night, and store it at night. Children and their upbringing, growth, maturity, who they will become, who they will be, are the main reason for the family; they are not secondary benefits of marriage.

All that said, they always told me: you can pick your nose, but you can't choose your family. Families are dynamic entities, each one has its own peculiarities and problems. Each has its own strengths, weaknesses, vulnerabilities, and capabilities. Therefore, each family has its own needs and its own resources.

Is it wrong for women to put their careers before their families? In my opinion (male or female), your family should always come first, before career, before outside opportunities. Of course, everything is influenced by your resources, capabilities and environment: your circumstances,

Relationships between family members are so fundamental that there is no time or circumstance in which they can take second place.

I believe that a person (man or woman) should decide what he wants from his life before committing himself to a professional or family life. Both are mostly mutually exclusive paths.

Traditionally, in most cultures, men are providers and women nurturers. Both roles are equally important.

Today, these gender roles are not so consistent. The results of non-traditional assignments are mixed.

I believe that regardless of your personal sex assignment, you should seriously consider what you want out of your life. Because your life will affect the future of those who come after you. It really is your legacy that is deciding.

Maybe because:

  • The people available to them do not support the concept of having a working woman as a couple. Those potential partners might require her to stop working and be a full-time homemaker once they get married. Most highly religious communities would fall into this category.
  • They don't want to be forced to give up their ability to take care of themselves, especially if they have children. When it comes to childcare, women are still overwhelmingly the ones who do most of the childcare, even if they are working. And if the marriage or partnership goes wrong, the
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Maybe because:

  • The people available to them do not support the concept of having a working woman as a couple. Those potential partners might require her to stop working and be a full-time homemaker once they get married. Most highly religious communities would fall into this category.
  • They don't want to be forced to give up their ability to take care of themselves, especially if they have children. When it comes to childcare, women are still overwhelmingly the ones who do most of the childcare, even if they are working. And if the marriage or partnership fails, they find themselves unable to support themselves or their children, depending on the ex-partner not ruining them when it comes to meeting alimony / child support payments.
  • They have witnessed what can happen when a woman is completely dependent on someone else to support her financially, either growing up with a mother who couldn't leave a bad relationship / struggling after a divorce or abandonment, seeing friends or family Struggling as single mothers or trapped in abusive relationships who pursue late child support payments because they have no options to support themselves or take lousy jobs that don't pay enough, and they refuse to put themselves in that position. Staying single and starting / maintaining your careers is your solution to avoiding all of that.
  • They were in a relationship that ended badly and put them in a financial hole, and they have decided they don't want to go through that again. They are fine doing it by themselves and maybe occasionally hanging out / socializing for fun, but they don't want a relationship anymore.
  • They want to work because they enjoy their career or vocation, and that is enough for them: their work is their life.

The question says, "What job is better for women?"

This question and all responses that suggest jobs for "women" are sexist.

There is no "best for women"; no, actually, there isn't. It is not possible to answer this question without being prejudiced about women.

If you say that women should dedicate themselves to teaching, you are assuming that they are better teachers than men or that they are not good at anything else. If you are suggesting that women should not join the military, you are assuming that all women are physically weak. One answer even suggested that women shouldn't

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The question says, "What job is better for women?"

This question and all responses that suggest jobs for "women" are sexist.

There is no "best for women"; no, actually, there isn't. It is not possible to answer this question without being prejudiced about women.

If you say that women should dedicate themselves to teaching, you are assuming that they are better teachers than men or that they are not good at anything else. If you are suggesting that women should not join the military, you are assuming that all women are physically weak. One answer even suggested that women should not go into business because it increases the "stress level"; which thus assumes that women cannot tolerate stress.


Every woman, like every man, like every person, is different. If you tell me that women cannot join the military, I will tell you that there are hundreds of men who are not physically fit and many more women who are better physically positioned to join the military.

If you tell me that night work hours are not suitable for women, you are blaming women. Women can work late into the night; the problem is not that they are women, the problem is the increase in the crime rate. Therefore, you should not focus on suggesting to women to stay home at night, you should work to reduce crime rates.


For the OP (and others who have the same question):

If you expected an honest answer, you need to make the following changes to the question: ask about the best job for a particular woman, mentioning the details of the woman you want to meet: such as her qualifications, interests, peculiar challenges. to her; and then ask a question about that particular woman.

