Why can't I keep a job? I've had 8 jobs in the last 2 years and I always end up getting laid off, and now with my new job they say I'm asking too many questions and I'm not doing well. What I can do?

Updated on : December 3, 2021 by Isobel Hamilton



Why can't I keep a job? I've had 8 jobs in the last 2 years and I always end up getting laid off, and now with my new job they say I'm asking too many questions and I'm not doing well. What I can do?

You just told us about your current job, but what about your last seven?


> Why can't I keep a job?
Are you a good worker?
Are you on time all the time? Are you performing your work above expectations? Do you get along with your boss and coworkers?


> What can I do?
Write down everything you feel you are doing well at your job. Then write down everything you feel you are doing wrong, especially why you have been fired for your last 7 jobs.

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Observe and follow the instructions and try not to ask questions unless absolutely essential. What kind of jobs are these? Are you setting your goals unrealistically high and cheating your way to jobs? Are you the talkative type who only asks questions to start a conversation? Examine your motives each time you open your mouth. Group the questions. If you have three absolutely essential questions, ask them on one trip to your team leader, not three separate trips.

At least you sound persistent. Over time, you will find the balance you need and the right corporate fit unless you are

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Observe and follow the instructions and try not to ask questions unless absolutely essential. What kind of jobs are these? Are you setting your goals unrealistically high and cheating your way to jobs? Are you the talkative type who only asks questions to start a conversation? Examine your motives each time you open your mouth. Group the questions. If you have three absolutely essential questions, ask them on one trip to your team leader, not three separate trips.

At least you sound persistent. Over time, you'll find the balance you need and the right corporate fit, unless you're aiming too high at this point. Good luck!

Do you enjoy what you are doing? Maybe you need to redesign yourself, find a job more suitable to what you know / want to do, the fact that you ask too many questions tells me that you do not know what you were hired for or that you are not sure. .

Currently I am helping a friend who is always fired from her job, she also asks too many questions, she talks like a parrot, which is one of her attributes, I would say because she is very friendly, but sometimes it is too much, she also has the tendency not to let you finish your sentences, it seems that it has lost its center.

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Do you enjoy what you are doing? Maybe you need to redesign yourself, find a job more suitable to what you know / want to do, the fact that you ask too many questions tells me that you do not know what you were hired for or that you are not sure. .

Currently I am helping a friend who is always fired from her job, she also asks too many questions, she talks like a parrot, which is one of her attributes, I would say because she is very friendly, but sometimes it is too much, she also has the tendency not to let you finish your sentences, it seems that it has lost its center.

Hope this helps for self-analysis, good luck!

Hard to say. The questions are great, unless you're asking really dumb people about basic things that you were supposed to already know when they hired you. Questions like that show that you don't know what you're doing and likely made a poor hiring decision and / or misrepresented your qualifications.

What were the 8 jobs? That's a layoff every three months, and it seems a bit strange for someone claiming to own a business in Canada that makes 100k / yr.

Well. Forget about past jobs. I'm worried why someone would comment that you are asking too many questions! How are you supposed to learn something new if you don't ask questions? Plus, by asking questions you show that you are interested and curious, which are definitely wonderful qualities to have in the workplace!

What to do? Keep asking questions as you see fit. If they keep asking you why you ask so many questions, just explain what I wrote above.

Well, first you are not a failure. Some jobs take longer to take over than others. 3 months is just the beginning. You just passed the trial period. Take a deep breath and relax !!!

My last job was very stressful. Sometimes I felt it was too much. So I focused on my homework and looked for ways to do it more easily than they were teaching me. It took me a year to handle it. But I never quit.

If you need help or don't understand something, ask questions. Create a network of people you can trust who will help you when you have questions. Ask your supervisor to explain how to do something

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Well, first you are not a failure. Some jobs take longer to take over than others. 3 months is just the beginning. You just passed the trial period. Take a deep breath and relax !!!

My last job was very stressful. Sometimes I felt it was too much. So I focused on my homework and looked for ways to do it more easily than they were teaching me. It took me a year to handle it. But I never quit.

