What should I do when they kick me out (I'm only 15 years old)?

Updated on : December 7, 2021 by Brooke Wells



What should I do when they kick me out (I'm only 15 years old)?

I survived.

They didn't “kick” me out as much as they abandoned me and left me with nowhere to go.

My parents got divorced. Dad was a drunk and an idiot. Mom was addicted to meth, mad at her kids for ruining her fun. I was the older brother with 2 younger sisters to watch out for.

When my parents got divorced they made me choose who my siblings and I would live with. Was 14 years old. All I knew was that I didn't want to live with my father, strict and drunk. And at that moment my mother was in her prime, making me feel like she really wanted us with her. As if she died if we didn't choose her. So I chose my M

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I survived.

They didn't “kick” me out as much as they abandoned me and left me with nowhere to go.

My parents got divorced. Dad was a drunk and an idiot. Mom was addicted to meth, mad at her kids for ruining her fun. I was the older brother with 2 younger sisters to watch out for.

When my parents got divorced they made me choose who my siblings and I would live with. Was 14 years old. All I knew was that I didn't want to live with my father, strict and drunk. And at that moment my mother was in her prime, making me feel like she really wanted us with her. As if she died if we didn't choose her. So I chose my mom.

Of course, what he really wanted was as much child support as possible.

I was the constant target of his abuse. She did and told me things that only now, at 44, am I beginning to resolve. But the worst happened when he was 17 years old. I have never been able to understand what she did.

One night we argued and I left the house. I stayed a few days with a friend. After a few days passed, I was walking around town when I saw my stepfather walking into his work. I really liked him and we had a good relationship. So I called him and he walked to meet me halfway. He had a worried look on his face. Did I ask him what was wrong? Is mom still mad? and other questions. Their responses were brief and lacked real information. It was obvious that he was uncomfortable. So we parted ways.

Later that day I decided to go home. As I was walking down our street I saw the truck of a man with whom my mother had cheated on my stepfather. He was a known drug dealer. The back of the truck was full of boxes and furniture…. OUR FURNITURE.

I was almost in the driveway when my mom's truck and car turned off. The truck passed me, but I waved at my mom's car.

It was getting dark on a gray, drenched Oregon day when it started to rain heavily. My mom pulled her car to the side and rolled her window down. My sisters sat silently in the back. Before I could ask any questions, she explained that she was moving to the coast 2 hours away and that she had no room for me in her new apartment. I was shocked. I asked her where I was supposed to go and she inadvertently named a few friends I should ask to stay with. Knowing that those friends weren't realistic options. I begged him to take me. He handed me $ 3 and told me to get my damaged car out of the driveway so the owner won't charge him for it. She left, leaving me in the dark, pouring rain.

So what I did when they abandoned me was very primary: I survived. For a few days I slept under a small bridge. Then a few days in a park. Then a friend started bringing me food and let me sneak into his parents' shed to sleep at night. It was very cold and I only had one blanket. It brought me more.

A few weeks of sleeping in that cold shed, pretending to arrive early to hang out with my friend every morning so I could have a few bites of breakfast led me to meet his family. One morning, as I was shivering between my pile of blankets, his mom opened the shed door and caught me. She was angry. He grabbed my arm and led me into the house. He yelled for his son and the whole family came into the room. He knew she was dead. He yelled at his son for not telling him I was there. She scolded him for not taking me inside to sleep. hope for!?

From that day until I left the city, I stayed with that family. At first at home on the couch. When my friend's dad got suddenly ill, I moved into a trailer that they set up for me in their backyard so dad could stay on the couch where he was comfortable.

They included me in everything. I called them mom and dad. And when Dad's illness got worse, he grabbed my hand and told me to take care of his son. He wasn't his son, but he treated me like he was. My dad had never been so nice to me. And when Dad died a few days later, I was there, helping to keep my new family together. I had only known them for 4 months.

Six months later, after receiving the insurance money for her husband's death, Mom remembered me talking about my desire to leave town and become a musician. She bought me my first guitar and paid for me and her son to move 2 hours to the big city of Portland.

I am telling this long story because it is important for you, or any child who has been expelled or abandoned by their parents, to know that the other side of survival is kindness and help. It is difficult in the beginning. And terrifying. Lonely. You cry yourself to sleep. You eat shit that is unfit to eat. He loses his pride, self-confidence, identity, and hope. You struggle emotionally, physically, and mentally. But there are people who are willing to welcome it. Survive long enough and you will find a place in a new life with new people who care.

Just survive.

What do you do when your parents kick you out of the house and you are 13 years old?

Thanks for the A2A.

Gee willikers.

Many other good answers so far.

I have no idea if you are in the US or elsewhere. Since I am in the US, I will assume you are here. If you are in another country, you will have to find out.

What you do is hard to say. The background and circumstances of exactly what you mean by "kick you" and everything else that leads to this point, who and what you and your parents are like are relevant.

