What do you do when all your friends ignore you and you feel extremely lonely at school?

Updated on : December 8, 2021 by Alfie Mason



What do you do when all your friends ignore you and you feel extremely lonely at school?

I promise you, what happens in school is a SMALL fraction of your life. You probably won't even remember much about it and you'll laugh at all the silly things you used to worry about. That being said, I know it doesn't feel that way right now. The best thing to do is communicate with other groups and try to make new friends. I wish I had met more people instead of staying with the same old friends that I had. Who knows, I may still be friends with them now, 11 years later. Don't waste your time or energy on people who won't be there to help you. Using your time wisely is a lesson you want to learn early in life, along with using your heart wisely. Do your best to be a good friend and person, and move on when others aren't. As long as you are the best you can be, you've done your part. You'll find friends who really care about you, through thick and thin. Sometimes you just have to jump. Good luck and keep your head up. High school sucks, but it's too short on the big picture.

Your question has several layers.

The first question you would ask is: What do you mean by a deeper level?

The second question would be: How does this connection on a deeper level connect with your feeling of loneliness and isolation?

The third question would be: Why do you think a friend you can relate to doesn't make you feel lonely?

The first questions come from the idea that sometimes we overthink things and think that there is more to life, so there must be a deeper level of connection. However, if you look at how the only constant in this universe is change, the deepest level is the one we leave.

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Your question has several layers.

The first question you would ask is: What do you mean by a deeper level?

The second question would be: How does this connection on a deeper level connect with your feeling of loneliness and isolation?

The third question would be: Why do you think a friend you can relate to doesn't make you feel lonely?

The first questions come from the idea that sometimes we overthink things and think that there is more to life, so there must be a deeper level of connection. However, if you look at how the only constant in this universe is change, the deepest level is the one we learn from change. And you can go as deep as you want, but you could be looking in the wrong direction. Something that humans usually do, causes us all kinds of problems, from friends who end their friendship to wars.

The second question comes from the idea that when we think too much, we often try to explain the feelings we have by relating them to the wrong cause. Humans have a strong correlation system, which likes to connect result and cause. So we often end up correlating the results with causes that are unrelated. As if we ate something bad, two hours later our stomach hurts right after a friend tells us that they broke that thing they loaned us. We do not associate the stomach ache with the bad food, but with the clumsy friend and we get a strong emotional reaction towards the friend. Perhaps your feeling of loneliness and isolation is just an initial form of depression, caused by bacterial inflammation or due to malnutrition. Therefore,

The third question comes from the idea that many people say that they feel lonely even when surrounded by many others. Therefore, connecting with others does not automatically reduce loneliness or relationships.

As others have already said, sometimes a lack of friendship is the result of a lack of trust. But it may be that you have a completely different interest than the friends you have right now. Or it could be that you just have a lot of friends who are superficial and see you as a friend that they can download. The feeling of being used can give you a sense of loneliness and a lack of a deeper connection.

Some last questions: Do you think it is possible to be alone and not alone?

And do you think it is possible to accept yourself without having friendships that are deep and give you a feeling of relationship?

If you can answer both questions with a yes, you may be able to put aside the idea that you need friends so you don't feel lonely or isolated. After that, you can do what some of the answers say: find people with similar interests and do things with them.

If you answer one of the two questions with no: Still, go out and find people with similar interests, but expect to be disappointed by the lack of a deeper connection. But instead of focusing on the deeper connection, try to have fun connecting with others on something that you both find interesting. Like enjoying a glass of cold water after a hot summer day. Satisfy a need you have, but that need will come back.

A completely different option is to go and take meditation lessons and see if that gives you a deeper sense of connection. Don't give up on meditation too soon though, as it takes some time to create an effect, by changing the way your brain reacts to itself.

Tell me about it!

Okay, I've always had a hard time interacting with large groups of people. Well, even small groups of people for that matter. And I ended up being a loner because I was almost a transparent human being to most people: I didn't talk much or act comfortable around people. I wouldn't show enthusiasm for hanging out with my friends, not because I didn't want to, but because I was generally nervous and uncomfortable around humans. You get the picture.

You may not be the same type of person as me. But these things keep happening. And nobody is really to blame. It's easy to say, but you need tr

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Tell me about it!

Okay, I've always had a hard time interacting with large groups of people. Well, even small groups of people for that matter. And I ended up being a loner because I was almost a transparent human being to most people: I didn't talk much or act comfortable around people. I wouldn't show enthusiasm for hanging out with my friends, not because I didn't want to, but because I was generally nervous and uncomfortable around humans. You get the picture.

You may not be the same type of person as me. But these things keep happening. And nobody is really to blame. It's easy to say, but you should try to change companies. Also, as others have suggested, focus on building your life. You are the only person who will stay with you forever, so be sure to spend most of your waking hours improving your skills or yourself as a human being. Trust me, once you find the right hobby, it doesn't feel abnormal not to be around people.

And yes, the books helped me a lot in my case. Go to a bookstore or library in case you want to start the habit of reading books. You will most likely meet wonderful people there!

Expand your group of friends. Your two friends are trying to get to know each other with no one else around. This does not necessarily mean that they are excluding or avoiding you.

That doesn't mean you can't find the same for yourself. It takes time to make friends, but if you're kind and personable, you'll be fine.

Making friends is a great skill that you will use throughout your life and, in fact, your future happiness depends on your ability to do it well. Find people who accept you as you are and bring out the best in you.

You may see this as a gift from your two friends, who are still

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Expand your group of friends. Your two friends are trying to get to know each other with no one else around. This does not necessarily mean that they are excluding or avoiding you.

