What if you were pregnant with a man you no longer love?

Updated on : January 17, 2022 by Elijah Mccoy



What if you were pregnant with a man you no longer love?

You think of a new human being, unable to choose, who is about to have a choice for him or her. Will this child have a father in his life? Children love their moms and dads. Children want a dad to learn from. Girls want a male model to choose a good partner one day.

You are choosing to create a life, but you are not thinking about the responsibility of that new life, only about your own pleasure. You loved the man or you didn't, but you were willing to have sex and risk getting pregnant. So now it's not about you anymore. There is a new person to think about.

If you can't be happy with the father of the

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You think of a new human being, unable to choose, who is about to have a choice for him or her. Will this child have a father in his life? Children love their moms and dads. Children want a dad to learn from. Girls want a male model to choose a good partner one day.

You are choosing to create a life, but you are not thinking about the responsibility of that new life, only about your own pleasure. You loved the man or you didn't, but you were willing to have sex and risk getting pregnant. So now it's not about you anymore. There is a new person to think about.

If you cannot be happy with the father of the baby, consider adopting the baby from a married couple who cannot have children but can be good parents. You will make three lives much better.

There seems to be a lot of confusion these days about "love." Love is not a feeling of overwhelming passion, or the feeling that you MUST be with your loved one. Love is what you do, day after day, day after day, to take care of your mutual responsibilities, which includes responsibility towards the child you conceived together. During pregnancy, hormonal changes wreak havoc on your emotions and are not a reliable guide.

Is the baby's father kind? Is he understanding how you feel physically? Is it useful with housework? Does it do little things like put gas in your car for you? Make th

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There seems to be a lot of confusion these days about "love." Love is not a feeling of overwhelming passion, or the feeling that you MUST be with your loved one. Love is what you do, day after day, day after day, to take care of your mutual responsibilities, which includes responsibility towards the child you conceived together. During pregnancy, hormonal changes wreak havoc on your emotions and are not a reliable guide.

Is the baby's father kind? Is he understanding how you feel physically? Is it useful with housework? Does it do little things like put gas in your car for you? Wash the dishes? If it does, you have a guardian, so thank your lucky star for that.

If you have anger problems, if it is bad, if you express that you do not love the baby, then you are better off without it. But you will have to make sure that he is responsible for helping to support the child.

All the best!

This is a tough question. Perhaps, of course, you don't expect to get an answer from a 20-year-old single mom.

I got pregnant with the man I loved and who did not love me.

Despite all that, I still embraced motherhood with grace. When I became a mother, that's when I learned what true love really feels like; You don't need any other kind of love when you experience the love that motherhood has to offer.

It is a love that lasts a lifetime.

(My beautiful daughter Franzene)

It has nothing to do with caring, loving, and being a loving parent to the child. I was married to someone I didn't love for 19 years, raised my 2 kids and it didn't matter. They didn't know until I divorced him. A father owes his children the best care and life possible, loving the other parent has nothing to do with the children or loving them. When are people going to stop being selfish and think about the lives they have created?

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Well here you have your option

  1. Break up and have the baby, raise the baby as a single mother.
  2. Break and if possible have an abortion.
  3. You break up with him, you have the baby and you give him up for adoption.
  4. You stay with him, you have the baby and you are stuck in a loveless relationship.

But before doing anything, you need to think about what you really want, what you can cope with.

I would still love the beautiful angel with all my heart and soul. It has nothing to do with the baby if I no longer love his father. I would be the best mom I can be and take care of the baby the best I can, just like my other children.

If she did not plan for the child, she would terminate the pregnancy.

If I was approaching 40 and had no children and wanted a child, I would.

If you intend to keep the child, you must tell the man so he can help with the child support.

No one can tell you what to do. But you asked what I would do like this ...

For every question like this that comes from a man on Quora, I see at least ten questions from women who have been dumped by their boyfriends after finding out they are pregnant.

Here you are trying to do the right thing and your ex wants nothing to do with you. It seems that you not only want to participate in and support her life during this pregnancy, but you also want to participate in the life of this child.

In fact, this is a shitty situation and I feel sorry for you. But I'm also proud of you for being a man and not running away.

First, are you sure you plan to keep the baby?

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For every question like this that comes from a man on Quora, I see at least ten questions from women who have been dumped by their boyfriends after finding out they are pregnant.

Here you are trying to do the right thing and your ex wants nothing to do with you. It seems that you not only want to participate in and support her life during this pregnancy, but you also want to participate in the life of this child.

In fact, this is a shitty situation and I feel sorry for you. But I'm also proud of you for being a man and not running away.

First, are you sure you plan to keep the baby?

Now, unlike what everyone else is saying here about respecting your limits and giving yourself space, etc., I am not going to recommend that course of action. Not completely. I think you should keep an invitation open so that she knows that you are there for her. You should check in with her periodically just to let her know that you care and are thinking about her. That is all.

Don't suffocate, pressure, petition, or stalk her, but maybe check back once a month to see how she's doing. Approach her with empathy. She's going through the wringer here emotionally and physically and I'm sure she's really confused. Stay on the radar, but try to back up until she's ready to come to you. I know this will be difficult, but you can do it.