If you were asking about women in general, sorry, there is no "best for women." And it has nothing to do with fishing for sexist content like this.

Oh by the way, did you realize that asking what is best for women is like asking what is best for 3 billion people in the world? Is there something suitable for all of them? Seriously?

I have seen in my long life the movement of the needle from "require" to "favor" with respect to jobs. When I worked as a college student in the paper industry, they never hired a woman to handle inputting; something about picking up logs in the river or throwing them from wagons seemed to demand size and strength.

Then my rather younger cousin, Arlys Johnson-Maxwell, became the American record holder in Olympic weightlifting and I realized there was no job she had done that she couldn't have done. At the time of his career, however, he could not have become a St. Paul firefighter.

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I have seen in my long life the movement of the needle from "require" to "favor" with respect to jobs. When I worked as a college student in the paper industry, they never hired a woman to handle inputting; something about picking up logs in the river or throwing them from wagons seemed to demand size and strength.

Then my rather younger cousin, Arlys Johnson-Maxwell, became the American record holder in Olympic weightlifting and I realized there was no job she had done that she couldn't have done. At the time of his career, however, he could not have become a St. Paul firefighter because, although he was able to pass the endurance tests, he did not meet the size requirements.

However, there are still some jobs that favor men, largely because the requirements are more physical, sometimes involving intimidation:

  • Gorilla in a bar. While the guardhouse has definitely been broken down, the person who gets rid of the belligerents is going to go for a guy.
  • Although my dentist is a woman and so is my vet, I have never discovered a plumber who is a woman.
  • I have had my blood drawn at least 100 times in my life (I have been taking warfarin for several years) and I have never seen it drawn by a male medical technician.

Glad most of the jobs have been broken down. I remember when Sir Kenneth Clark opined in his Civilization series that women were not qualified to be sculptors. I married a sculptor who is a skilled welder, stone carver, bronze caster, and ceramic artist. He received a grand award, the McKnight Scholarship, in the last month and once passed a Fulbright marble carving in Pietrasanta, Italy. However, I have not encouraged her to seek a position as a gorilla.

What are the most prestigious professions:

  • Doctors
  • Lawyers
  • University teachers
  • CEO (executive directors)
  • Politicians
  • Fleet Admiral (FADM) - US Navy
  • General of the Army (GOA) - US Army
  • General (Gen) (O10) - US Marine Corps
  • General of the Air Force (GAF) - US Air Force
  • Admiral (ADM) (O10) - US Coast Guard
  • Surgeons
  • Dentists
  • Scientists
  • Opera orchestra musicians
  • Mathematicians
  • Physical
  • Pharmacy
  • President of the United States of America
  • Vice President of the United States of America
  • House Speaker
  • Secretary of state
  • Director of the CIA (Central Intelligence Agency)
  • Director of the FBI (Federal Bureau of Investigation
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What are the most prestigious professions:

  • Doctors
  • Lawyers
  • University teachers
  • CEO (executive directors)
  • Politicians
  • Fleet Admiral (FADM) - US Navy
  • General of the Army (GOA) - US Army
  • General (Gen) (O10) - US Marine Corps
  • General of the Air Force (GAF) - US Air Force
  • Admiral (ADM) (O10) - US Coast Guard
  • Surgeons
  • Dentists
  • Scientists
  • Opera orchestra musicians
  • Mathematicians
  • Physical
  • Pharmacy
  • President of the United States of America
  • Vice President of the United States of America
  • House Speaker
  • Secretary of state
  • Director of the CIA (Central Intelligence Agency)
  • Director of the FBI (Federal Bureau of Investigation)
  • Director of NSA (National Security Agency)
  • Director of DHS (Department of Homeland Security)
  • Director of the Executive Office of United States Attorneys (EOUSA).
  • Director of DOJ (Department of Justice)
  • United States Secretary of Veterans Affairs
  • Director of the Social Security Administration
  • Astronauts
  • Federal judges
  • Chief of police of the forces of order
  • Firefighters Fire Chief

Honestly, I don't think there are a ton of jobs that men do that women can't do. Sure, some really physical jobs that like 95% of women couldn't do without incredible effort, like concrete finishing (carrying two buckets of wet concrete across a job site and seeing how difficult it is to anyone who is not straight muscular or big).

Jobs that are 99% male are jobs that women don't want: spatial / working with hands / dirty / outdoors / “things” oriented versus “people” oriented.

