My 17-year-old son is friends with a 12-year-old girl. This is bad?

Updated on : January 20, 2022 by Frederick Mitchell



My 17-year-old son is friends with a 12-year-old girl. This is bad?

I would be very skeptical about this as a parent. There is no reason for a 17-year-old boy who is full of hormones to date a 12-year-old developing girl. I understand that some children develop more slowly, especially if they are autistic, which makes it difficult for them to make friends in their own age group, but if you are going to be friends with a girl, you must be monitored by both parents of the little girl. girl and children's parents. Do not give them the opportunity to be together alone, do not give you the opportunity to be falsely accused of anything by the girl's family or the girl herself. Be

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I would be very skeptical about this as a parent. There is no reason for a 17-year-old boy who is full of hormones to date a 12-year-old developing girl. I understand that some children develop more slowly, especially if they are autistic, which makes it difficult for them to make friends in their own age group, but if you are going to be friends with a girl, you must be monitored by both parents of the little girl. girl and children's parents. Do not give them the opportunity to be together alone, do not give you the opportunity to be falsely accused of anything by the girl's family or the girl herself. Be very cautious is all I can say. This girl is probably in love with him and is led to believe that maybe he feels a certain way for her and she might feel compelled to show her affection by being around him. Remember that most teens see their friends with a car or sometimes an apartment or some form of freedom that they wish they had and this can affect them. It shows that they did things together, that they are great and have so much freedom that their Friends wish they could have. This can lead them to look for a reason to leave the house and start breaking the rules. The ideas in a teenager's brain seem like big ideas at the time. I know this because I was also a teenager once. When I had my first car, everyone wanted to ride with me. When I had my own apartment, everyone ran away from home to hang out with me and with the unlimited amount of freedom I had. It got to the point where I thought he was hot shit and that he was the popular guy that everyone envied. It also leads to alcohol and drug abuse, as well as fights and violations of the laws. It's a slippery slope when it comes to teenagers and it's better to be weary of their motives and groups of friends they choose rather than regret later. Everyone knows that after being with someone long enough, one of two things will happen. One, or you start to get mad at that person and want a break from them, or two, you start to feel a liking and possible attraction to that person and you try to get closer to them. This is especially true when it comes to boys and girls being friends with each other. So does this girl always want to be with him or does he always want to be with her? Either way,

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"No, friendship is a beautiful thing, regardless of the ages and genders of the people involved."

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What do you mean "friends"? If they are literally just friends, that is, without any romantic or sexual aspects to the relationship, then all is well - you can learn a lot from an older friend.

If this is a romantic relationship, I would be more cautious: there is a big difference in maturity between 17 and 12, and even the kindest and most responsible older boy might be tempted to take advantage of that to get the girl further sexually. of what was prepared.

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Short answer

"No, friendship is a beautiful thing, regardless of the ages and genders of the people involved."

Longer answer

What do you mean "friends"? If they are literally just friends, that is, without any romantic or sexual aspects to the relationship, then all is well - you can learn a lot from an older friend.

If this is a romantic relationship, I would be more cautious: there is a big difference in maturity between 17 and 12, and even the kindest and most responsible older boy might be tempted to take advantage of that to get the girl further sexually. of what was prepared.

Basically it all depends on the nature of the friendship and what you know about your son and his friend; it's hard to give you a good answer without knowing more.

My daughter is 18 now, but if I had had a 17-year-old friend when she was 12, I just wanted to know who he was, know him, and know what kind of relationship they had. It would have started by assuming everything was fine. She has always had male friends, and we have encouraged her, but they have always been her age.

