What can I do to help myself when I am depressed?

Updated on : January 17, 2022 by Jesse Winters



What can I do to help myself when I am depressed?

In my opinion, depression is just a name we give to hopelessness. And that's the result (aside from possible chemical imbalances) of beliefs that lead to despair rather than hope. In my opinion, our behaviors "act out" our beliefs.

So as a general theme / story for a play, our beliefs are the framework and then we do our best to represent those themes through our behaviors. If the theme is pessimism and pessimism, we will live it in our thoughts and behaviors.

So… Change your beliefs and you will change your way of thinking + behaving. It's easy to say (I just said it) but generally not easy to "make that change."

John 5: 2–6 in

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In my opinion, depression is just a name we give to hopelessness. And that's the result (aside from possible chemical imbalances) of beliefs that lead to despair rather than hope. In my opinion, our behaviors "act out" our beliefs.

So as a general theme / story for a play, our beliefs are the framework and then we do our best to represent those themes through our behaviors. If the theme is pessimism and pessimism, we will live it in our thoughts and behaviors.

So… Change your beliefs and you will change your way of thinking + behaving. It's easy to say (I just said it) but generally not easy to "make that change."

John 5: 2–6 In Jerusalem there is a healing pool with five porticoes called Bethesda near the Sheep Gate. Inside these porches there were many sick people. Some were blind. Some could not walk. Some could not move their bodies. Jesus saw a man lying there and knew that he had been sick for a long time. Jesus said to him, "Would you like to be healed?"

Why would Jesus ask him that question? Wasn't it pretty obvious? Perhaps in Jesus' eyes it was not always so obvious. As the 12 Step program says, the first step is to admit that we are powerless and that our lives have become unmanageable.

Basically ... that I realize that I need to change ... not because others say that I should, but because I see that I must change.

You'd think depressed people would agree with that, but again, Jesus asked the man if he wanted to be healed (he deeply and passionately desired ... others were not expecting it).

So our addictions always have power over us just because we receive them and now we hold them tight. This is the belief system I'm talking about ... we've made the addictive pattern our friend ... our trusted friend ... often our most trusted friend.

Will a depressed person want to get rid of his ego's high opinion that he is being "properly critical" of life and circumstances and hold on to the uncertainty of facing those problems that he now declares "depressing"? In my opinion, many will not do that.

There are famous cynics and nihilists, so, "Why can't I be one of them?" I could ask hypothetically. Many people "love their cynicism" and chose "lack of hope." They think that makes them superior to "all of you naive believers in hope."

I could say that Woody Allen is one of them. Hear him "evangelize" his hopelessness. I don't even like to include it here as it abuses rational thinking by digging a hole and jumping into that hole. But I will include it.

And he compared Woody's "intellectualized recipe for depression" to this transformation and seeing that shedding our past and turning to the love of virtue is what gives hope.

So everyone can choose, but my point is that this almost always: a choice ... a choice of beliefs ... what we "want or at least choose to submit to believe."

And that often starts very young with the adults around us (Woody Allen even made movies about his upbringing).

Allens 'movie Cafe' Society emulates his upbringing with a family + culture marinated in trial + conviction as the young man struggles to succeed in… .but has trouble freeing himself.

I hope this helps.

There are many things you can do to help yourself if you are depressed.

In fact, the more proactive you are in taking care of yourself, while seeking the right treatment, the better your chances of a full recovery.

Just a short disclaimer, so you know where I come from;

I am not qualified in any area of ​​mental health, so I will never give treatment advice in any way.

What I can share with you is what I have learned over the years and what has worked for me.

Here are some important points that may be helpful;

If you are depressed, be kind to yourself and accept that what you are facing is

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There are many things you can do to help yourself if you are depressed.

In fact, the more proactive you are in taking care of yourself, while seeking the right treatment, the better your chances of a full recovery.

Just a short disclaimer, so you know where I come from;

I am not qualified in any area of ​​mental health, so I will never give treatment advice in any way.

What I can share with you is what I have learned over the years and what has worked for me.

Here are some important points that may be helpful;

If you are depressed, be kind to yourself and accept that what you are dealing with is a potentially very serious condition.

Accept that it is not your fault, and it is certainly not a sign of weakness in any way.

Accept that you may need professional help, so don't beat yourself up and pay no attention to anyone who tries to criticize you for being depressed.

They just don't know what they are talking about.

The second point is to get an accurate diagnosis from your doctor or qualified healthcare professional.

You need to know how severe your depression is, is it mild, moderate, or more severe?

It is vital that you know this because getting treatment may be more urgent than you think!

The third way you can help yourself is to follow through with whatever treatment you and your qualified healthcare professional decide to pursue.

Otherwise, if you only do it halfway and stop your treatment earlier than recommended, you could go around in circles for years without finding what works for you.

You may end up choosing a medical treatment or an alternative treatment or a combination of both and some natural methods.

But whatever you do, go ahead and try something that is recommended to you all the time and don't flinch.

You want to be able to tell yourself; "I gave that treatment a full try and I'm sure it didn't work, now I can try something else!"

It is easy to get impatient with any treatment and feel irritated that you are not getting better, but in the long run you want to go through with whatever you try to put your mind at ease.

Look, you may find that the first treatment works well! It's possible! But more likely it takes time and perseverance, so stick with it.

The next important point if you are depressed is to eat a healthy diet of fresh whole foods as often as possible.