In the absence of details, objectively or subjectively, this could mean anything.

Some of the

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What do you do when your parents kick you out of the house and you are 13 years old?

Thanks for the A2A.

Gee willikers.

Many other good answers so far.

I have no idea if you are in the US or elsewhere. Since I am in the US, I will assume you are here. If you are in another country, you will have to find out.

What you do is hard to say. The background and circumstances of exactly what you mean by "kick you" and everything else that leads to this point, who and what you and your parents are like are relevant.

In the absence of details, objectively or subjectively, this could mean anything.

Some of the answers are knee-jerk responses that assume that your parents are just bad and evil and that you are completely naive and helpless. Some of the other responses are knee-jerk responses that presume that you are mean and misbehaving and that your parents are perfect, demanding that you change your ways and become obedient and submissive. None of us here know what is happening objectively, or even subjectively. None of us know how competent you or your parents are in dealing with crises, problems, and conflicts. Knowing this last part is important because it indicates how much intervention and from what sources you and / or your parents need and therefore can answer your question of “what do you do”.

A lot of this really depends on what you mean by "kicked out." This is colloquialism, imprecise in both meaning and intention. However, many here interpret it as that your parents ordered you to leave their home, locked you up, threatened to punish or abuse you if you try to return, and told you that this state of inhospitality and unwelcome is indefinite or permanent. In short, your parents banished you or rejected you from your home and family, without any means of support and survival on your own. This is a possible and reasonable interpretation of the term, although it could also be much more casual. We do not know. However, for the sake of this answer, I will follow the general meaning above.

If you are 13 years old in the US, you are considered a "minor child" (someone under the age of 18, who is 18 years old) who must have the proper legal guardianship and supervision of an adult to take responsibility to make decisions for your care, well-being and conduct. Usually the right people who are expected to do this for you are your biological or adoptive parents, or other legally appointed custodial guardians, etc. (which may be extended relatives or others). If the designated parents or guardians fail to fulfill their legal responsibilities, they can get into trouble, they can put you in the care of social services (usually in my big city, foster care), or from time to time, if you are lucky, trust next to trusted relatives or neighbors. In general, This is all done once you contact local law enforcement (in major urban areas, it may be your local police department or sheriff's office), notify your teacher or related staff at your current school, or go to the hospital nearest emergency room and ask for help there, even if it is not a medical situation. Law enforcement agencies, schools and medical personnel (hospitals) are what are known as "mandatory reporters" who, by law and professional ethics, must make efforts to protect and ensure the well-being of (among others) minors at risk, which is you now, legally (again depending on exactly what you mean by "kick him out"). or go to the nearest hospital emergency room and seek help there, even if it is not a medical situation. Law enforcement agencies, schools and medical personnel (hospitals) are what are known as "mandatory reporters" who, by law and professional ethics, must make efforts to protect and ensure the well-being of (among others) minors at risk, which is you now, legally (again depending on exactly what you mean by "kick him out"). or go to the nearest hospital emergency room and seek help there, even if it is not a medical situation. Law enforcement agencies, schools and medical personnel (hospitals) are what are known as "mandatory reporters" who, by law and professional ethics, must make efforts to protect and ensure the well-being of (among others) minors at risk, what are you now,

You should know that usually in the US, very often the usual protocols of government services are to meet up and be reunited with your parents and your family, even if you do not want to live with them again. Not always, but it is common in most cases.

If for some reason you are unwilling or unable to seek help from formal sources such as the ones above, you may try reaching out to your friends, other relatives or family members elsewhere, or to stable and trusted unrelated adults who you think may. help. Hopefully they can provide you with at least some emotional support and other temporary guidance and assistance until you and they can decide on appropriate actions.

Lacking these options or unwilling to move forward with these options, in most major areas of the US, there are fugitive or disposable crisis hotlines. You can call them for help and guidance on what is available in your area.


I also have many, too many, real-life anecdotes of those under 18 who were runaways or discarded. Years ago I volunteered with several small social service organizations, including a couple who cared for exactly this group, runaways or disposables. These organizations that I volunteered with specialized in emergency services for homeless youth. Yes, read that closely to "homeless" youth. Some were on the streets for days, or a week or so. Some were on the streets for many weeks, even months. And some were chronically homeless for years. His existence was not pretty, in fact, downright ugly and brutal.

Some were discarded or fugitives due to family abuse and brutality, either long-term or due to recent changes in the family. Some were rejected due to some circumstances, such as getting pregnant or being revealed as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, or other gender non-conforming. Some had a long history of mental and emotional health problems and did not receive the necessary care and stability for those problems. I heard that some were banished or rejected for specifically religious and cultural reasons, but I have never met any child who had this as a main reason. There are many reasons.