FWIW I had my first boyfriend when I was 14 and he was 17. A smaller gap than his son, but still enough to raise eyebrows between our friends. Interestingly, our parents did not express any concerns, but that could have been because the two families already knew each other quite well before we started dating. And it worked well. It didn't last, of course, but it was great while it did :-)

Well that's a little weird but I can't say where there is necessarily something wrong with that, maybe she has no friends and maybe she admires him and maybe he sees himself as some kind of mentor figure to his hell When I was 17 or 18. I had children as young as six or seven who hung out with me, but I enjoyed their company and had a lot of fun playing with them and it's not like I made them be my friends. more, less they took care of me on their own and I didn't have the heart to turn them down because all they really wanted was someone to listen to them and

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Well that's a little weird but I can't say where there is necessarily something wrong with that, maybe she has no friends and maybe she admires him and maybe he sees himself as some kind of mentor figure to his hell When I was 17 or 18. I had children as young as six or seven who hung out with me, but I enjoyed their company and had a lot of fun playing with them and it's not like I had made them my friends. plus, less they took care of me on their own and I didn't have the heart to turn them down because all they really wanted was someone to listen to them and talk to them Play with them and pay attention to them and I think it turned out to be that person and I'm pretty sure the people probably thought it was weird for a young man who was walking around with young children thanking me I think in the trailer park I lived in the moment I more or less became the local babysitter for all the parents there without really even I realized, they all sent their children outside to play with me or at my house because they knew I enjoyed spending time with them and that they would be safe. with me, Have you even tried approaching him on the matter yet because sometimes finding an answer is as easy as asking a question? But I hope this will help some whites to resolve any concerns they may have ask a question But I hope this will help some whites to resolve any concerns they may have ask a question But I hope this helps some whites to resolve any concerns they may have to have

If you are alone with her, you are opening yourself up to many accusations that, even if they are not true, could seriously affect your future in very negative ways. She is still in puberty and not even a teenager ... and is learning to relate to boys. However, your son is almost an adult. She is very gullible at this age. She might get mad at him and tell him something that isn't true, if she says she wants him to be her boyfriend at some point and he says no, we're just friends. A scorned teenager can cause a boy a lot of trouble. Are you driving it in your car? Be in your room or in your room listen

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If you are alone with her, you are opening yourself up to many accusations that, even if they are not true, could seriously affect your future in very negative ways. She is still in puberty and not even a teenager ... and is learning to relate to boys. However, your son is almost an adult. She is very gullible at this age. She might get mad at him and tell him something that isn't true, if she says she wants him to be her boyfriend at some point and he says no, we're just friends. A scorned teenager can cause a boy a lot of trouble. Are you driving it in your car? Being in your room or in your room listening to music, it does not matter if the door is open or not. Playing video games with her, taking her to the movies…. What is he doing that constitutes "Friend of" in your eyes? I would advise you never to be alone with her. Then she can never blackmail him. The question arises as to why he is not with friends his own age. He should be. It won't be long before people assume that he is a sexual predator and that he is simply "grooming" her to become a victim. What does your mother think of this friendship? What does your dad think of this friendship? His older brothers? What does your mother think of this friendship? What does your dad think of this friendship? His older brothers? What does your mother think of this friendship? What does your dad think of this friendship? His older brothers?

Pretty. A 12-year-old girl should spend her nights with other sixth or seventh graders. Laughing and getting enough sleep, and all the girlish nonsense. Because 12 years old are little girls. A 17-year-old boy is months away from voting, serving in the military, and graduating from high school. Her mind is on much more than that of a 12-year-old girl. Now, there should be 12 years. Old men think in the same terms as 17-year-olds. old, and they get intimate and get trapped, guess what? 17 years old is a rapist. Yes. By law enforcement. It does not matter if 12 years. the old man pleads with him. It doesn't matter if sh