The next thing I'm going to say may sound horrible, but I'm going to say it anyway: As the pregnancy progresses and becomes more difficult, she may realize that she needs and wants you in her life after all. . Going through pregnancy, childbirth, and raising a newborn is extremely hard work. Doing it alone is scary, precarious, and overwhelming.

When it is huge and can barely last 5 minutes without feeling an excruciating urge to urinate; or you are exhausted just walking to the mailbox; or when you cannot find a comfortable sleeping position throughout your life; or when you feel lonely, vulnerable, and fearful of childbirth; Or when he can't reach his toes to cut his toenails, at this point, he may come to appreciate you. Or it can happen after the child is born and you realize that motherhood is not a walk in the park.

It sucks that I have to get to that point for her to appreciate you, but it's very possible that this will happen. If you've made it clear that you want to be in her life and not disappear from it or act like an immature child, she may recover. Pregnant women need to know that the man will support them through thick and thin.

Now you would have to decide whether or not you want to be with someone just because they "need" you. However, I would say that this is at least half of what real love is anyway. I need my husband, he needs me. My children need me. Like it or not, a large part of love comes from dependency.

Finally, if she goes through with this pregnancy, she must remember that this child is as much hers as hers. Sure, it is not you who suffers the difficulties of pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding, but you are still the father and have contributed 50% of the genetic material of this child. You have the right to have a relationship with your child. If you get to that point, you may need to fight for this right. Hopefully it doesn't get to that point.

My honest opinion is that the best possible outcome for all three of you is if you and your ex can find a way to move forward together and commit to this. Hopefully, she will see it this way too.

The best of luck to you!

The man who was the love of my life and I was the love of his life were condemned by the whore who played the "accidental pregnancy on purpose" trick on him. He passed by the place where I worked. He saw me through the glass door. He fell in love with me at first sight. He came in. I saw it. I fell in love with him at first sight.

The first words he said to me were: “I know this sounds crazy… but, if we are going to have the opportunity to take the life that we have BOTH been wanting, needing and waiting for… we have to run NOW !! ! "The expression on his glorious face was desperate. His eyes

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The man who was the love of my life and I was the love of his life were condemned by the whore who played the "accidental pregnancy on purpose" trick on him. He passed by the place where I worked. He saw me through the glass door. He fell in love with me at first sight. He came in. I saw it. I fell in love with him at first sight.

The first words he said to me were: “I know this sounds crazy… but, if we are going to have the opportunity to take the life that we have BOTH been wanting, needing and waiting for… we have to run NOW !! ! "The expression on his glorious face was desperate. His eyes pleaded with me.

He knew beyond a doubt… he was right !!!

He was in disguise. I ran from behind the bar to the dressing room to change into street clothes to RUN with him NOW !!!

He followed me. My boss realized what was happening.

It stopped him.

I thought he was protecting me. In most other circumstances, any other man ... would have been protecting me from a very real evil. He thought he was stopping a human smuggler from scamming me. Another man ... would have been right.

I knew he was right.

My love too

He said, “You are right. You can't trust me You don't know me. Please ... let me woo you. Let me woo you. I know that you are mine. You are my wife."

Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

We should have run.

I didn't know then that Teri was 8 months pregnant with the baby ROBIN DID NOT want. He did NOT want her. He thought he was stuck. He was.

He considered murder. She deliberately contracted gonorrhea because she mistakenly thought it would kill her during pregnancy. I didn't know it would only BLIND the baby. He had not noticed the damage to the child. He wanted her to leave and for the baby to be adopted. No. None of that was even close to happening. It was just the pain of a broken man.

We spent ONE night together. The night the baby was born ... Rob came to see me from the hospital. I have never seen a man so sick as my lord, my love.

The French call it "the little death." Is. The passion. Love. The hearts. Souls joined into one soul. My love. My Sir. My love. My life. At the top ... the height ... the glory ...

We both passed out….

in the morning ... he left

he never came back

That was 50 years ago

He HAD to be man enough to accept and assume his responsibilities with that baby… not Teri.

He married her. He never loved her. He never forgave her. She didn't take care of herself. She tore herself apart. She died young… living long enough to make sure he couldn't get out from under his hellish legacy.

I married an abusive alcoholic

We should have run.

Yes. A man can keep a pregnant woman whom he does not love.

The woman who deliberately condemns such a man deserves a horrible marriage. I still curse Teri and always will. Comments on forgiving are NOT OK. Please DO NOT tell me to forgive her.

"You look sad," you told me.

Of course I am sad. Why wouldn't it be? We just had the worst fight in our relationship. I spent an entire day convincing you via text message that I was sorry and that you please don't leave me. I have pneumonia. I am completely exhausted in all capacities and while I was on my way to your house for a supposed meeting you hung up on me.

I am well aware that at this time it is my fault. I asked you to leave more times than I can count on two hands. I was scared and insecure and responded to things that were beyond you. I knew I had problems of my own and this particular fight helped me.

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"You look sad," you told me.