For situations where returning to the original family was not a reasonable option (which was not for most children in these organizations), helping them get off the street and meet their basic needs was difficult, when they did not know anyone . Most did not want to be forced to accept a foster care case or go through the city's service system. Some situations could be remedied relatively quickly, with access to the right support.

It depends on your own circumstances.

I want to answer why both good and bad things have been said about foster care here. I was a foster parent. No matter which system you talk about, there will be two sides ... the good and the bad. And we are assuming that you are in the United States here to give my advice. I don't know how breeding works in other countries. In America, I don't like the reception system. HOWEVER, for YOUR specific situation ... whether you are 13 or 7 or 10 or 16 ... and your parents kick you out, the parenting system will be more good than bad ... the way forward is to inform police. The police will start b

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I want to answer why both good and bad things have been said about foster care here. I was a foster parent. No matter which system you talk about, there will be two sides ... the good and the bad. And we are assuming that you are in the United States here to give my advice. I don't know how breeding works in other countries. In America, I don't like the reception system. HOWEVER, for YOUR specific situation ... whether you are 13 or 7 or 10 or 16 ... and your parents kick you out, the parenting system will be more good than bad ... the way forward is to inform police. The police will start by talking to your parents, but they will probably involve CPS (child protective services) or whatever it is called in your state. The mandate of most parenting situations is to find family friends or relatives first, You can volunteer to take the kids. Sometimes the problem is that you want to stay in your school district with your friends and there are no relatives there, sometimes it is that your parents have exhausted their welcome with the neighbors, who will no longer help them IN ANY KIND, even taking you join.

Sometimes it's just that you did something WRONG that caused your parents to kick you out. EVEN IF WHAT YOU DID WAS WRONG, there are usually many other things parents MUST try before expelling you, and in the process of trying all of these things, you may have had an idea of ​​what might be available should they come to the end of your rope. Maybe they failed their last rehab ... or they need to protect their siblings or pets from their behavior ... whatever it is, I'm sure they TRIED something else before they got to the "kick the kid" stage. , that could have done. given an idea of ​​the options. And if you've come to your last option, then YOU call the police, because again, maybe the police and CPS can help you find a suitable place to stay.

SOMETIMES, it's that you did something that your parents think is wrong, but you can't or don't want to stop doing it ... like you've decided to tell people that you're gay, or that you're dating someone in a different way. religion, and you disagree with your parents' approach to homosexuality or interfaith dating ... SO they kicked you out. Well again, if you are a minor, then your recourse is to find the police or CPS and get them to help you. The police would start by talking to your parents and perhaps finding out if there is a way to mediate the situation so that you can safely stay home ... but you will also want a list of potential families where you could safely stay. Neighbors, perhaps, or your parents' ex-spouse. Or a grandmother or an aunt or an uncle.

Parenting situations are often temporary and it is difficult to learn the rules of a new home and learn to live within them. For example, where are the glasses of water kept and are children allowed to buy snacks for themselves? When do they do their homework and how do they wash their clothes? Who does the dishes and the kids REALLY do all of these chores? You'll want to tell the people at CPS if you have allergies so they don't put you in a house where there are cats if you have a cat allergy, or warn your adoptive family to keep peanuts out of your food if they don't want to meet in the living room. of emergencies. The police (or CPS) will probably help you pack some of your clothes if they can ... But there are times when children end up in foster care where foster families pay for a completely new wardrobe for the children ... be prepared, because it is NOT a high-end wardrobe. No host family has enough money to buy a ton of new clothes at your favorite expensive store ... (SO ... if you get a chance to buy just a FEW things from your parents' house, make sure you buy the nikes faces and your favorite jacket ... your good pants and ... well, just the things that are your favorites first. THEN make sure you have enough underwear and socks to last you at least a week between washes.) in trying to get your parents to give them their cell phone ... if they pay for the service, They may turn it off and ALLOW to do so, having a cell phone is a privilege, not a right, so if you don't have one, no one in the adult world is going to be very understanding. be sure to grab the expensive nikes and your favorite jacket ... your nice pants and ... well, just the things that are your favorites first. THEN make sure you have enough underwear and socks to last at least a week between washes. ) Don't bother trying to get your parents to give you their cell phone ... if they pay for the service they may turn it off and ALLOW them to do so, having a cell phone is a privilege, not a right, so if not you have one, no one in the adult world is going to be very understanding. be sure to grab the expensive nikes and your favorite jacket ... your nice pants and ... well, only the things that are your favorites first. THEN make sure you have enough underwear and socks to last at least a week between washes. ) Don't bother trying to get your parents to give you their cell phone ... if they pay for the service they may turn it off and ALLOW them to do so, having a cell phone is a privilege, not a right, so if not you have one, no one in the adult world is going to be very understanding.