That means; fresh vegetables, a variety of fruits, regular protein, and some healthy fats, like avocados and almonds

You want to ditch the processed foods from the supermarkets and the convenient take-out meals as much as you can

These types of foods can make you feel sluggish, clouded, and are not good for you if you eat them all the time.

If you are depressed, they can make your symptoms worse, so eliminate them whenever you can, at least until you recover.

Another important point on the back of the over-feeding is to stay hydrated.

Even mild dehydration can cause fatigue and tiredness and even fuzzy thoughts, so you need to drink plenty of water every day.

It is also a good idea to cut down on alcohol consumption, as alcohol is a known depressant.

In other words, drinking too much can make you depressed, or at least make your depression worse.

The same goes for illegal drugs.

In addition to eating healthy and staying hydrated, regular exercise is great for fighting the symptoms of depression, even if it's just a brisk 20-minute walk every other day.

Regular exercise releases endorphins that make you feel good and can give you more energy, lift your mood, and help you sleep better.

Regular exercise can also make you feel more cheerful and awake during the day.

It is advisable to choose a form of exercise that you enjoy, rather than one that you find boring, that way you are more likely to stick with it.

Of course, I recommend that you consult with your doctor before starting any exercise program, especially if it has been a long time since you did one.

Here's another great self-care tip that's important and it took me many years to get this one!

Allow yourself to rest when you need it too, fatigue and excessive tiredness are common symptoms of depression

It's easy to fall into guilt if you want to rest, like you don't deserve it, or are weak and pathetic because you can't go on.

The truth is that the more you allow yourself to rest and even sleep, the more likely you are to regain your energy and your mood.

So don't beat yourself up for this either and give yourself a break

It's also important not to isolate yourself from the people around you, be it your family, your friends, or even just the people you know.

Depression can make you want to isolate yourself, but you need to maintain relationships with the people around you so that you don't spiral into an even bigger spiral.

Also, try to stick to a daily routine and stick to it, even if you feel like curling up on the couch and doing nothing.

You want to try to keep your days as normal as they would be if you weren't depressed. otherwise it may stagnate and descend further

It will be much more difficult to get going than to continue

Another point is to find someone to talk to and let him out, suppressing things is not good for your mental health.

You're internalizing stress, anxiety, and anger and it can build up and make you feel even more hopeless and lost in what to do.

Talk to a friend about how you feel or someone you can trust, or talk to a depression counselor or even a therapist.

You don't have to commit to therapy at first, just see what it's like to open up and talk, you will be amazed how taking about how you feel can bring you a great sense of relief.

Give yourself permission to do a session to test the waters, so to speak.

The last point I will give you is this.

Allow yourself to have fun, even if you are depressed, go out with your friends and laugh and have fun, even for short periods of time.

It is a great distraction and can alleviate how tense and anxious you feel due to your depression.

It took me years to realize that it is wise to take regular breaks from your pain and suffering.

Anything you do to help yourself can only be a positive thing, as I said, it is vital that you are proactive in your own recovery.

But if you can't do all of the above then that's okay, just start small and do what you can.

Ah, one more thing!

Get as much sleep as you can, it is vital to help your body and brain heal

Is it self-diagnosed?

If you really have depression and nothing else, you must be in one of two stages that can change without warning (sometimes several times a day): manic or depressed.

When you are a maniac, you are a superman! Take advantage and do practically anything you want (no, don't try to fly, it doesn't work!) As long as it's not highly illegal or extremely dangerous. Slight risks are okay.

If you are depressed, you stay in your corner, you feel and act miserable and you are surrounded by a lot of irrational beliefs: “nobody likes me”, “I am useless”, “everything is against

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Is it self-diagnosed?

If you really have depression and nothing else, you must be in one of two stages that can change without warning (sometimes several times a day): manic or depressed.

When you are a maniac, you are a superman! Take advantage and do practically anything you want (no, don't try to fly, it doesn't work!) As long as it's not highly illegal or extremely dangerous. Slight risks are okay.

If you are depressed, you stay in your corner, you feel and act miserable and you are surrounded by a lot of irrational beliefs: "nobody likes me", "I am useless", "everything is against me", "all people they are mean ", etc. Good news: these thoughts are not correct! That is why they are called" irrational. "Bad news: You are firmly convinced that they are right! That is why they are called" beliefs ".

So in this situation (the depressive state) you hide from the world, you crawl into your cave and hibernate, you cry, you think in circles, you fall asleep, basically avoiding reality until "the situation or situations" that led you to the depression disappear or disappear. forgotten. The good thing here is that your brain self protects itself at first. You overloaded your synapses and due to lack of external stimuli (basically avoiding living and socializing as before) your brain rests a little. Which is good up to a point. After a while, you spend too much time with yourself and you may begin to have intense conversations with yourself, even heated lectures, and your "circular thinking" begins to take over. That's the point where you should start kicking your butt and going out into the real world because this is the beginning of building "yourself and your reality." Which is not the reality of all and that sucks because unfortunately the majority rule.