You won't find plumbers in your phone book and you won't find kindergarten teachers in your schools. Men can have tea

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Honestly, I don't think there are a ton of jobs that men do that women can't do. Sure, some really physical jobs that like 95% of women couldn't do without incredible effort, like concrete finishing (carrying two buckets of wet concrete across a job site and seeing how difficult it is to anyone who is not straight muscular or big).

Jobs that are 99% male are jobs that women don't want: spatial / working with hands / dirty / outdoors / “things” oriented versus “people” oriented.

You won't find plumbers in your phone book and you won't find kindergarten teachers in your schools. Men can teach young children, they just don't want to. Women can fix your sink, but they don't want to.

In today's society, a woman should be well settled to pay her own bills. Then only she will get respect and will have the willpower to face any problem, both physical and mental. If you have money and a good job, only your voice has value. Otherwise, both our society and our family give it a zero value. The values ​​of life in the sphere of love, friends, family, the neighborhood or towards society have been diminishing day by day. Everyone is falling behind money, no one cares about our life. In marriage, both husband and wife have jobs, they can give their children a good education, but love and care will be less.

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In today's society, a woman should be well settled to pay her own bills. Then only she will get respect and will have the willpower to face any problem, both physical and mental. If you have money and a good job, only your voice has value. Otherwise, both our society and our family give it a zero value. The values ​​of life in the sphere of love, friends, family, the neighborhood or towards society have been diminishing day by day. Everyone is falling behind money, no one cares about our life. In marriage, both husband and wife have jobs and can give their children a good education, but love and care will be less due to busy life. Here the case of the wife is much more difficult than that of the husband. no pay (instead of this maintenance servant. but for how long? if the servant is good or bad? high salary? ohh tension) and after this his career. Maintaining a superwoman's career and family can do that very well. This is only a brief opinion of part.

I can't think of any work that at least some women can't do.

There are heavy lifting jobs, for example, that would be difficult or impossible for many women, but not for the taller, more athletic, and muscular types. And of course we have machinery to help with tasks like this. Muscle strength is much less of a requirement these days than the brain.

A woman cannot be a sperm donor, of course, but that is not a "job."

There are still many fields of employment that are dominated by men, but which are often rooted in cultural expectations and have little to do with intellectual or practical differences.

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I can't think of any work that at least some women can't do.

There are heavy lifting jobs, for example, that would be difficult or impossible for many women, but not for the taller, more athletic, and muscular types. And of course we have machinery to help with tasks like this. Muscle strength is much less of a requirement these days than the brain.

A woman cannot be a sperm donor, of course, but that is not a "job."

There are still many fields of employment that are dominated by men, but which are often rooted in cultural expectations and have little to do with different intellectual or practical abilities.

The things that unite men and women are greater than those that differentiate them. In general, and with proper training, women can do the same jobs as men.

There are many reasons:

  1. Most women cannot afford not to. In order to pay for the basic necessities and comforts of life, unless your family is rich, everything is at hand in terms of getting a job.
  2. It is a safety net. If the spouse is fired, both of them cannot depend on the job market or the government to prevent them from being thrown out on the streets; having two people working means there is at least one income in case one is laid off.
  3. Many people despise housewives. It's not necessarily a feminist thing, if you want to be a stay at home mom, that's your decision, but a lot of people see it as
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There are many reasons:

  1. Most women cannot afford not to. In order to pay for the basic necessities and comforts of life, unless your family is rich, everything is at hand in terms of getting a job.
  2. It is a safety net. If the spouse is fired, both of them cannot depend on the job market or the government to prevent them from being thrown out on the streets; having two people working means there is at least one income in case one is laid off.
  3. Many people despise housewives. It is not necessarily a feminist thing, if you want to be a housewife, that is your decision, but many people see it as laziness or self-loathing on the basis of gender.
  4. Staying home all the time gets really boring after a while, and getting a career means getting out of the house and interacting with others for a common goal.
  5. Not all women want to get married, so they will have to support themselves.

Among many other reasons.

Being a surrogate mother. At least until they figure out how to implant an embryo into a part of the body that isn't a uterus and make it bloom.

Wet nurse.

I suppose you could also say egg donor, but I think it's more of a charity than a job.

Those are the only things I can think of that can make money off of specific biologically female parts. Just about anything else you can think of at work doesn't require having a uterus, ovaries, or milk ducts, so almost certainly anyone can do it.

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