Which brings me to another problem ... whether you've repeatedly refused to do homework, or been picky about electronics, or ... well, any of the other things some kids can do ... just understand that it is POSSIBLE that your parents are trying to teach you a lesson by kicking you out and discovering that the rest of the world does NOT have access to all these things, that ALL children have to do their homework, that dessert, ice cream, sports, mobile phones, television or iPods. It is NOT your right to have them, it is your parents' right to choose whether or not you have them. And other things ... things that sometimes we consider essential ... a bed, a dresser, a lot of clothes in the closet ... sometimes even a door in the bedroom ... these are ALSO not essential. And I have known some parents who had to remove ALL of those things so that the children would listen and begin to act correctly. If you are destroying your clothes and hiding them, refusing to wash them ... it is VERY possible that your parents want to give you an outfit a day, give you privacy ONLY in the bathroom long enough to bathe and dress ... and as long as they give you eat, equip you with clothes and a place to bathe and change, and get you to school on time, it is VERY possible that they are doing everything they need to do, in your jurisdiction, to be "good" parents. . And it is ALSO very possible that they are doing this to try to get you to behave. give you privacy ONLY in the bathroom for long enough to bathe and dress ... and whenever you are fed, equip you with clothes and a place to bathe and change, and get you to school on time, it is VERY possible that they are doing everything they need to do, in their jurisdiction, to be "good" parents. And it is ALSO very possible that they are doing this to try to get you to behave. give you privacy ONLY in the bathroom for long enough to bathe and dress ... and as long as you are fed, outfitted with clothes and a place to bathe and change, and taken to school on time, it is VERY possible that be doing whatever you need to do, in your jurisdiction, to be "good" parents. And it is ALSO very possible that they are doing this to try to get you to behave. in their jurisdiction, to be "good" parents. And it is ALSO very possible that they are doing this to try to get you to behave. give you privacy ONLY in the bathroom for long enough to bathe and dress ... and as long as you are fed, outfitted with clothes and a place to bathe and change, and taken to school on time, it is VERY possible that be doing whatever you need to do, in your jurisdiction, to be "good" parents. And it is ALSO very possible that they are doing this to try to get you to behave. in their jurisdiction, to be "good" parents. And it is ALSO very possible that they are doing this to try to get you to behave. give you privacy ONLY in the bathroom for long enough to bathe and dress ... and as long as you are fed, outfitted with clothes and a place to bathe and change, and taken to school on time, it is VERY possible that be doing whatever you need to do, in your jurisdiction, to be "good" parents. And it is ALSO very possible that they are doing this to try to get you to behave. equip you with clothes and a place to bathe and change, and get you to school on time, it is VERY possible that they are doing everything they need to do, in their jurisdiction, to be "good" parents. And it is ALSO very possible that they are doing this to try to get you to behave. equip you with clothes and a place to bathe and change, and get you to school on time, it is VERY possible that they are doing everything they need to do, in their jurisdiction, to be "good" parents. And it is ALSO very possible that they are doing this to try to get you to behave.

NOW ... the ONLY thing they are NOT supposed to do, without much advance planning, is kick you out. And planning would involve having a place to go, like a mom might kick a kid out and send him to his dad's house ... or the parents of a kid caught abusing his younger siblings might kick him out to force the system. to take the child to psychiatric treatment. These kinds of issues tend to be much bigger than a simple situation where you come home from band practice one day and your parents are packed up and saying "you're out" ... much bigger than just having an argument. and your parents show it to you. the door and tell you never to come home again. This material does not come as a surprise, and if it does,

Let me repeat that ... THIS THING IS NOT SHOWN AS A SURPRISE. And if it does, something is seriously wrong. Time to call the police or CPS. Or both.

And don't be afraid of the host system. Like life, it has good and bad things. The good news is that there are many people willing to give a child a roof over his head and 3 full meals a day, a place to do his homework and come home after school ... for as long as it takes for the parents. to put their acts together. There are OTHER places that are willing to adopt even some of the children who pass their houses, making you their son, officially ... not kickable. Some of it will have to do with you, whether you can handle it or not ...

But for now ... please ... just call the police.

I'm going to be tough here because my mother did the same thing to me once.

Go home, ask for an opportunity to discuss problems, apologize, change your attitude, change your behavior.

But, before you do all that ... take a look at what lives on the streets. Dirty, unshaven, lice, toothless, scabbed and scary people. Some will grab you for sex; others may use it for money. Some will rob you; few will help you. Nothing good comes from living on the street.

Better yet, before heading home, take a walk through a Walmart.

See that old man hunched over storing shelves? Look at that cashier with the dark

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I'm going to be tough here because my mother did the same thing to me once.

Go home, ask for an opportunity to discuss problems, apologize, change your attitude, change your behavior.

But, before you do all that ... take a look at what lives on the streets. Dirty, unshaven, lice, toothless, scabbed and scary people. Some will grab you for sex; others may use it for money. Some will rob you; few will help you. Nothing good comes from living on the street.

Better yet, before heading home, take a walk through a Walmart.