At this point, you may feel like you need attention, so you might "attempt suicide." You may think that you really want to die, but in 99% of cases, you just need care. And it's not necessarily the right way to ask. Also, you might even be successful in committing suicide and that would be hopelessly bullshit, especially if you weren't expecting to be successful. My suggestion after you've passed the "healing" part is to keep moving. Force yourself out of your cave. Go shopping. Interact with people (not in a creepy way!), Say hello, how are you, smile, try to be helpful, only when necessary, do not take shopping bags from people or help children to cross the street when it is not necessary, you could end up in jail and that would be a very good reason to get even more depressed. Long story short, force yourself to become a social animal, even if you don't like it. Keep socializing on the networks, but not at home! Go into a park, town square, cafe, etc. and start playing. Keep your brain busy with other people's thoughts. And move on. Much. Oxygen is euphoric, so the more you move, the happier you'll be. Have sex if you can in a legal way, that sends endorphins to your brain. Travel to an unknown place. Preferably where you don't speak the language. Keep your brain busy with other people's thoughts. And move on. Much. Oxygen is euphoric, so the more you move, the happier you'll be. Have sex if you can in a legal way, that sends endorphins to your brain. Travel to an unknown place. Preferably where you don't speak the language. Keep your brain busy with other people's thoughts. And move on. Much. Oxygen is euphoric, so the more you move, the happier you'll be. Have sex if you can in a legal way, that sends endorphins to your brain. Travel to an unknown place. Preferably where you don't speak the language.

After trying all of those, if you are still feeling depressed, it means that your miserable part of the brain is stronger, so you will need professional help and / or antidepressants. I don't agree with antidepressants because they play too much with a pretty perfect laboratory that is your brain, but you don't have to worry about me. They still help 30% of the depressed world, so the odds are better than local scratch cards. If you live in a country where psychological problems are a stigma, get guidance online.

Good luck and one more thing: alcohol is a depressant. It doesn't really help, on the contrary. If you are a regular drinker, stop drinking until you are free of depression or at least keep a good grip on it, preferably less than half of what you normally drink.

I have a lot of practice dealing with depression and I hope I can help you with what I have learned. When you are depressed, you are not very attracted to it. Nothing sounds fun. It doesn't seem worth doing anything. When that happens to me, I know I'm depressed. Loss of interest in things that usually interest you is a normal and typical symptom of depression. For many very fortunate people, sadness passes in a day or two. For those of us whose sadness lasts for weeks and turns into total depression, we need a plan. Deep depression can lead to suicide or suicide attempts. If you are going to stay alive, you need tools to help you s

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I have a lot of practice dealing with depression and I hope I can help you with what I have learned. When you are depressed, you are not very attracted to it. Nothing sounds fun. It doesn't seem worth doing anything. When that happens to me, I know I'm depressed. Loss of interest in things that usually interest you is a normal and typical symptom of depression. For many very fortunate people, sadness passes in a day or two. For those of us whose sadness lasts for weeks and turns into total depression, we need a plan. Deep depression can lead to suicide or suicide attempts. If you're going to stay alive, you need tools to help you do it. Suicide occurs when the pain you experience exceeds your ability to cope, so if you are going to stay alive, your options are to reduce the level of pain or increase your coping ability. This explanation is not original to me, so don't recognize me for it. I use it because it is a clear and simple analysis of a disordered state of mind.

Then. You are depressed. It's time to get to work. Personal care is where you start. Self-care is easier than self-love, which is often not possible when you are depressed. Taking a shower, brushing your teeth, or eating something is a good starting point. If you are very depressed, all three may be impossible. If those things remain impossible for more than two weeks, you need medical intervention. If that's where you are now, then my job today is to make an appointment with the doctor. That is the only task you need to do today. You can do one thing. You can spend the rest of the day watching TV and crying if you need to, just do that thing. It is the first step in saving your own life.

If you can still do something like shower or feed, you may be able to get through it without medication. Of course, if you have a diagnosis of mental illness, you DEFINITELY need to call your doctor right away, but if you have situational depression due to something like losing a job, ending a relationship, or grieving a loved one, you may be fine. with some. added coping skills.

  1. Lower your standards. You are not having a normal time in life, so you cannot have normal expectations of yourself. Make your daily list short. Celebrate small victories, like any act of personal hygiene. Your life right now is monumentally challenging, and acknowledging and respecting your current abilities goes a long way toward improving your self-esteem.
  2. Make a list. Write down the things you can reasonably do in a day. For example, today I am getting sick and I am exhausted and a little depressed. So the list I made today was weigh myself, make a pill case, drink coffee, shower, get dressed, work on the website, have dinner. That is all I am demanding of myself today. On better days, I know I can do more, so I write more. Cross things off as you go to show yourself that you are getting things done, and if the next thing on your list seems too difficult, write a time next to it for half an hour to an hour from now, so you can take that long. to muster your strength, courage and energy to accomplish the next task. I often have to do that when showering, otherwise I won't. The same goes for exercise.
  3. Be sweet to yourself. Use friendly language when talking to yourself. I know this is very challenging. I've been more mean to myself than anyone else has been to me, most of the time in episodes or during depressions. No matter who you are or what you are experiencing, you are a valuable person and who you are is absolutely sufficient. What you feel now won't last forever; you will live again. Be as patient with yourself as you would be with someone you love and are hurting. Say nice things. Be good. You deserve to be treated well, especially yourself.
  4. Write down your feelings. Even if the act of writing makes you cry a lot, really hard, when you finish you will have a deep sense of calm that could last up to a few hours. Writing is a proven therapeutic activity with very clear and real results. You don't want to do it, but it will really help you.
  5. Get the sunlight. Get out, even if you only sit on your porch for five minutes. Sunlight stimulates chemicals in our body and brain that are important for mental health, such as lithium and vitamin D. You are also more likely to see something beautiful if you go outside. It is always amazing.
  6. Choose relaxing activities. Write one or two to do today. Choose something like watching TV, coloring, reading, or playing with a fidget toy. Play on the Internet. Anything easy that is not challenging and does not rob you of your limited and precious energy.
  7. Sleep well. Insomnia and depression often go hand in hand. If it is you, meditate. There are many over the counter sleep aids and I have had good luck with most of the ones I have tried. I recommend Unisom, Alteril, and melatonin. Most people would be fine with just one of these over-the-counter sleeping pills, but you can ask your doctor if they can be combined. You may sleep for a long time, which is not a bad thing. Sleep is essential, and it is doubly so if you have a mental illness. Set an alarm for noon and try to stay up until eight at night. Take your sleeping pill at seven and you'll probably be asleep in the next hour or two. This schedule allows a lot of time to sleep without disturbing your circadian rhythm and changing your sleep habits.
  8. Hug a pillow while watching TV. I don't know why this helps me, but it really does.