If you need help or don't understand something, ask questions. Create a network of people you can trust who will help you when you have questions. Ask your supervisor to explain how to do something if you don't understand. Also with the pandemic, it's a bit crazy. Do not give up. Stick to what you know. Be open-minded to new ideas. At the end of the day, drop it off at work and pick it up the next day.

Remember you are working on a career. This job is a stepping stone on your way. Remember what your overall goal is.

One last thing! If you are struggling with your job. Others are too. Find them and make them part of your network.

In addition to the other comments on self-esteem and confidence, I'll add this thought: consider how many different types of jobs there are.

It took me a long time to realize this. He really knew about certain jobs that he sees all the time: doctor, lawyer, cashier, fast food server, CEO of the company, "sanitation engineer", "software engineer" ... More than I can list here, but still considerably less than there. actually they are.

While you are away from home, look at the world in terms of people doing things. When you wake up in the morning, you are lying in a bed that someone made, covered

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In addition to the other comments on self-esteem and confidence, I'll add this thought: consider how many different types of jobs there are.

It took me a long time to realize this. He really knew about certain jobs that he sees all the time: doctor, lawyer, cashier, fast food server, CEO of the company, "sanitation engineer", "software engineer" ... More than I can list here, but still considerably less than there. actually they are.

While you are away from home, look at the world in terms of people doing things. When you wake up in the morning, you are lying in a bed that someone made, under the covers that someone else made. The clock radio next to your bed was made by someone. The electricity that powers you has generators that were built by people and maintained by people, and it travels to you through lines that were installed and maintained by people. You pay for it using systems created by people, and your money (which was created by people, if it is cash) is paid to the people whose job it is to manage it.

As he left his house, someone paved the street. The lines painted on it were painted by someone.

The cars that ride on it were created by someone, not only that, but the car was designed by people, and each part was individually designed by people. The parts were sold by someone who belongs to a someone-owned, someone-run company, with human resources staff helping the employees who do everything from building the actual parts to maintaining the equipment used to make the parts. pieces to the people who care for them. print paychecks every month, which are printed on checks created by some * other * company ... And paychecks are deposited in banks run by people who employ people.

Next time you go to the movies, stick around for the credits. Look at all the people who did something to help make that movie exist. I bet there are jobs on that list that a lot of people haven't even heard of. And yet there are people who do those jobs, fulfill those roles, help make something happen.

It goes on and on. It's easy to see sorts of "high-profile" jobs, but once you start diving, you find an ever-expanding network of interconnected people doing all kinds of very specific individual jobs, not just for a living but also to support. the lives of countless people, both directly and indirectly. It may be cynical to call this the "cog in the machine." It's more like we can all find a role to play in this great system around us.

Ponder if for a while. As the day progresses, keep in mind that everything around you comes from people with work, whether it's the plane flying overhead or the toilet paper and deodorant you use.

Once you understand that, once reality kicks in a bit, ask yourself: are you really incapable of doing * any * of the millions of jobs out there?

You just have to look long enough and think enough about what you want to do. Maybe it's not a job you've heard of yet. But there is a place for you, a place that will be right for who you are.

Above all, don't limit yourself. Why would you do that?

You may have an attitude problem that is affecting you. Be patient with me...

If you feel depressed, you are negative and you think only about your flaws and not your virtues (you have them, believe me, you just have to learn to make them work in your favor) or face your day thinking in advance that you are not good at anything , probably everything else will be tainted by this feeling.

You will not be able to see the sunlight shining through the leaves of the trees or feel the gentle calm of the rain as you dance on the pavement. What you will "see" is the heat and sweat of a hot day or the humidity and cold.

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You may have an attitude problem that is affecting you. Be patient with me...

If you feel depressed, you are negative and you think only about your flaws and not your virtues (you have them, believe me, you just have to learn to make them work in your favor) or face your day thinking in advance that you are not good at anything , probably everything else will be tainted by this feeling.

You will not be able to see the sunlight shining through the leaves of the trees or feel the gentle calm of the rain as you dance on the pavement. What you will "see" is the heat and sweat of a hot day or the damp and cold seeping through your clothes as you walk through the downpour.