Of course I am sad. Why wouldn't it be? We just had the worst fight in our relationship. I spent an entire day convincing you via text message that I was sorry and that you please don't leave me. I have pneumonia. I am completely exhausted in all capacities and while I was on my way to your house for a supposed meeting you hung up on me.

I am well aware that at this time it is my fault. I asked you to leave more times than I can count on two hands. I was scared and insecure and responded to things that were beyond you. I knew I had issues of my own and this particular fight helped me realize that I needed help beyond myself. In some ways I am grateful that he has guided me into therapy. I went today for the first time as a patient. It was revealing. But it doesn't make it any easier to know that he's probably done with things between us.

As soon as I got to your house I knew it was all over. You didn't look at me the same. You didn't greet me the same. As soon as we saw each other it was as if we were strangers. You looked at me with disdain. You looked at me with contempt. Your eyes, for the first time, had questions.

We had dinner with our friends. All the time you avoided touching me. You avoided getting me involved. You were happy to have the distraction of others. He welcomed him. You drank.

We got home and you went to bed right away. I joined you expecting warmth and kindness. We could rediscover why we both want this, at least I thought. But you were tired. You didn't want to touch me. You got into bed and closed your eyes.

"Are you coming back?" I begged from the pillow beside you. “You said you were coming back. Miss you."

"Let's see how this weekend goes," you said as you started to fall asleep. "I'm tired, just go to bed."

My mind raced. He knew by how it was the night he had failed the test he was meant to be. It's the worst feeling.

The pillow felt stiff. The blanket was heavy. I couldn't relax, all muscles tensed as I lay next to you trying to make sense of what was happening. Everything is so unknown.

“If you don't want to be with me, you should tell me. I understand. I feel confused, why am I here? ", I said.

Annoyed by my annoyance, you turned to look at me, grabbing my face with your right hand ... You pressed my cheeks together and leaned in close to me, whispering angrily through clenched teeth: “Katie, I don't care anymore. Do what you want, go if you want, I'm going to bed. If that means you're going to shut the fuck up, then go, just go. ”You turned my face away, leaving me alone with the words I just said.

And then he turned around and took the blanket away. I looked at my phone at 11:35 p.m. M.

Coughing, I went to the couch and heard your roommates (they are a couple) laugh, enjoying their time together beyond their closed bedroom door. The void between us now is more obvious than anything I've ever felt before.

So much sadness. It feels like you are constantly holding your breath, waiting to exhale.

This is my fault. I know. I caused it. Some words that you cannot withdraw; Some actions cannot be undone.

It's over. I lie on the couch writing these words and wonder how I will find the capacity to face this in the morning. It hurts physically. It hurts spiritually.

But it ended. I saw it in your eyes as soon as I got here tonight. It will never be the same.

Marriage is much more than just love.

What has happened since you no longer love her? Often times something has happened and it has not been fixed, so he plants some "hatred" in his heart and does not feel love for his wife, but as soon as the problems are fixed, the love begins to bloom again. Could that be your case?

Or maybe you've been doing things you shouldn't have done and your focus is now elsewhere. In that case, get ready and see how to help your marriage.

Perhaps you have expectations for your wife that she does not measure up to, if so, have you tried talking to her?

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Marriage is much more than just love.

What has happened since you no longer love her? Often times something has happened and it has not been fixed, so he plants some "hatred" in his heart and does not feel love for his wife, but as soon as the problems are fixed, the love begins to bloom again. Could that be your case?

Or maybe you've been doing things you shouldn't have done and your focus is now elsewhere. In that case, get ready and see how to help your marriage.

Perhaps you have expectations for your wife that she does not measure up to, if so, have you tried talking to her? If it is very important to you and she can do her best for you, maybe you could fix it together?

As mentioned, marriage is not just love, there is much more to it: if love is everything, love will grow and love will fall, sometimes it is high, sometimes it is low ... but if we compare marriage with everything else and we do our best to maintain them, then the marriage will probably work all the time, and love will always be there too. Some of the things are:

  • Respect
  • Be there for each other
  • Talking together
  • Don't hold grudges, fix it
  • Don't go to bed angry, fix it before bed
  • Kindness, sweetness, etc.
  • Responsibilities
  • Help each other, with all you can
  • Go one more meter for your spouse, even if it means going against him: we must "sacrifice" for each other, to show that the other party is more important than anyone and anything else (of course, with limits, and These limits can vary from person to person, couple to couple, but in general we should all "sacrifice" for our spouse from time to time)
  • Be honest and fair
  • Be honest
  • Forgive each other's shortcomings and talk about it to help each other.

The list goes on ... but if you turned down one of the above, you will slowly do it again and then the next, etc. ... and you have lost all the main purpose of your marriage and you do not feel the love at all. more extensive.

I am not against divorce, I simply consider it to be the last option, unless there is a reason to divorce directly (which again is different from one couple to another).

This is all general, and while I don't know your situation specifically, this is all I can think of right now.

Think about your wife and her situation and tell her right now, not only with a small child but also pregnant, reconsider and make sure before acting on anything.

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