If you are experiencing depression right now and feel suicidal, call this helpline: 1-800-273-8255. Whatever your current situation, nothing is permanent. Things may get better. Don't think you can never get better, because that's not true. You can always improve.

Much will depend on how depressed you are and how long you have been depressed, just as depression is a recurring problem. Speaking from personal experience of this condition, and I would end up having severe depression, I tried a wide variety of things to change this gagging state of mind, such as exercise, relaxing music, sun exposure, homeopathy, herbalism, eating healthy foods. , Chinese medicine, etc. The only thing that worked for me - eventually, after a suicide attempt - is the strong pharmaceutical medication. So, currently, I am well controlled and I can say that I feel mostly normal !!

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Much will depend on how depressed you are and how long you have been depressed, just as depression is a recurring problem. Speaking from personal experience of this condition, and I would end up having severe depression, I tried a wide variety of things to change this gagging state of mind, such as exercise, relaxing music, sun exposure, homeopathy, herbalism, eating healthy foods. , Chinese medicine, etc. The only thing that worked for me - eventually, after a suicide attempt - is the strong pharmaceutical medication. So, currently, I am well controlled and I can say that I feel mostly normal !!

There are different stages with depression. If you're lucky, you don't experience the worst aspect, which feels SO lonely, you'd rather die than stay like this forever!

Sometimes I find it helpful to keep a journal, but I tend to look back and miss 3 people over and over again, and I miss them so much that I may end up crying or so sad that I cannot bear it, so I prefer not to go there as much as possible. . . But the mind is so powerful; It seems to have its own strength and will!

Sometimes I turn to alcohol, although it is actually too ineffective. If I could use some out-of-body drugs, I think it might be helpful, but the most I miss I can't have, which is belonging to a loving family where I feel loved and nurtured. Instead, I come from a broken family where I was taken away from a parent at a very young age, transported to different parts of the world, had very few friends growing up, so I was desperately unhappy and spent too much time alone.

I have not found therapy to be helpful. In fact, it is the opposite: it is better not to revisit my past. Very painful. I try to be very kind and gentle to myself and to be the kind of friend, mother or sister that I would be with my fragile inner child.

Fortunately, I don't have to work anymore, I enjoy my own company, I have my own home (so I don't have to fear being kicked out) and I have pets (dogs in the past and now a cat), which has been very enjoyable.

I am also very fortunate to have very good friends that I can call at any time. At worst, he talked a lot on the phone during long calls.

Feeling lonely and depressed has been my worst experience as a human being. That's how bad it gets. That is why we must be good parents and friends to ourselves. Striking the "right" balance of assertiveness and kindness is challenging, but it is doable.

Original question: What can I do to feel less depressed? I have felt depressed most of my life. Nothing works in the long run.

First of all, get a medical check-up that includes a blood test to make sure you're not low in one vitamin or another that could make your problems worse (or even be the main cause if it's really bad). Personally, I have been told to take vitamin D and B9 supplements as I have been low on both more than once (I live in Norway so it is common to be low on the former and I take pills that make me low. in the second most probable). Usually it is better to get everything you need

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Original question: What can I do to feel less depressed? I have felt depressed most of my life. Nothing works in the long run.

First of all, get a medical check-up that includes a blood test to make sure you're not low in one vitamin or another that could make your problems worse (or even be the main cause if it's really bad). Personally, I have been told to take vitamin D and B9 supplements as I have been low on both more than once (I live in Norway so it is common to be low on the former and I take pills that make me low. in the second most probable). However, in general, it's best to get everything you need through food or being outdoors (essentially don't take supplements unless asked ... and be very careful with vitamin A,

Consider your sleep habits, as poor sleep or irregular sleep can make the problem worse (never mind that it can increase your risk of diabetes, obesity, and much more too. If you don't get enough sleep ... it could be a good idea to try to go to bed and wake up on as much time as possible (try to get your 7 hours).

So consider your diet. If you eat a lot of unhealthy foods, both can and will make you more likely to have low levels of one thing you need or another ... and in general ... it's better to eat healthier. If you have trouble with this during your bad periods (I know I do) ... My best advice is to have a freezer of some kind so you can make larger batches of food when you have the energy and cook it before freezing and then reheating. .or freeze before cooking, so you just have to do the cooking part (let's say in the oven) before eating it. .. And well; Being too overweight or too thin will increase your risk of depression (even if it's likely for opposite reasons).