See that old man hunched over storing shelves? See that cashier with dark circles under her eyes? Oh look at the women who work the returns desk. She does nothing but listen to customers complain and complain all day. He hates his job. I've been living paycheck to paycheck every day. His feet are swollen, his head hurts. She wants nothing more than to go home. But she can't. She did not finish high school. You have tons of bills, worries, and debts. She is trapped in a job that is killing her.

Is that the life you really want?

I have no idea what your home life is like, but anything is better than being 14 and living on the streets. At 14, you won't be able to support yourself. Nobody will hire you. So, you probably go back to crime. Eventually, you will be caught. You will be placed in a children's home.

If you think you had arguments with your mother, wait until you land in a room full of other evildoers.

Trust me, it's not the life you want.

What's that? You don't know the definition of "wrongdoer." So you certainly need to go home. Ask your mom to sit down and look up that word in a dictionary. And then gather the courage to ask for another chance.

And if your mother gives you another chance, take it, full of gratitude.

Being a parent does not mean that a mother or father should spend their life dealing with a teenager who does nothing but bring drama, chaos, and stress into their lives. If your mother has thrown you out on the street, she is separating from you. Try to make amends and create a better life because you have many long and difficult years ahead of you.

And if you like drugs or alcohol, then ... good on your mother for kicking you out. And if your mother uses drugs or alcohol, then you need to find a Ala-Teen meeting and sit down and watch it. For 60 minutes, shut your mouth and listen to other children share their stories. You may hear something that could change your life.

Trust me, there will come a time when you need someone to help you carry the load. When that time comes, your mother will most likely be the only one available.

Focus on yourself and try to remember: you are not the only one with problems, attitudes and chaos. Your mother may also be dealing with some terrible problems. Without a doubt, she is physically and emotionally exhausted. Obviously, the latest argument has pushed her to the limit.

Acknowledge and show your compassion; she will show you the same. Work together to eliminate the negatives and start looking for positives. At first, it seems a lot to change your behavior. But, if you do it just for today, one day at a time, it will come.

So, get out of Quora and try to contact your mother. But before you do, talk to God. Ask for guidance. Don't tell him what YOU want. Ask him to show you what he wants. Be patient. Rome was not built in a day. And neither was a mother-child relationship. We all make mistakes. We learn from them.

Take a chance and admit that you may have had a part in your mother's decision. Take the first step. The rest will be easier, I promise.

Blessings to you on this silent night!

I'm going to guess you're in the US If that's not the case, my advice may be worth nothing.

The first response he received told him to go to Social Services. If you think your mother is serious about you, you need to get there now before it gets worse. At this point, they may be able to provide and / or coordinate family counseling, individual counseling, and perhaps even respite care.

At the very least, you need individual advice at this time. A mother who tells you she doesn't love you and an alcoholic father gives you a lot to work with. The sooner the process starts

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I'm going to guess you're in the US If that's not the case, my advice may be worth nothing.

The first response he received told him to go to Social Services. If you think your mother is serious about you, you need to get there now before it gets worse. At this point, they may be able to provide and / or coordinate family counseling, individual counseling, and perhaps even respite care.

At the very least, you need individual advice at this time. A mother who tells you she doesn't love you and an alcoholic father gives you a lot to work with. The earlier you start the process of dealing with it, the more time you have to live a happy life. If you feel like you prefer to avoid social services, you can try your high school counselor.

As you get counseling and try to work out your problems with your mother, start planning for the worst case scenario. If there are friends or relatives who could take you in even for a little while, you can start talking to them. If things are really volatile in your home, you could even put together a "bug dump bag" with a change of clothes, essential toiletries, cash, and anything else you absolutely can't live without.

You want to avoid living on the streets at all costs and if you cannot find someone who will allow you to live with them, then you are looking for a foster home. Trust me, you don't want to land in a foster home. If you can come to terms with your mother, as painful as it may be, it really is the easiest way out of this.

This drama does not define your life and as much as it will shape the next few years, as there is a life beyond. Just keep that in mind, because above all else, you need to make sure that no matter what decisions you make, you don't close the doors for yourself later in life. Stay in school, protect your health, and stay on the right side of the law. Good luck for you!

Most states in the US make it illegal for a minor (one under the age of 18) to be expelled by their guardians. So if this is the case, I would say the first thing to do is go to the police.

If that's not the case, I would tell you to contact your high school if you attend one. They will likely have resources and support for you to use and contact. You're probably better off graduating from high school, as finding a job and getting into college (if you want to) will be so much easier. On top of that, most schools offer free or inexpensive transportation meals.

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Most states in the US make it illegal for a minor (one under the age of 18) to be expelled by their guardians. So if this is the case, I would say the first thing to do is go to the police.

If that's not the case, I would tell you to contact your high school if you attend one. They will likely have resources and support for you to use and contact. You're probably better off graduating from high school, as finding a job and getting into college (if you want to) will be so much easier. On top of that, most schools offer free or inexpensive transportation meals.