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Pretty. A 12-year-old girl should spend her nights with other sixth or seventh graders. Laughing and getting enough sleep, and all the girlish nonsense. Because 12 years old are little girls. A 17-year-old boy is months away from voting, serving in the military, and graduating from high school. Her mind is on much more than that of a 12-year-old girl. Now, there should be 12 years. Old men think in the same terms as 17-year-olds. old, and they get intimate and get trapped, guess what? 17 years old is a rapist. Yes. By law enforcement. It does not matter if 12 years. the old man pleads with him. It doesn't matter if she looks 18. It doesn't matter if she has big breasts. It doesn't matter if she says she's 25 years old. He is guilty. By application of the law. Child abuse. Or in some states Rape in the second degree. Anyway, the best policy is to keep 16 years or more. 16 is the age of consent. I am NOT promoting children to have sex. You should not. But sometimes they do. It is not a good result. Always. So your 17 years old. old should not go with a 12 year old. old.

If I were the father of a 12-year-old girl, I certainly wouldn't allow her to date a 17-year-old boy.

And if I were the mother of a 17-year-old boy, I would certainly be worried if he wanted to date a 12-year-old girl.

The age difference is developmentally significant. The girl is much less mature than your son.

I would worry about her son because of his age, he could get into serious trouble if this friendship ever turned into something else before she came of age. Or if he supposedly had more than just a friendship with this girl. It's just not worth the risk of

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If I were the father of a 12-year-old girl, I certainly wouldn't allow her to date a 17-year-old boy.

And if I were the mother of a 17-year-old boy, I would certainly be worried if he wanted to date a 12-year-old girl.

The age difference is developmentally significant. The girl is much less mature than your son.

I would worry about her son because of his age, he could get into serious trouble if this friendship ever turned into something else before she came of age. Or if he supposedly had more than just a friendship with this girl. It's just not worth the risk for your child.

The answer to this question depends on what your relationship is like. If they're just friends, that's fine, friendship doesn't have any age difference. It all depends on the intention of your child as already mentioned by many here. If your relationship turns into something like a sexual relationship, then it is wrong due to the fact that your son could end up in jail for pedophilia.

You may want to talk to your child and warn him about those possibilities. It is better to ask him to stay away from the girl if he feels more than friendship towards her. People can do crazy things when they are

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The answer to this question depends on what your relationship is like. If they're just friends, that's fine, friendship doesn't have any age difference. It all depends on the intention of your child as already mentioned by many here. If your relationship turns into something like a sexual relationship, then it is wrong due to the fact that your son could end up in jail for pedophilia.

You may want to talk to your child and warn him about those possibilities. It is better to ask him to stay away from the girl if he feels more than friendship towards her. People can do crazy things when they are in love. Your child is probably just telling you that they are just friends, but you don't really know if that's the truth or not. Perhaps they feel something for each other and are afraid to tell the world about it due to the fact that one is a boy and the other is almost a grown man.

This type of relationship can destroy parents and children's lives. I would understand that if the girl were 15 or something like that, but 17 years and 12 years do not even mate to be friends, depending on the circumstances.

It depends on how friendly it is. Do they go upstairs to your room to hang out on their own? Or do they just know each other because they live together and walk home from school together? I would not be happy with my 12 year old daughter hanging out with a 17 year old or my 17 year old son hanging out with a 12 year old.

The age difference is too great at this age, interests, personalities. I know when I was 15 I thought I knew everything and started seeing a 20 year old boy. My mom and dad were furious. I rebelled, thinking it was cool to go out in his car and date an older guy, but they were so cool, it was me.

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It depends on how friendly it is. Do they go upstairs to your room to hang out on their own? Or do they just know each other because they live together and walk home from school together? I would not be happy with my 12 year old daughter hanging out with a 17 year old or my 17 year old son hanging out with a 12 year old.

The age difference is too great at this age, interests, personalities. I know when I was 15 I thought I knew everything and started seeing a 20 year old boy. My mom and dad were furious. I rebelled, thinking it was cool to go out in his car and date an older guy, but they were so cool, what was I thinking !! A couple of years later I wondered what I had been thinking that my brain had developed and I grew, but even from 17 to 21 I changed. Girls develop earlier than boys, which is why we all thought that the children of our year were too childish. But this is definitely wrong (in my opinion) at 12 she is still a girl, even if she thinks she is not and what does her son find in common with her at that age? Although it is crazy as we get older it is not so relevant, my husband is 4 years older than me, but as we both said, we would not have mingled or even looked at when I was 12 and he was 16. So I would definitely ask some questions and see what this friendship entails. Are your parents happy with that?