Then consider whether you are exercising and using whatever nature is available to you. .. While a training center offers machines + to train .. You also get a mental boost by walking outdoors and in nature (sunlight, fresh air and nature +) .. So ..

And finally ... consider buying a sunlight lamp. If you don't get enough sunlight on a daily basis, it can be a very good idea (it's best to be in direct sunlight, but it's still a brilliant invention that I highly recommend). .. I can still remember the first time I used mine because afterwards it was as if someone had turned on the light (needless to say, it makes me feel so much better). .. I have also been told that some psychiatric hospitals have changed the light bulbs so that those who are treated there have more lights ... and, on average, patients leave the hospital about a month earlier than expected. So ... lights can be very important.

Consider whether having a routine can help. And if you are adversely affected if you are in too messy an environment (chaos and having a chaotic environment will not help in the least ... but at best it can be a big part of the problem and a way of understanding it) if you is depressing). Also consider what you see, hear, read, and more, as it can negatively affect you if you're not careful. Yes it's easy to listen to depressing music and more ... but if it's also making you down ... you need to be very careful about that (I know at least 3 songs (and the band that made them) that I avoid listening to for this reason).

.. Also consider therapy and if that can help. You may even consider whether art, music, movement, and more of these types of therapy may be more effective for you than simple talk therapy.

.. And finally; consider whether medication can help. Keep in mind that it can stabilize your mood and you won't actually address the reason you're depressed or do anything to improve it. .. Personally I was depressed for longer than if I had not used it (I have a tendency to get depressed seasonally and while January is my riskiest month (it is after Christmas and what happens then and also a very dark month .. But usually I get better in spring or summer .. but then I felt quite depressed until early fall .. which was the time when I decided I had to quit smoking (with the supervision and knowledge of my doctor) ..) .. So .. I am not saying that it cannot be a true lifeline for those who need it .. but it can also be a crutch in the wrong way for many.

And finally, consider if there are signs that you are starting to get depressed (or if, like mine, they are somewhat seasonal) and if there are things you can do to ensure that the chances of slipping into proper depression are lower. I try to live a certain schedule, eat something healthy, get enough sleep and exercise and more ... And I'm also aware of what I hear and see and more and in general ... it's been a few years since my last really bad period (I'm still careful though). Then..

I will tell you what I did and what has significantly altered the course of my life. I know everyone's experiences and approaches are different, so if this doesn't help you, I hope it helps someone else.

Depression is very real and can be debilitating. I have a mother, a brother, an aunt and a grandmother, all diagnosed with anxiety or depression, in some cases with both. 2-3 of them have also been diagnosed with some level of bipolar disorder. So it's definitely something that comes from my family and very close to me. And I've been through the experience of dealing with them when their meds stopped working, I needed an adjustment

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I will tell you what I did and what has significantly altered the course of my life. I know everyone's experiences and approaches are different, so if this doesn't help you, I hope it helps someone else.

Depression is very real and can be debilitating. I have a mother, a brother, an aunt and a grandmother, all diagnosed with anxiety or depression, in some cases with both. 2-3 of them have also been diagnosed with some level of bipolar disorder. So it's definitely something that comes from my family and very close to me. And I've been through the experiences of dealing with them when their meds stopped working, needed adjustments, etc., and it's incredibly intense for both the outsider and the person experiencing it. Anyway, my point is that I am the perfect candidate to have the same problems. Now let me tell you a little bit about my situation for the last 2-3 years.

I live in a state 900 miles from where I grew up and although I have made a couple of friends, I have no close friends here. I met and married my husband here. I don't want children but I have pets and I love them as if they were my children. Almost 3 years ago, the cat who was my literal best friend, whom I adored and was practically attached to, fell ill. Out of nowhere, it went from 0 to 100 in one night. He ended up needing brain surgery for a large tumor. Some people couldn't provide it, but we could at the time and I'm so glad we did. Although during his recovery they thought that he would not make it, he did it in an amazing way. He was my miracle of God. Then there were months of being her 24/7 caregiver, even though I was doing incredibly well. Then there was a whole year of happy energetic amazing cat and it was the greatest blessing in my life. I know that God gave me a miracle, and I made a serious prayer fighting for it. Unfortunately, after that year he got sick again, and again I became his full-time caregiver, which he would not change for anything. While he was still in his last year of incredible health, my grandfather passed away. But just because I was married didn't mean I wasn't totally alone, because my marriage was in great turmoil. My husband didn't even hug me to console me for this death until I went to him and asked him to comfort me. Just. Then the following year, my best friend, my beloved cat, passed away, adding to my intense grief and guilt (should I have?). I didn't think that I could manage he was incredibly depressed. But I tried to push myself and pretend that everything was fine, and it wasn't. What do you do when you lose the best friend, the only one who really loved you unconditionally? Around the same time, the pastor of my church (the ONLY place I really felt welcomed and loved) moved across the country. I was very sad even though I could still watch it online.