The next step is to find a place to stay. Talk to the school, ask a friend, find an affordable place, etc.

It is very important to get a job in order to be self-sufficient. Graduating from high school can get you higher paying jobs and make it easier to hire, but you can still find jobs without graduating. Make sure you don't fall short and strive for jobs that you enjoy to some degree. Also, find out how you are going to get from one place to another.

For food, schools often offer free breakfast and lunch if eligible. But, you also need to stock up on non-perishable foods (canned, raw rice / beans, etc.), as well as common foods used every day for cooking (eggs, oil, etc.) and kitchen utensils (pans, pots, etc.). Farm products are very cheap (like bananas), so they are worth it (they are also good for your health)! Try to stay away from fast food and restaurants, as they can increase costs over time and long-term dependency can be detrimental to your health. (Also, if you practice cooking, you will gain some skills that will help you in the long run.) Keep in mind that the less effort it takes to make something and produce, the cheaper it will be (for example,

Budget and control your money, use it wisely! Also try to see it in abundance rather than scarcity. Keep believing that your life will get better and that you will receive more money and joy. If you have a positive mind, things will get better! You got it!!! If you need help or support, reach out to friends or adults you trust.

THIS is not an easy situation by any means. You say it's very explosive. And you expect me to literally kick you out at any moment.

YOU need to start getting better grades. You need to have a stiff upper lip. Squeeze and hold.

WHEN you turn 16, go out and look for a job. You can only get a part-time job, but it will get you out of that house. Part-time means you will work after school, on weekends, and during summer school vacations. It will put some money in your pockets, it will help you make new friends at work. It will take your mind off your problems at home. At least for the moment

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THIS is not an easy situation by any means. You say it's very explosive. And you expect me to literally kick you out at any moment.

YOU need to start getting better grades. You need to have a stiff upper lip. Squeeze and hold.

WHEN you turn 16, go out and look for a job. You can only get a part-time job, but it will get you out of that house. Part-time means you will work after school, on weekends, and during summer school vacations. It will put some money in your pockets, it will help you make new friends at work. It will take your mind off your problems at home. At least for the moment. Parents cannot start collecting rent until age 18. But keep in mind that if your parents are struggling financially, they can expect you to help them with their weekly paycheck. Not all families operate on the same system as others, so I cannot guarantee that you will be exempted from this. I'm just warning that it might come up and be ready for it ...

At 4:00 p.m., go to your vocational counselor's office at your school. Request a work order permit form. Take it home, fill it up. Have one of your parents sign it. Then return it to your guidance counselor's office. It stays there permanently. It becomes part of your school records. When you get a job. Ask your school counselor's office to fax this to your new employer. When you read this document, it tells you that your parents approve of you working. But it also gives him permission to hire you.

When you turn 18, if things don't go better at home, you can always move out. Pay a rent to a landlord. Find your own way. When you are 18 years old, if your grades are good, then you will have the opportunity to join driver's education classes, to help you get your driver's license ID. That becomes your permanent identification. And you can use it to show your proof of age and your address.

Save your money the best you can. Because there will be things you might want to do in the future.

For example, if you think you could move out of your house, get your own rent. With a landlord. The landlord will want to see your paycheck stub receipts from your work. You will need to see at least 6 months to at least one year of employment. The longer you stay at your job, the better things will show up in your eyes. This immediately shows him that you are a responsible person. You're working. You are not fooling around or fooling around.

After completing the rental application, when approved, you are expected to pay one month's rent + one month's security deposit. They both paid together. All rentals are for a full year. All rentals must be paid in cash only.

The security deposit is not supposed to be used to pay the rent. It is for the landlord's use. In case you damage their property. The landlord can use the security deposit to repair his property. If the damages are serious, the landlord can sue you in small claims court to get the extra money you need.

Try to find a rental in a guest house, because utilities are included in the rent. In a pension, you will have your own bedroom. But you will share the kitchen and bathroom with other people who are renting rooms from the landlord.

Everyone is expected to take care of themselves. Buy your own food, cook your own meals, clean up after yourself. Buy your own clothes, wash your own clothes, etc. Take care of your bedroom so it doesn't look like a pigsty.

If you are trying to get an apartment, you will have to pay the utility bill in addition to the rent. And it could be more expensive than the other.

Not all landlords agree to sublet the apartment because if at any time the other tenant decides to skip the rent, it means they are stuck with the entire bill.

If you plan to go to college, keep your job. You will be surprised how useful it will be to have as you age. You don't have to stay at the same job your entire life. It's just a stepping stone until you feel like moving towards something better.