If you view things through a negative prism, even good things will seem bad or not as good as they are. Or worse yet, you may not even see them because the prism you are looking through is so dark that you are unable to perceive the colors that are there.

The truth told, life is a mirror of your soul. What you give is what you receive and what you express you perceive. In other words, you will receive from the world exactly what you give it.

If you are stingy, stingy and negative, you will see the world as a cold, greedy and ruthless place.

If you smile, act optimistic, and be positive, you will see the world as a lively, generous, and forgiving place.

Interestingly, while writing this chapter, one of my sisters called to tell me that she was stressed and that she was going to see a therapist. He normally sees life through multi-colored lenses, but he had had several personal experiences that made him realize that humanity has its share of ill-intentioned people. This distorted her inner world, making her doubt her normally positive perception of reality.

Paraphrasing my previous words, I told her that her life was still how she normally perceived it, and that it was only her momentary relapse that was affecting her view of her, and that she should continue to be positive in dealing with what had altered her way of thinking. look. in the world. He took it so seriously that the next day he called me, thanked me, and told me that the world was pink and elegant again. She basically got her own perception of reality back and that's exactly what I've been trying to say ... life is what you perceive of it ... not what it really is.

The reality is how "we" see things and not what they really are. In other words, our perception of reality is a direct reflection of the way we are ourselves. That is why we must eradicate "bad vibes" and "bad feelings" from our system. Not only do they produce "darkness" in our soul, but they also distort the way we view the world around us.

So make up your mind. Forget about your perceptions, smile and have fun, offer to help and do it with a big smile on your face, offer to do the things that most people do not like and do it in an extremely kind way, do not think and do not wish bad to anyone ... and before you know it, you will feel happier and perceive the world as a better place ... no matter what or anyone else!

Take your time. I mean, what's the problem, if you can't do it, I better "can't" do it without taking tension. And I think you can do anything if you give it time.

Let's say, worst case scenario, you couldn't do it and you got fired. At least you won't regret not trying at all! Accept this worst case scenario and think that you will be financially bankrupt forever. Your children will not have a good life and your wife will blame you. Fully accept that this will happen and then you can act without fear. And when you are not afraid only then you act calm and calm and then you will understand things.

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Take your time. I mean, what's the problem, if you can't do it, I better "can't" do it without taking tension. And I think you can do anything if you give it time.

Let's say, worst case scenario, you couldn't do it and you got fired. At least you won't regret not trying at all! Accept this worst case scenario and think that you will be financially bankrupt forever. Your children will not have a good life and your wife will blame you. Fully accept that this will happen and then you can act without fear. And when you are not afraid only then you act calm and calm and then you will understand things.

You had mastered the previous jobs, right? Find out how you did it and apply the same tactics here, learn how to learn. Please read the book The Art of Learning by Waitzkin Josh, you will learn what perseverance can bring you. The author, a great international chess master, tried to learn martial arts. They beat him every day, he limped home every night until one day he could defend and attack those who used to beat him. You're dealing with that pain of being hit and limping home, aren't you? Your pain is imaginary, take the pain and persevere. If you give in, this pain will never go away, but if you persevere, this pain will turn into pleasure.

By the way ... it
seems that you have burned causing extreme fatigue. There is a theory in that book that rest and work should alternate at first. For example, when you run very fast, your heartbeat will increase rapidly. Then when you rest, it will go back to normal, then run and alternate again. As you continue to do this every day, the time that your heartbeat increases will increase and there will come a time when you can run without your heartbeat increasing.

You should rest at work. Then back to work again. Little by little you will get used to the new job. Remember that the lessons learned while learning this work on learning will be useful for more difficult jobs, persevere and little by little you will see that pain turns into pleasure due to the accumulation of personal power called knowledge and skill.

Have you ever heard the story of the "little engine that could"?

Do not judge :) It is the parable of positive thinking.

To me, the fact that you are self-aware enough to ask this question is a sign of your intellect. You are a thinker, a doer, open to making changes that you would like to see in yourself. Therefore, you are not useless. Period. Make sense?

Use your intellect. You described a work situation that is "top-down." In other words, the power (manager) speaks and therefore is. You have the power to;

a) control the amount of power you allow into your own psyche. I know, easier said than d

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Have you ever heard the story of the "little engine that could"?