Two months later, things didn't get any better, but I tried VERY hard to get back to enjoying some things in life. And then I fell and broke my foot. I was sitting on the couch for 8 weeks. While it was horrible that it happened and quite painful at the time, it absolutely forced me to stop. No more running, no more distractions. I ended up seeing a lot (don't laugh) Dr. Phil because I really wanted to learn about people, why they do things, etc. I started investigating the chaotic roller coaster my husband was putting me through for the same reason. I literally thought she was right every time she said she was crazy. My research proved otherwise, and a little weight was lifted. Then I started watching my pastor on TV and I thought what the heck am I stuck on this couch, I'll explore some other pastors too. So I spent my days watching, reading and following the doctor's orders to the letter: WITHOUT weight on my foot for 8 weeks, I was using a walker at home but couldn't even climb the stairs to shower or feed myself. Another cat. So thank goodness for the first floor bathtub and my husband took care of the cat. For 6.5 weeks. Later…. while I was still stuck on the couch, I couldn't put any weight on my foot or go up and down stairs… my husband left. While he slept, I packed a handful of boxes, grabbed his computer, and left. Sadly, because she didn't need to go to the closet and couldn't climb the stairs, I didn't even know she was gone until the end of the day when she texted me. Talk about depression and devastation ... how in the WORLD does a person process this ?!

So I was alone, with my two cats, and I couldn't walk. I learned how to go upstairs to feed my cat upstairs. Every now and then a friend would take me to my doctor's appointment. And I was parked on that couch for a handful of more weeks while using the boot to stabilize my foot. I felt blessed that I didn't need surgery because the ER almost told me I would. But I followed the doctors' orders, took a great supplement, prayed a LOT, and was saved from surgery. The first 4-5 months, yes months, I focused all my energy on mental and spiritual health and growth. Instead of focusing on the pain, I focused on everything else. I had two friends who contacted me from my home state, one was a close friend for 25 years, the other someone I had known since childhood but with whom I never had a close relationship. They have let me vent and cry and talk about all that I was learning from psychology literature and sermons. I was DETERMINED not to let my husband or his family control me or my emotions any more. I was MADE from being angry and sad. I fully focused on my relationship with God and the pursuit of mental health only through knowledge and prayer and learning to control my thoughts. Then about 6 weeks ago, I started looking for health also for some physical problems that I have had for over 20 years. It is a journey and I am just beginning, but I am determined to be happy despite my situation, I am on a hard sprint in search of peace. I am moving forward and proving that no one else, no situation and no horrible circumstance will dictate how I see things. I am the only person in my family committed to this approach,

I say all that to show that you can get through hell, it can seem completely hopeless and you can literally be curled up in a ball crying in depression, and you can still get up, find hope again, and refuse to leave anything or anything. Anyone else controls your peace, your joy, your mind and your emotions. I say all that, I hope, to give you some hope as well.

While I know everyone's path is different, that doesn't mean we can't get help from what others go through as well. For me, listening to Joyce Meyer was the most healing and revealing, her book Healing the Soul of a Woman (which is equally applicable to men and women) was life-changing, as was the book Do Yourself a Favor and Forgive. Your sermons / podcasts have helped in a nice, sensible but fun and moving way. Another great pair of pastors are Ron Carpenter and Steven Furtick. They made me think, they helped me deal with some problems, and they helped me go on a journey that I am very excited about now. I can't believe that I can find joy and peace in the midst of this chaos and confusion, but I've really been seeing more and more. I hope something I said has helped you in some way, And I hope you know that you are not alone, although it is easy to feel that way. Hold on and never give up! Try to find someone you can trust to speak up and vent and even get advice from ... priceless ... and then go from there step by step. I really wish you the best!

I deal with my depression in a number of ways. First, I wake up in the morning after a good night's sleep, I immediately take my pills which include not only my vitamins but some antidepressants like Depakote, Zoloft, Clonidine, etc. After that, I'll make my bed. Next, I eat a hearty breakfast of scrambled eggs (or if there's anything left from Sunday before, my dad's wonderful buttermilk pancakes), orange juice, and toast. Then I'll take a quick shower and get dressed, although I may need help finding something that works. So, I'll immediately go for the comics.

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I deal with my depression in a number of ways. First, I wake up in the morning after a good night's sleep, I immediately take my pills which include not only my vitamins but some antidepressants like Depakote, Zoloft, Clonidine, etc. After that, I'll make my bed. Next, I eat a hearty breakfast of scrambled eggs (or if there's anything left from Sunday before, my dad's wonderful buttermilk pancakes), orange juice, and toast. Then I'll take a quick shower and get dressed, although I may need help finding something that works. Then I'll immediately go for the comics and puzzles from the local newspaper and forget about the annoying politics and not to mention the disturbing things that I have no control over. That is my morning.

In the afternoon if it is a Thursday I will have lunch, I will try to watch the local news just to see the weather and know what to expect in terms of what to wear in the next few days etc. Then again on Thursday, I will go to my volunteer work at a library from 1:00 to 3:00 which I enjoy being in because I like the people I volunteer for and not to mention I feel like I am contributing to the community by helping others in need. When I'm at work at 2:00 PM I'll have a soda from the soda machine in the lobby to grab my afternoon pills that I have in my wallet and then I'll go back to doing what I love to do, which is to help. to others.

