I no longer feel happy at work. That I have to do?

Updated on : January 17, 2022 by Amirah Vincent



I no longer feel happy at work. That I have to do?

You have two options ...

a. Bury your feelings and move on. Try to fool yourself into thinking that this is just a temporary feeling. Let the years pass and allow yourself to sink into depression and despair, hating others and taking your frustration out on the people you really care about. Then at one point you let it all come out, whether it's someone you love or your boss / coworker at a very inappropriate time and then you wonder why you didn't choose the path you didn't take.

B. Join! Take a break for a day and go to your quiet place; you may enlist the help of a friend who knows you very well. Don't ask the

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You have two options ...

a. Bury your feelings and move on. Try to fool yourself into thinking that this is just a temporary feeling. Let the years pass and allow yourself to sink into depression and despair, hating others and taking your frustration out on the people you really care about. Then at one point you let it all come out, whether it's someone you love or your boss / coworker at a very inappropriate time and then you wonder why you didn't choose the path you didn't take.

B. Join! Take a break for a day and go to your quiet place; you may enlist the help of a friend who knows you very well. Don't ask for their opinion, they are just to support you and make sure you don't waste your time.
Now, take a quick introspection about your current office life - what feels bad, why, and what you've done about it. Don't think about people, they don't matter here. If you find that you haven't done anything about it, plan what you might need to do to get it the way you want it to; This could mean talking to your boss about a raise / different project / on-site / sabbatical / role change. Be clear and concise - dig into each question (your friend could help here) until you get to the root cause of what's wrong. Once you do this, don't procastrine and take immediate action. You will be amazed at what you can achieve!

If, on the other hand, you find that, despite taking the necessary measures, you are still not satisfied, then it is time to change your job or role. If your boss or your company won't let you change roles, it's time to say goodbye. Trust me, there are a lot of jobs, you just need to know where to look. Again, don't delay, take action and follow up! Most people miss the last part and will get back to where they started quickly.

Remember, it is your choice. I'm pretty sure you won't choose option A. I hit the same wall a while ago: I was unhappy and dissatisfied at my job; He quit without having any job offer and was unemployed for 4 months. I never gave up and soon got another job. Now I am abroad with no regrets.

I feel this myself and hear people say this to me so many times that I sometimes wonder if the number of people in the world who are not happy with their work is greater than the number of people who are happy with theirs.

I think the bottom line is that mismatch is a more common occurrence in the world than we'd like to acknowledge. This is perhaps what drives unhappiness for so many things: jobs, relationships, etc.

When there is a mismatch, three things are helpful as a remedy. It's about making decisions, striving to eliminate the mismatch, and learning to live with the mismatch.

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I feel this myself and hear people say this to me so many times that I sometimes wonder if the number of people in the world who are not happy with their work is greater than the number of people who are happy with theirs.

I think the bottom line is that mismatch is a more common occurrence in the world than we'd like to acknowledge. This is perhaps what drives unhappiness for so many things: jobs, relationships, etc.

When there is a mismatch, three things are helpful as a remedy. It's about making decisions, striving to eliminate the mismatch, and learning to live with the mismatch.

Exercising options can be done correctly only when you understand what options you have, what your preferences are, and what your commitments are. Life does not make your choices clear to you. Consciousness does. I found that lack of awareness is a common problem among those who are unhappy with their work. They are often stuck because they are not aware of what there is to improve. What roles can they aspire to? What training will substantially improve your prospects? Consciousness often helps people to grab ripe fruit. To understand your preferences and commitments, you need maturity. Once again, I found that people who are unhappy in their serial jobs also have a hard time articulating in proper terms what feels good to them or what they can't do without, except for some general expressions like 'I can't do without work' or 'I hope my work is safer'. The difference lies in the ability to identify the exact qualities that make a particular job safer or more enjoyable among others or for how long you will have to pay the bills, what amounts of money you need to accumulate to pay for children's tuition, what it is necessary to make investments and others. What are your skills? Are they technical, can you present well, can you influence people well? Does it have a social advantage or (disadvantage)? In some places (read many or most) that matters too. As an example, I have heard of companies that favor East Asians because there is a perception that they are tame and "manageable." If you are an East Asian and do not mix with this stereotype, imagine your difficult situation if you worked there. And when you work there, realizing what is happening is not as easy as you think. I've mixed quite a few things here, but I hope my points on awareness and maturity have not been missed.