In the meantime, try not to let him get mad at you. Try to avoid all confrontation altogether. Always have your manners, always show respect, be honorable. Always strive to do the best you can. If things get out of hand, try taking your dog for a walk around the block. Fresh air will help you feel better. Make sure to bring your house keys and your cell phone in case they decide to leave the house, they don't know you are gone. They close the house. And come home. You have to be able to enter your house. Get the dog to drink water. And if you have any homework, you have to do it.

IF things get complicated, don't push him back, go to your police, they will arrest you for child abuse if you are 15 years old. He can't legally kick you out. You are a minor. But, in some cases, it could still happen. Your parents are responsible for you until you are 18 years old. When you are considered a full grown adult.

If you are concerned about something, you feel uncomfortable talking to the police, contact your local social worker (DSS) in your community. She has a wealth of resources that can be helpful to you. To get your phone number, contact the court clerk's office at your city hall. Information is public information, anyone can request it. Make sure to give only your phone number. And when it's the best time to talk to her ... you want to be able to talk to her privately. So you don't feel pressured that someone can overhear your conversation with her about your family life at home.

You have two options. Grow up and obey your parents. It is your home so are your rules. You know they did this because they love you and want you to be a better person. I know as a father and grandfather that we want the best for our children. We want our children to be better than us. There is something called wisdom. If only I knew then what I know now is a little wisdom. We learn from our mistakes and try to trick our children into not making the same mistake. When I was even younger, you had a lot of problems at school. In eighth grade I was sent to a rehab center that was

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You have two options. Grow up and obey your parents. It is your home so are your rules. You know they did this because they love you and want you to be a better person. I know as a father and grandfather that we want the best for our children. We want our children to be better than us. There is something called wisdom. If only I knew then what I know now is a little wisdom. We learn from our mistakes and try to trick our children into not making the same mistake. When I was even younger, you had a lot of problems at school. In the eighth grade I was sent to a rehabilitation center which was a school for juvenile delinquents who could not cope with society. I had to earn my way back to school. I was sent to the office more than 80 times in a year. For fights and a multitude of problems. I never told my children any of that. Both of my sons did amazing in school and college. I couldn't be more proud. I was a jerk to them and the school etc. I even told them they would play a team sport a year. This will train them to be good winners and good losers, play as a team, and learn to get along with others.

The other option is to stay alone and fight like hell. The world is not a great place for young people without an education or a life plan. If I were, you earn your way home, respect your parents and do what they ask of you. There you will find a better teenage world. Always remember that if they didn't love you, they wouldn't have cared enough to do so. I can tell you that it is not easy for them. Tough love is the hardest thing a father can do, except bury his son. Good luck

What should you do? Well, you're starting early, at only 14 your mom is already kicking you out. What are you trying to do ? There is a saying: we reap what we sow! Basically it means if we plant tomatoes we usually get big red tomatoes, that is our expectation. It looks like you are planting lemons and waiting for roses! You basically get what you work for. You can't say you couldn't see this coming. It's what you chose. Moms don't kick children out because life is wonderful. If you want that to change, it HAS to start with you. You're in charge . Mom's house was hers before you were born. She loved

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What should you do? Well, you're starting early, at only 14 your mom is already kicking you out. What are you trying to do ? There is a saying: we reap what we sow! Basically it means if we plant tomatoes we usually get big red tomatoes, that is our expectation. It looks like you are planting lemons and waiting for roses! You basically get what you work for. You can't say you couldn't see this coming. It's what you chose. Moms don't kick children out because life is wonderful. If you want that to change, it HAS to start with you. You're in charge . Mom's house was hers before you were born. She loved you, cared for you, and you did something that was not so lively or loving to her, probably more than a few times, so she got lost in you. What should you do? Find a place to live and support yourself, or have a negotiation with your mom. That would start with a huge apology, go on to convince her that she understands exactly how her daughter hurt her by doing these things, ask her forgiveness and get her room back and promise to change her ways. Plant roses, I promise you will get roses. Tell him if you mess up again, you will wait until 18, because there is no place like Dorothy's home!

This is a time when good friends show their true colors. I can appreciate that this is difficult and it is necessary to have real listeners with a heart. And keep your mind clear as staying home can be HELL too, so no matter how emotional you are, you can't afford to waste your time getting angry and excited as you need to ACT based on the research.

Maybe you have family and friends? Even if you could sleep on his couch and leave your computer there? You need an anchor, but always be ready to help in return. Never just drink. It is a very delicate situation. Grandparents needing help? There is a fa

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This is a time when good friends show their true colors. I can appreciate that this is difficult and it is necessary to have real listeners with a heart. And keep your mind clear as staying home can be HELL too, so no matter how emotional you are, you can't afford to waste your time getting angry and excited as you need to ACT based on the research.

Maybe you have family and friends? Even if you could sleep on his couch and leave your computer there? You need an anchor, but always be ready to help in return. Never just drink. It is a very delicate situation. Grandparents needing help? Is there a farm that needs help? It's time to see all the options ... I wish you the best, who knows that one day you may start a youth shelter to help others, you know that life is strange that way, you think this problem exists and then you learn a whole new set of skills to help others? Take heart, my dear ... it is not easy for many people to find their way.