Do not judge :) It is the parable of positive thinking.

To me, the fact that you are self-aware enough to ask this question is a sign of your intellect. You are a thinker, a doer, open to making changes that you would like to see in yourself. Therefore, you are not useless. Period. Make sense?

Use your intellect. You described a work situation that is "top-down." In other words, the power (manager) speaks and therefore is. You have the power to;

a) control the amount of power you allow into your own psyche. I know, easier said than done, otherwise you wouldn't have asked the question. Be patient, see "b"

b) You can take control of the situation by inserting your own intellect, your power to think. I was a people manager for over 30 years. Like everyone else, I clicked with some people and not others. There were some employees that just annoyed me and some that I really respected and considered highly.

People who annoyed me said things like "that's not my job" or finished their work with the spare time and did not communicate with me, preferring to gossip, play an Internet game or whatever. You don't seem like that kind of person to me. You are conscientious, you want to do your job well. People I really respected came to me with questions, when they had time, when expectations were unclear. You are that kind of person.

It is a shame on your supervisor (s) for not giving you constructive feedback in a constructive way. As they are not able or unwilling to do so, you can take the reins. If they tell you what you did is wrong, ask for details. Tone is everything, and with some people, their own problems can skew their perceptions of tone and they may take it personally. With that being said, it can be helpful to start with something like "I really want to do a great job, could you please take a few minutes to help me do this the way you would like?" People like to have their ego stroked, to be forced to "be the expert" (even if they are not). This can help ease the path to a more positive experience for both of you.

Also, try to find a positive mentor (someone else mentioned this in their answer). Remember, you have the intellect and the desire to improve. Use that. You can try doing that with your supervisor or supervisors you refer to. If you can ask for specific feedback and begin positive communication, you are stroking their egos without “sucking in” and gaining insights that should help improve your self-esteem.

Remember that you have expressed a desire to leave your current position. Therefore, this is a job, not a career for you. It does not define you. Do not let that happen. Learn from this experience, become a wiser person. Even "bad" experiences are great if we take away their education.

I hope this helps! Believe in yourself, I do :)

Congratulations, friend! You have felt what reality could show you in a bitter way and believe me that D-Day can break you into millions of pieces.

Let me tell you a story, a young boy, brilliant with his grades. He showed his mettle on every cross he could. Everyone who knew him was proud of his abilities.

He passed his master's degree with an excellent grade and was ranked in the top group of people in his class. He entered a new corporate world.

Soon, he realized that he is no longer able to cope with speed, failing miserably at all assigned tasks. Nothing was happening, he had all the knowledge but he lacked conf

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Congratulations, friend! You have felt what reality could show you in a bitter way and believe me that D-Day can break you into millions of pieces.

Let me tell you a story, a young boy, brilliant with his grades. He showed his mettle on every cross he could. Everyone who knew him was proud of his abilities.

He passed his master's degree with an excellent grade and was ranked in the top group of people in his class. He entered a new corporate world.

Soon, he realized that he is no longer able to cope with speed, failing miserably at all assigned tasks. Nothing was happening, he had all the knowledge but he lacked the confidence to demonstrate it in the real world. He wasn't doing what he felt he was doing right.

Then came the Day that he feared so much. He had a feeling that he was not fit for the job and should quit. But he gave himself one more chance, but failed miserably. He was first invited to "have a cup of tea" from his boss. He realized that it was the last time he was in that place.

The lesson I learned that night is to feel the real insights. Don't give up, but don't push yourself for what your heart doesn't approve of.

Today you are in such a fast paced world that you have to adapt to your surroundings. They forced me to leave that organization, but the best thing that happened was that in recent months I recognized what I was good at. God always helps those who help themselves.

So yeah, I quit so I joined that firm. But I didn't stop what I understood I was doing better. Today I thank those who made understand this -

Either there are results or there are excuses.

Today I am in a much better place, and the reason is that I was motivated by the traits that I had and I do not regret what I was able to perform correctly.

Writing this answer is my friend a satisfying soul feeling that I have experienced after a long time.

All the best.

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