After I get home from work, I'll have a sandwich of applesauce, string cheese, and club soda. When I'm done with my snack, I'll be in my room, whether it's watching TV, reading, or going online on my Kindle. Next I will offer to help out in the kitchen when it comes time to make dinner because I love learning how to cook and there may be a time in my life when I can live in an apartment somewhere and have a hearty meal to cook . And don't just rely on microwave dinners. During dinner with my family, which consists of me, my wonderful parents, and my wonderful older brother, I will usually be watching Jeopardy! And the four of us will have fun answering some of the questions that come up from the show's categories. After dinner I'll ask if there is anything I can do to help my mom in the kitchen, which will usually be to dry the dishes that are in the drainer and put them away. Finally, at some point I will have a cup of hot cocoa, take my night pills, go to bed, read, sleep well, and get up to do it all over again. And that, ladies and gentlemen, is an adventure for me, Steven, dealing with depression. I hope this helps! God bless you all! It's an adventure for me, Steven, dealing with depression. I hope this helps! God bless you all! It's an adventure for me, Steven, dealing with depression. I hope this helps! God bless you all!

I have been under severe depression in my life. I couldn't understand what I was going through in the early days. Days passed and turned into years, but I couldn't understand why I feel sad, sad, weak and crying all the time. But lately, after almost 6 years, I could understand that I had been under depression and used to have anxiety attacks.

One very important thing is to first understand your own behavior and consult a psychiatrist. I tried to control, heal and stop this depression and this feeling of sadness, but at first it did not work on my own. All I wanted is someone who doesn't just smooth

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I have been under severe depression in my life. I couldn't understand what I was going through in the early days. Days passed and turned into years, but I couldn't understand why I feel sad, sad, weak and crying all the time. But lately, after almost 6 years, I could understand that I had been under depression and used to have anxiety attacks.

One very important thing is to first understand your own behavior and consult a psychiatrist. I tried to control, heal and stop this depression and this feeling of sadness, but at first it did not work on my own. All I wanted is someone who not only listens to me, but understands that he is not wrong and that his actions, words, expressions or emotions are not under his control due to this feeling of depression.

And a psychotherapist listens. So finally, after 7 years of intermittently struggling with depression, I gave it a try and went to the therapist. In the first sessions, I used to cry and say everything that had been in my heart since childhood. And no therapist listened. He listened calmly, never saying that I was wrong somewhere or that my thinking had turned negative. I felt after having many other people as well, with whom I can share my heart and they will definitely listen but they will not have a solution. These people may just feel sorry for me, or just say some understanding words that will never make me feel better.

But I really suggest to you that a therapist does not act like a friend, in fact he is a friend, a parent, a doctor, a listener, a problem solver, etc. And in addition to consulting a psychotherapist, you can make a program for each particular day to watch motivational videos, participate in daily sports activities and exercise. Exercise is the best way to get rid of depression and even fight it.

Remember, consulting a psychotherapist will not make you a psychohuman or you will not be labeled "insane." He is a doctor like other doctors. He specializes in problems related to our brain and behavior. So you don't have to feel bad or feel sorry for yourself if you see a therapist. He will understand you the way no one else understands and will help your brain exercise in a way that makes it healthier.

Well, depression can range from the time to work on a new playlist or go to a movie in a real theater to that black hole that consumes your soul and pushes you into an abyss of pain so you can fight the numbness. That last example takes a long time to fix and antidepressants are a good idea. Depression can take years to corner into a manageable place, and reacting to it will likely spiral downward. I take this very seriously.

  1. When your soul is crushed by death, abuse, isolation, and trauma, you must treat yourself like someone with a giant wound. How long did it take you to get to this point?
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Well, depression can range from the time to work on a new playlist or go to a movie in a real theater to that black hole that consumes your soul and pushes you into an abyss of pain so you can fight the numbness. That last example takes a long time to fix and antidepressants are a good idea. Depression can take years to corner into a manageable place, and reacting to it will likely spiral downward. I take this very seriously.