Sometimes mismatches can be removed with a little effort. You're in luck if your problem can be viewed simplistically and it works sometimes. If you don't like your job because you lack a certain skill, just make an effort to figure it out. Be careful, if you hold a grudge against the people in your company, you may not be able to find simplistic solutions. Are other people in your company facing the same difficulties as you? This becomes more revealing because obviously your company is not doing its part to eliminate the mismatch. But again, the reality is that, just as there are few countries in the world that make the proper effort to understand the needs of their citizens, there are few companies in the world that choose and train their employees well. And that's why people flock to these few countries and companies. In other places you have to put your own efforts to make things happen. Learn to be happy doing that.

If you are mindful, mature, and put your efforts in the right place, you should be in a better situation. If you are still stuck in the same situation, understand that you have to live with it. There are people who do not live in North America, Europe or Japan and there are people who do not work for Google or Amazon. However, many of them live with a smile on their face. Perhaps they have faith that if they keep trying, better prospects will come. They may realize that bitterness is meaningless. Perhaps, they have learned not to ask for the optimum when it is not an option.

PS: Oh, I hadn't seen your "feel discrimination" note until after you posted this answer. I don't know how much my answer will help, because it is a general response for workplace unhappiness, not specific for handling discrimination.

I think I am in a position to answer this question. I was going through Quora and suddenly came across this question. Let me tell my story.

Today I quit my job, while I was working I was thinking about traveling around the country that I like, I used to feel lonely and depressed at work every day, I feel under constant pressure, I wake up every day and think about going to the office worsens my life.

So finally to get rid of all these problems I decided to quit my job and exactly today is the day that I quit my job without a future plan and without any other work in hand.

And you know now I

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I think I am in a position to answer this question. I was going through Quora and suddenly came across this question. Let me tell my story.

Today I quit my job, while I was working I was thinking about traveling around the country that I like, I used to feel lonely and depressed at work every day, I feel under constant pressure, I wake up every day and think about going to the office worsens my life.

So finally to get rid of all these problems I decided to quit my job and exactly today is the day that I quit my job without a future plan and without any other work in hand.

And you know that now I feel more relaxed, more comfortable and I felt that I lost 100 kilos of weight, now my current plan is to travel around the country with the savings I made, I will do what I want now and I will tell people my work story . and travel. Now I was at home and once the confinement in our country is over I will start my trip and I would also like to interact with different types of people and curiosity to know their cultures in our country.

There are many people who do not like their work but continue to work. I want people to make drastic changes in their lives.

"I want to sing like the birds sing without worrying about who hears and what they think" -Rumi

"The journey, not the destination, matters" - TS Eliot

Make a checklist:

Ask yourself why you are no longer happy at work.
Is it because of the work, the people, the change or that you are no longer passionate about that type of work?
Do you have enough savings to quit smoking and find another job?
What are your financial commitments?
Do you want to change careers?
Have you taken the necessary steps to do so?
Can you change your job title and apply for another position at your company?
Is your happiness at work diminished by another personal problem? If so, address those first.

Does your work fill you with purpose, a sense of identity, and room for growth, while

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Make a checklist:

Ask yourself why you are no longer happy at work.
Is it because of the work, the people, the change or that you are no longer passionate about that type of work?
Do you have enough savings to quit smoking and find another job?
What are your financial commitments?
Do you want to change careers?
Have you taken the necessary steps to do so?
Can you change your job title and apply for another position at your company?
Is your happiness at work diminished by another personal problem? If so, address those first.

Does your job fill you with purpose, a sense of identity, and room to grow, while you can pay your bills and save for retirement?


If not, a job change may be necessary.