Quora and there are other similar predicaments like yours here. Did you read all the other answers first? Honestly, when you have this coming up, you need to be in war mode and do as much research as you can on how people survive this. I suggest you read the other responses to similar parents who decide to let their children go to the streets. There are some parents who have to do it because of the stories I hear, but then there are parents who are not fulfilling their duties as parents.

I don't know your situation, those variables are missing ... but if you are not sure here, in a peaceful abode, parents can re-convert their offspring ... I have also tried to be a good citizen in the family ... then you should grow up really fast and take legal action and seek legal help ... Who knows you can at least have some time to fix your life while parents pay for your food and board? and see if a lawyer would take your case, you should try first ... because I really believe that a child should be protected and not thrown to the wolves ...

You should quickly Google child protection and talk to the agencies that can help you / young people too, as that is their job.

I hope it gave you time and warned you before this event. I hope you have a job. I'm also not sure if you are in school ... but first you need a safe home without drugs and addictions, you need a clear mind.

Go to any school, government agency, church or service focused on children ... any institution that serves children and ask for advice.

I don't understand this much since my mother is still upset since I left home for my first job… so the irony?

I also left home at 14 years old. It was not the first time. The first time I was 12 years old. He slept under some bushes at night and wandered from one school friend to another. Finally, the friends' parents wouldn't let me go anymore, so I stayed under the bushes. I didn't eat for 3 days so I decided to go home and plan my next outing. I started babysitting on the weekends and got a job moving hamburgers. I had to lie about my age, but I needed to learn to work and this was a practice job. At 14 I met a boy who was a stepson and was being abused. We hatched a plan that would drive us away

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I also left home at 14 years old. It was not the first time. The first time I was 12 years old. He slept under some bushes at night and wandered from one school friend to another. Finally, the friends' parents wouldn't let me go anymore, so I stayed under the bushes. I didn't eat for 3 days so I decided to go home and plan my next outing. I started babysitting on the weekends and got a job moving hamburgers. I had to lie about my age, but I needed to learn to work and this was a practice job. At 14 I met a boy who was a stepson and was being abused. We made a plan that would alienate us from our families but keep a roof over our heads. We got married (my dad said if I did this I could never go home) as soon as we settled into an apartment, my husband enlisted in the Service. I got a stipend check every month and then got a job in a hotel washing glasses. I couldn't go back to school for two years. Then I went back until I got old. Then I got my GED. I worked, bought furniture, and saved money. When my husband's Service Tour ended, we parted ways. I continued studying and working. At 19 I bought my first house and the rest is history. So my advice is to stay home unless it's absolutely unbearable. Don't leave home without a plan for your future. Don't stay in the gutter. Always have a job before leaving the job you have. When you get a new job, make sure it pays more than the job you have now. Never look back, only forward. Buy a home asap and never think about giving it up. Pray a lot. Go to school again for two years. Then I went back until I got old. Then I got my GED. I worked, bought furniture, and saved money. When my husband's Service Tour ended, we parted ways. I continued studying and working. At 19 I bought my first house and the rest is history. So my advice is to stay home unless it's absolutely unbearable. Don't leave home without a plan for your future. Don't stay in the gutter. Always have a job before leaving the job you have. When you get a new job, make sure it pays more than the job you have now. Never look back, only forward. Buy a home asap and never think about giving it up. Pray a lot. Go to school again for two years. Then I went back until I got old. Then I got my GED. I worked, I bought furniture and saved money. When my husband's Service Tour ended, we parted ways. I continued studying and working. At 19 I bought my first house and the rest is history. So my advice is to stay home unless it's absolutely unbearable. Don't leave home without a plan for your future. Don't stay in the gutter. Always have a job before leaving the job you have. When you get a new job, make sure it pays more than the job you have now. Never look back, only forward. Buy a home asap and never think about giving it up. Pray a lot. I continued studying and working. At 19 I bought my first house and the rest is history. So my advice is to stay home unless it's absolutely unbearable. Don't leave home without a plan for your future. Don't stay in the gutter. Always have a job before leaving the job you have. When you get a new job, make sure it pays more than the job you have now. Never look back, only forward. Buy a home asap and never think about giving it up. Pray a lot. I continued studying and working. At 19 I bought my first house and the rest is history. So my advice is to stay home unless it's absolutely unbearable. Don't leave home without a plan for your future. Don't stay in the gutter. Always have a job before leaving the job you have. When you get a new job, make sure it pays more than the job you have now. Never look back, only forward. Buy a home asap and never think about giving it up. Pray a lot. Buy a home asap and never think about giving it up. Pray a lot. Buy a home asap and never think about giving it up. Pray a lot.

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