There is nothing inherently wrong with it.

There may be a few things that you would like to discuss with your child because there are many stigmas that teens are driven by sex or are only romantically interested in people because they are of different ages.

Try to make sure that you both understand your expectations of each other. If one is very dedicated to a romantic endeavor, but the other is strictly platonic, then you need to understand what kind of contact is okay (hugs, pats on the head, pats on the back, etc.) and what is not (like touches on the upper thigh, butt, chest, groin, etc.). I recommend that they are

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There is nothing inherently wrong with it.

There may be a few things that you would like to discuss with your child because there are many stigmas that teens are driven by sex or are only romantically interested in people because they are of different ages.

Try to make sure that you both understand your expectations of each other. If one is very dedicated to a romantic endeavor, but the other is strictly platonic, then you need to understand what kind of contact is okay (hugs, pats on the head, pats on the back, etc.) and what is not (like touches on the upper thigh, butt, chest, groin, etc.). I recommend that you are not alone or that your child bring another friend if you or the child's father cannot be around. Let your child know how things like lying in the same bed can be misinterpreted by others. Just help him understand what is appropriate platonic behavior and what is possibly incriminating.

Personally, I am 19 years old, the son of my father's friend is 12 years old (he is like a cousin to me) and his (real) cousins ​​are between 12 and 13 years old, some women. We have strong platonic friendships based on video games, card games, sports, fireworks, and other simple fun activities. They are my friends and there is no way relationships can be mistaken for exploitative.

No way! This is perfectly fine in every way. I myself am 15 years old, and I am friends with people who have finished high school, about 22 years old. Of course I've known them since I was young, but that doesn't matter. I find it easier to get along with friends who are older than you because they are easier to get along with and you could say anything to them. Some also exert a good influence because they are more mutual than you and affect your behavior. When I was 12, those 22-year-old friends I have now were between 17 and 18 years old. There is nothing really wrong. The only way this could be inappropriate

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No way! This is perfectly fine in every way. I myself am 15 years old, and I am friends with people who have finished high school, about 22 years old. Of course I've known them since I was young, but that doesn't matter. I find it easier to get along with friends who are older than you because they are easier to get along with and you could say anything to them. Some also exert a good influence because they are more mutual than you and affect your behavior. When I was 12, those 22-year-old friends I have now were between 17 and 18 years old. There is nothing really wrong. The only way this could be inappropriate is if your son is trying to be intimate with the girl. In that case, he would immediately separate them and take matters into his own hands.

If they are just friends, then there is an inappropriate note about friendship.

However, some 12-year-old girls look and act 9 and some look and act 16 (going to 24). Your son is SEVENTEEN !! If there is any chance that there is something romantic or it could be something romantic, he is getting into trouble and she could get hurt.

There is also the possibility of accusations being made if things get unfriendly. An accusation of sexual misconduct will likely ruin your life. And it doesn't even have to be true for that to happen.

Therefore, even if nothing inappropriate is happening, it may be wise

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If they are just friends, then there is an inappropriate note about friendship.

However, some 12-year-old girls look and act 9 and some look and act 16 (going to 24). Your son is SEVENTEEN !! If there is any chance that there is something romantic or it could be something romantic, he is getting into trouble and she could get hurt.

There is also the possibility of accusations being made if things get unfriendly. An accusation of sexual misconduct will likely ruin your life. And it doesn't even have to be true for that to happen.

So even if nothing inappropriate is happening, it may still be wise to put some controls in place. As if the two of them were never alone.

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