From the information shared by you, it appears that you are in the early stage of your career, probably related to your B.Tech. education. However, you are more attracted to popular literature, including fiction. He also seems to be hesitating about his next step in pursuit of higher education / to improve his career prospects. Since you have a wavering mind that seems to wander between disciplines, I suggest that you undergo a full psychometric test from a reputable professional psychologist. That would give you more information about your true aptitude, interests / passion and maybe

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From the information shared by you, it appears that you are in the early stage of your career, probably related to your B.Tech. education. However, you are more attracted to popular literature, including fiction. He also seems to be hesitating about his next step in pursuit of higher education / to improve his career prospects. Since you have a wavering mind that seems to wander between disciplines, I suggest that you take a full psychometric test from a reputable professional psychologist. That would give you more information about your true aptitude, interests / passion, and maybe give you the right direction. You can consult the psychologist about career options thereafter, Otherwise, consult the elders of your family, as well as close friends who can provide an objective assessment of your personality and some suggestions on which career path would be right for you. It often happens that people pursue education and career in a single stream and then switch to a completely different profession later. Chetan Bhagat is a good example, as he too (like you) is a B.Tech (albeit IIT) and IIM-A alumnus, worked with a top-level FI in investment banking and then decided to become a writer . But he acknowledges that the journey or decision to become a full-time writer after leaving a lucrative banking career was not easy. Also, he had the freedom to make that decision as his wife is also well qualified like him (same batch of IIM-A), and it is one of the best in a private bank. which relieves Chetan of being the sole breadwinner in the family. So you can consider him as a role model, just like others like Chetan, like Amish Tripathi or Ravi Subramaniam, who also gave up their lucrative banking careers to become full-time writers. But, you need to know your capabilities, risk appetite, and aptitude for your chosen profession, as it can be very tempting to draw inspiration from others, without knowing your own strengths. This can happen to young people who are full of energy, but who may not have a suitable job. Therefore, reflect on your strengths and choose a career wisely. Good luck ! and aptitude for the chosen profession, since it can be very tempting to draw inspiration from others, without knowing your own strengths. This can happen to young people who are full of energy, but who may not have a suitable job. Therefore, reflect on your strengths and choose a career wisely. Good luck ! and aptitude for the chosen profession, since it can be very tempting to draw inspiration from others, without knowing your own strengths. This can happen to young people who are full of energy, but who may not have a suitable job. Therefore, reflect on your strengths and choose a career wisely. Good luck ! without knowing your own strengths. This can happen to young people who are full of energy, but who may not have a suitable job. Therefore, reflect on your strengths and choose a career wisely. Good luck ! without knowing your own strengths. This can happen to young people who are full of energy, but who may not have a suitable job. Therefore, reflect on your strengths and choose a career wisely. Good luck !

I was not happy at work, so I quit.

I know this is not an easy decision for most people; it was definitely not for me. However, before making that decision, I did consider a few things. Let me tell you. It would probably help.

First, consider the advantages and disadvantages. Will quitting your job benefit you? Or will it be beneficial if you stay? There are a few things you can factor in. Payment, for example.

Second, brainstorm why you work there in the first place. Do you still have a reason that motivates you, that drives you to work? If the m

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I was not happy at work, so I quit.

I know this is not an easy decision for most people; it was definitely not for me. However, before making that decision, I did consider a few things. Let me tell you. It would probably help.

First, consider the advantages and disadvantages. Will quitting your job benefit you? Or will it be beneficial if you stay? There are a few things you can factor in. Payment, for example.

Second, brainstorm why you work there in the first place. Do you still have a reason that motivates you, that drives you to work? If money is good, it may be your reason. If the environment is good, it can also be another reason. Or maybe your job helps you climb the stairs to success. You know yourself.

As for me, I have no problem if I quit my job and had no more reason to stay, so I left.

I hope this helps!

Many people in India face this problem.

It became a kind of psychological disorder.

No problem now.

Most of them with this problem look for a new job and just go and fit in there. They feel happy and again after a few days the same kinds of problems.

As I say, always fix the problems you face in and out of the office.

If the problem is greater in your office, change.

If it is from your family, talk to family members. If you need more time to stay with your family, ask your human resources manager for flexible work hours. Most companies offer fl

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Many people in India face this problem.

It became a kind of psychological disorder.

No problem now.

Most of them with this problem look for a new job and just go and fit in there. They feel happy and again after a few days the same kinds of problems.

As I say, always fix the problems you face in and out of the office.

If the problem is greater in your office, change.

If it is from your family, talk to family members. If you need more time to stay with your family, ask your human resources manager for flexible work hours. Most companies offer flexible work hours if you have experience.

You can buy more time. Be happy.

note: First solve your problems and then decide. Don't try to quit your job. Since a working person is healthier than the rest.