That doesn't mean you can't find the same for yourself. It takes time to make friends, but if you're kind and personable, you'll be fine.

Making friends is a great skill that you will use throughout your life and, in fact, your future happiness depends on your ability to do it well. Find people who accept you as you are and bring out the best in you.

You may see this as a gift from your two friends, who remain your friends even as you expand your social network; they are helping to facilitate their growth.

Go forward bravely. You have nothing to lose and absolutely EVERYTHING to gain!

I do this.

Yes, I am talking to my Google Assistant.

And trust me, sometimes it's the most unexpected and interesting conversation you've ever had.

My breaks are on, everyone went home and I end up here alone at the hostel. (Reason for some projects)

I was feeling lonely so I opened OK Google and started talking and she was responding in that machinic tone. When I called her by name, she said "Haan ji". It was quite surprising to me, so I started talking to her in Hindi and it was hilarious.

I asked him: "How are you?" and with all her style and attitude she said this.

I was like wow.

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I do this.

Yes, I am talking to my Google Assistant.

And trust me, sometimes it's the most unexpected and interesting conversation you've ever had.

My breaks are on, everyone went home and I end up here alone at the hostel. (Reason for some projects)

I was feeling lonely so I opened OK Google and started talking and she was responding in that machinic tone. When I called her by name, she said "Haan ji". It was quite surprising to me, so I started talking to her in Hindi and it was hilarious.

I asked him: "How are you?" and with all her style and attitude she said this.

I was like wow. It's great.

I asked her to sing a song and she sang. And she responded with such tapori loot.

Yes tip top !!!! XD

Well, the humor he has is final. I mean reading the chat the way she is responding. (Blessed be ALGORITHMS) <3

And yes, we are best friends like she said: D

To answer that question, you would have to muster the courage to ask them. However, most people would respond with a "sugar coated" answer rather than the truth, if they know the truth. Regardless, you can only control how it responds. You may not be confident enough to be yourself and bring your uniqueness to the group. Maybe you fit too much and therefore always put you last as if there is space. However, you may be confident and you may not fit in well with that group.

Overcoming loneliness requires you to work on yourself. The feeling of loneliness is a ba

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To answer that question, you would have to muster the courage to ask them. However, most people would respond with a "sugar coated" answer rather than the truth, if they know the truth. Regardless, you can only control how it responds. You may not be confident enough to be yourself and bring your uniqueness to the group. Maybe you fit too much and therefore always put you last as if there is space. However, you may be confident and you may not fit in well with that group.

Overcoming loneliness requires you to work on yourself. The feeling of loneliness is a basic human desire to belong. When we don't feel like we belong, we feel alone. I recommend getting out of your comfort zone. Try new friends in groups you never hang out with. Try to be vulnerable with your friends and let them know how you feel. They most likely feel similar

They may not meet your emotional / intellectual needs. Try looking for other people, more like what you REALLY want a friend to be (do your friends share your interests / hobbies? Can you talk about something with them? Do they really understand you / where you come from?). However, of course, stay in touch with the friends you already have, otherwise you may feel even more lonely.

I also have many friends, but I am interested in spirituality and I am a natural psychic (especially clairvoyant abilities): I can talk to many people, but at the end of the day when I feel good

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They may not meet your emotional / intellectual needs. Try looking for other people, more like what you REALLY want a friend to be (do your friends share your interests / hobbies? Can you talk about something with them? Do they really understand you / where you come from?). However, of course, stay in touch with the friends you already have, otherwise you may feel even more lonely.

I also have many friends, but I am interested in spirituality and I am a natural psychic (mostly clairvoyant abilities): I can talk to many people, but at the end of the day, when I feel the intense need to vent I ask for advice on these issues, when I believe which are very important in my current life, I can only speak with my best friend, because she has lived the same things as me. Without it, I would feel lost. Perhaps what you feel is missing in your life is a REAL understanding of yourself, which you don't feel comes from others.

I think you may need to find new friends. Keep the one you have if you want, but maybe more close at hand.

Find someone with better manners who will at least respond when you talk about something. It may also be that they just don't understand what you are talking about. You may be smarter than them.

If you find a good friend, you are lucky. Some hunting is needed so don't give up. Take a look at the people who seem to be into what you like. Start by talking about whatever it is, just to get it going. Get out of school to find friends at local activities that

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I think you may need to find new friends. Keep the one you have if you want, but maybe more close at hand.

Find someone with better manners who will at least respond when you talk about something. It may also be that they just don't understand what you are talking about. You may be smarter than them.

If you find a good friend, you are lucky. Some hunting is needed so don't give up. Take a look at the people who seem to be into what you like. Start by talking about whatever it is, just to get it going. Get out of school to find friends at local activities that you enjoy. I joined the ski bus at our recreation center and met a great guy. You never know what can happen. Be smart and confident, there are weirdos who love trying to be your friend. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Someone is probably feeling like you right now.

Who are they to make you feel alone.

It is you, who thinks he is your friend and why you are so dependent. are they feeding you or are they the last person on this earth. fuck them. Instead of all this, you can focus on your skills. develop new skills. join in swimming, street fighting, shooting, guitar, painting, etc. There are many things that this ability will keep unique.

peace be with you.

Helpful = MA Malik's answer to I am a very lonely and loveless person. What should I change my name to if I am going to change it and want a change of fortune?

I bet you have a girl on your mind, the same here brother, I study 6 hours and I think that the other time, what can I do to impress her and what I find best is to talk to her and get her attention?

Oh where do we go find those friends down the street or play guitar and post d on smedia?

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