My 25-year-old daughter still lives with me and sits in her room watching Netflix and can't get a job. I don't want to leave her on the street, but I'm tired of her living with me at this age. What can I do to get you a job?

Updated on : December 6, 2021 by Morgan Gill



My 25-year-old daughter still lives with me and sits in her room watching Netflix and can't get a job. I don't want to leave her on the street, but I'm tired of her living with me at this age. What can I do to get you a job?

Have you tried to find a job? Do you have any usable skills or experience or a degree? Have you trained her in any way?

Then if you do, then you should use your knowledge not to watch TV all day. But even if you don't have anything acceptable to help her, can you afford to send her off to college? Your age does not matter, many men and women are now in their 20s and 30s. Or to a trade school. What other interests does she have? None? At 25, you need a little pressure to go back to school or go out into the real world every day watching. You can go to a local professional employment agency and

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Have you tried to find a job? Do you have any usable skills or experience or a degree? Have you trained her in any way?

Then if you do, then you should use your knowledge not to watch TV all day. But even if you don't have anything acceptable to help her, can you afford to send her off to college? Your age does not matter, many men and women are now in their 20s and 30s. Or to a trade school. What other interests does she have? None? At 25, you need a little pressure to go back to school or go out into the real world every day watching. You can go to a local Professional Employment Agency and even start like many, being a waitress, working as a physiotherapist in a cafeteria or in a store.

Now reassure her that you care about her, that you love her, but it's time to at least try to find a job. They are out there, no excuses. Granted, it may not make a living for itself, but it can at least help pay some of the bills at home. Do you pay for your cell phone, wi-fi, cable TV, maybe a car and gas, insurance, etc.? cut it and force the problem.

You can help if she doesn't know how to look, go to an employment agency, do an interview, write a resume, but can't do the actual daily search.

You're enabling it if you hear the same old ladies, the same old excuses, but no one will hire me, I'm too dumb to find a job, I don't have good clothes, I need a car. I have to have my cell phone if they call me, let her use her number. Also check if you are really looking. it may not be.

What about your contacts who can help? Have him check with the State Human Resources Office as well. Get her off her butt and try to help her however you can, but she needs to grow up and you need to help her understand that it is time.

Maybe even the Military, 3 hots, a crib, free rent, and OJT.

Finally, if you've tried to start it, if you've tried and haven't found something, then good luck.

My father said something to me many, many times throughout his life, and it is something that I am now telling my 22-year-old daughter who is finishing her college education.

"No matter how old you are, you will always be welcome to live in my house."

He didn't mean I could sit on the couch all day drinking soda and binge-watching Netflix. He never had to tell me that he had to have a job and pay the rent, but I'm not the type of person who would take advantage of my parents in that way either. When my sister moved back home after her divorce, she paid her fair share of rent and utilities.

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My father said something to me many, many times throughout his life, and it is something that I am now telling my 22-year-old daughter who is finishing her college education.

"No matter how old you are, you will always be welcome to live in my house."

He didn't mean I could sit on the couch all day drinking soda and binge-watching Netflix. He never had to tell me that he had to have a job and pay the rent, but I'm not the type of person who would take advantage of my parents in that way either. When my sister moved back home after her divorce, she paid her fair share of rent and utilities while saving to move into her own place. He really appreciated having the security of a roof over his head that he was in no danger of losing.

Before taking any action, make sure your daughter is not suffering from something like depression, bipolar disorder, etc. There could be something underlying that needs to be addressed.

If there is no medical or mental situation, your daughter is taking advantage of you. She's being lazy, and it's time for her to get her butt off the couch, get a job, and start contributing to her home. It's time for her to build a life for herself.

It's your house, so it's your rules.

Give you 30 to 90 days to get a job; any job regardless of whether it is minimum wage or not. At this point, you need to establish a solid work ethic, and if that means throwing in fries until you find something better, so be it. That's what I had to do when I lost my job working for a multi-million dollar consumer goods company. I took a job as a part-time receptionist just to slow down the rate at which I was losing financially. I still couldn't cover my living expenses, but I wasn't too proud to take what I could get at the time. If the circus had hired an elephant poop collector, he would have taken that job. Something was better than nothing as I tried to rebuild my life.

At the end of the period you set, you will be asked to pay rent, a portion of utilities, food, and your personal expenses. You need to start covering your fair share of expenses. You set the dollar amounts to match what she earns, and as your income increases, so does your charge. You are teaching her to take care of herself while still in a safe environment.

If they don't comply, remove them from Netflix (change password or temporarily cancel). Since she does not have a job, I assume you are paying for it, so it is her account that needs to be canceled. Change your cell phone plan to cut data and limit it to phone and text messages. Cut off your access to all technology inside the house and remove the TV and other luxury items from your room, except for essential items. She can get them back when she gets a job and starts contributing to the home. She has no right to anything. These things are a privilege and privileges must be earned.

You can go to the public library or job resource center during the day to actively look for work, so don't believe him when he complains that you need access at home. She does not. You can even walk out, walk from store to store, and ask for requests. My ex-husband took care of both the hike and the library / work resource center, and he found a good job while living in a sober living house (he lost his good job due to his addiction).

They are over 18 years old, so you are no longer obliged to provide them with anything. If she is really lazy, then she will adjust to not having all the luxury items she used to have, and will constantly complain and whine. If he really wants them back, he will come out of his laziness and abide by your rules.

Again, you pay the mortgage, so she has no say in how she runs her home. If you don't like it, you can go. You will just have to work hard to be able to afford to leave.

You're not kicking her out this way, but you're forcing her out of her comfort zone where she seems perfectly content to stay. It's called tough love.

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