  1. When your soul is crushed by death, abuse, isolation, and trauma, you must treat yourself like someone with a giant wound. How long did it take you to get to this point? Give yourself so much time to heal. Do you have an ingrained place in your soul that you can return to? If the answer is no, you need more than a new playlist, you need to invent a new person and heal your inner child. Please keep reading.
  2. Remuneration is tempting because the trauma that occurs when a child reappears as poor decision-making throughout life. You experience the trauma more when you reach adulthood and that inner child that never had a childhood starts screaming. Would you terrorize a young child with a daily dose of horror shows, that is, pay? You probably want a narrative that says, “That's not me. That abused kid hiding in the corner needs to grow up or get out. "But the real kid did see the horror show, and he won't progress until that kid is properly cared for. So the first thing you need to do is stop scaring the child. As necessary as it is to build a personal adult narrative, you must put that aside and save the child.
  3. You cannot bully a child into growing up. If you cannot get your child to a safe place, take him to a safer place. Watch the sunrise or the setting of the moon. If it is raining, read them a story or teach them to meditate. A child has not learned to calm himself, nor to delay gratification, they are totally reactive creatures and depend on others to teach them how to do it. So if your child is anxious or moody, it's all about quality time, no shame, and allowing him a safe place and private crying within reason. The keys here are actionable steps, smooth progress, and feeling safe and LOVED.
  4. Is your child ready to grow socially? That's the difficult one, everyone is looking at an adult and you have a child talking to them. Formal settings are the best. Kind of like a church, but any group activity will do, they want your money and they are all good enough to get it. Your child will make many mistakes and will need to go through rejection to grow. This is where your child, a child who loves, learns the early stages of forgiveness and hope.
  5. Your child needs daily physical care! You may never have been cared for, but you should study and practice it. It's incredibly easy to mistake hygiene and personal health for an eating disorder in a dysfunctional environment. So if your child needs to lose weight, look for something with a long history of success, like weight watchers and a Fitbit. Teach them to brush their teeth, eat a healthy diet, sleep regularly, and exercise according to the standards set by the National Institute of Health.
  6. There are many forms of substance abuse that give you second reward for years of pain, ranging from heroin to ice cream. Even obsessions, like popping pimples, can turn into time-consuming behaviors that push away any potential for love when you need to pop someone else's pimples. You have to deal with bad habits with the same compassion that you would with a child who wets the bed. Every day, wash your sheets and put on clean ones.
  7. Set long-term goals. Sometimes there is no good answer, but there is always a better answer. Pick the best one and when you get the chance, pick a better one. Life can change for a penny in a good way, but the most important thing to believe is that your health and happiness can be achieved in small doable steps, the ones that can be taken by a child or an older person.
  8. Don't mess with people. They don't need to understand, they don't have attention span, and they don't have answers. Good advice comes from a well-traveled path of effort coupled with good books or therapy. There are tons of free books in the library.
  9. The rules change. In my day, therapists liked to tell you to write a letter to your abuser, and they would figure it out once you've fixed it. They don't do that anymore. If people have hurt you, you have not learned to distance yourself from idiots. Jesus told you to be a doormat! You can only fix this problem by taking responsibility when relationships fail, even if the other guy was an idiot, even if that idiot was someone who biologically should have been better. They weren't and now you own it. You will discover that as you recover, it is less painful to think about them and beautiful things come to light that you recognize as a contribution to your life, maybe it is just raisin bread but, at least, it is something.
  10. Wow, shouldn't there be 10 rules? If someone gave you a ticket to visit this planet, where would you go? Life is about the journey, not the destination.

I can't know your situation exactly, but I can tell you what clicked after living in the dark for over two years and suffering from suicidal thoughts.

I calculated the number of pills I had to take to trigger total organ failure, calculated the dosage over a 24 hour period so that my body wouldn't reject them, and put them by my bedside to desensitize myself.

In the afternoons after work I was in the gym lifting weights and doing some cardio so I could wear down my body to the point where I fell asleep as soon as I got home.

Not to mention, I was scared to be home.

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I can't know your situation exactly, but I can tell you what clicked after living in the dark for over two years and suffering from suicidal thoughts.

I calculated the number of pills I had to take to trigger total organ failure, calculated the dosage over a 24 hour period so that my body wouldn't reject them, and put them by my bedside to desensitize myself.

In the afternoons after work I was in the gym lifting weights and doing some cardio so I could wear down my body to the point where I fell asleep as soon as I got home.

Not to mention, I was scared to stay home with those pills.

While at the gym, I would pull the hoodie over my head so that no one could see the tears running down my face while I was pedaling that damn bike.

One particular night I felt the need to reach out to a friend of mine, someone I had known for half a decade and whom I love very much to this day. She had been present in my life long before darkness descended on me and was a solid source of support and forceful feedback when I needed her.

A year before tonight, he confessed to me that he had feelings for me and wanted to explore those feelings with me. I didn't feel the same way about her, so I was honest with her and after a few months our friendship returned to normal.

When I approached her tonight, I asked her:

“When you wanted to go on a date last year… Didn't it seem like I was broken? What did you see in me?

His response was quick and simple, as always.

“I never saw you broken. You are complex, Rick. High highs and low lows ".

In that moment, my whole perspective changed. I had been trying to "fix" myself for years when I was never broke to begin with. I let external circumstances and past mistakes determine who and what I was and all it took to change that was to use a different word to describe the underlying reason why I felt my emotions so strongly, and why I was also feeling it. it would feel so empty, and why would it. sometimes I feel nothing at all.

That night changed everything for me.

If they hadn't given me that gift, I may not have been here to write this, but once it was given to me, it was still left to me to use. I had no idea that I was preparing to commit suicide, all he did was answer one question: it was my decision to replace "broken" with "complex" to save my life.

Don't wait for someone else to save you.

You have all the power in the universe to alter your perspective on life, your mind, your heart, and your soul.

With that said, you can begin to take practical steps to improve your mood and trigger the release of certain chemicals and hormones that will help you.

  • Download headspace and start meditating for 10 minutes a day every morning.
  • Go to a gym (preferably a group fitness style gym like CrossFit or Orange Theory or whatever uses a community environment to encourage and be accountable).
  • Eat a healthy diet of fresh food, I don't care if you are vegetarian, vegan or meat eater, avoid processed junk.
  • Do a Google search for volunteer options nearby and find a way to donate your time to someone or organization in need.
  • Think of something you've always wanted to try and take a class like that (cooking, a sport, improvisation, writing, public speaking, etc.) that will force you to be around other people and get out of your comfort zone.
  • Spend time with friends. Don't just text or call, be physically present with other human beings who love you.
  • Escribir. No importa lo mal que seas un escritor, cuando tengas pensamientos oscuros, escríbelos. Inicie una nota en su teléfono y grábelo. Simple y llanamente, pero tienes que sacarte esos pensamientos de la cabeza para que dejen de golpear ahí arriba.
  • In addition to writing, find a way to express yourself creatively that you love - painting, drawing, singing, playing music - I don’t care, just find something and don’t make excuses.

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