Work in the happy places (try to make your office happy)

Happiness above all, because only money and work are not the world.

Thank you very much for this, I am also having a very bad time with my work. This is the degree that I finished in college. I'm not happy with it, but I still do my best every time I work. What kills me is the idea of ​​being unhappy, that the job really isn't for me and the worst thing is that I can't just quit. Freeing myself is not easy, because now I am an adult, I am the oldest son who needs to help the family. Also, I quit now, the idea of ​​where to start over, where to apply and what to do next tortures me. I don't know where to put myself after I quit. I do not want

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Thank you very much for this, I am also having a very bad time with my work. This is the degree that I finished in college. I'm not happy with it, but I still do my best every time I work. What kills me is the idea of ​​being unhappy, that the job really isn't for me and the worst thing is that I can't just quit. Freeing myself is not easy, because now I am an adult, I am the oldest son who needs to help the family. Also, I quit now, the idea of ​​where to start over, where to apply and what to do next tortures me. I don't know where to put myself after I quit. I don't want to find myself suddenly crying due to depression. I'm just holding on to that ray of light, even that tiny chance of hope that someday, somewhere, I'll be able to find the job that really suits me.

Let's be honest here. Why do we work?

If you want to work for money, money is what you will get. If you want to work for happiness, happiness is what you will get. If you want to work for people, people are what you will get. It is not like this?

The problem with most of us is that we all work because we want money. It is not like this? And that's what we get. Money. It is not like this? He never applied for that job to get happiness in the first place. You wanted money and money is what you are getting. You should not mix money and happiness with your work. Your work is serving its purpose.

Now once you have enough money, you can

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Let's be honest here. Why do we work?

If you want to work for money, money is what you will get. If you want to work for happiness, happiness is what you will get. If you want to work for people, people are what you will get. It is not like this?

The problem with most of us is that we all work because we want money. It is not like this? And that's what we get. Money. It is not like this? He never applied for that job to get happiness in the first place. You wanted money and money is what you are getting. You should not mix money and happiness with your work. Your work is serving its purpose.

Now once you have enough money, you can look for a job that gives you happiness and happiness is what you will get in return I'm sure.

Let's take an example. Leo Tolstoy. He was born into an aristocratic Russian family and therefore never had to work for money. He chose writing as his work and is known for the novels War and Peace and Anna Karenina, often cited as pinnacles of realistic fiction.

This is where my roles as a coach and mentor are the most disparate.

As a coach, I would send you down a path of introspection to determine:

What are all the factors in your life that make you feel the way you currently feel?
How do you feel happy?
What must happen to bring you from your current state to one where you are "happy"?

As a mentor I'd tell you I've been there, it sucks.

I felt like I had a physical weight pressing on me so hard that I couldn't get out of bed and I was crying to work every day ...

And then I made the decision to leave and the weight lifted, t

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This is where my roles as a coach and mentor are the most disparate.

As a coach, I would send you down a path of introspection to determine:

What are all the factors in your life that make you feel the way you currently feel?
How do you feel happy?
What must happen to bring you from your current state to one where you are "happy"?

As a mentor I'd tell you I've been there, it sucks.

I felt like I had a physical weight pressing on me so hard that I couldn't get out of bed and I was crying to work every day ...

And then I made the decision to leave and the weight lifted, the tears stopped, and I was happy again.

There are two ways to approach it. If I am in your situation and I do not have any dependency, I would go to resignation first. If there are dependencies, taking into account my family origin, I would save the money that I would need for 6 months and I would look for a job that I loved in parallel and I would end with resignation. Whatever the path, the final solution is coming off it.

There is no point in doing a job you don't like. After all, life is short. No one will ever know what will happen in the next minute. You will get satisfaction and happiness at work only when you do what you love. Then no

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There are two ways to approach it. If I am in your situation and I do not have any dependency, I would go to resignation first. If there are dependencies, taking into account my family origin, I would save the money that I would need for 6 months and I would look for a job that I loved in parallel and I would end with resignation. Whatever the path, the final solution is coming off it.

There is no point in doing a job you don't like. After all, life is short. No one will ever know what will happen in the next minute. You will get satisfaction and happiness at work only when you do what you love. Therefore, never compromise on your dreams.

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