I feel sad or bad when my friends get a job. Why is this then?

Updated on : January 21, 2022 by Layne Madden



I feel sad or bad when my friends get a job. Why is this then?

It's really bad if you already have a job and you're worried that your friends have gotten a job, it's not if you don't have a job.
like human jealousy to some extent is good as long as it motivates you to get a good job sooner.
It may be that God has a better gift for you, keep everything focused on your goals, losing yourself in your goals until you do not have time to think about the achievements of others. sometimes inner peace is more important, work on that first.

Okay, I'm going to be really honest with you (which, some might say, is a polite way of saying, hey, I'll probably come out of this looking like an idiot, but please bear with me).
Being alone is not bad. Actually. It is not a conviction of any kind. It just takes a long time to get used to being alone. But let me tell you, it's not as bad as people think.

Do you know what is worse than not having friends? Having selfish parasites as friends who suck your living soul out of you. You have to accept the fact that some people are exactly what they seem:

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Okay, I'm going to be really honest with you (which, some might say, is a polite way of saying, hey, I'll probably come out of this looking like an idiot, but please bear with me).
Being alone is not bad. Actually. It is not a conviction of any kind. It just takes a long time to get used to being alone. But let me tell you, it's not as bad as people think.

Do you know what is worse than not having friends? Having selfish parasites as friends who suck your living soul out of you. You have to accept the fact that some people are exactly what they appear to be: self-centered and hateful, and it's not your fault if they decide to walk out of your life when they see no more use for you. Please don't hang around these people unnecessarily and look for some "hidden goodness" in them. You deserve much better than that.

A few years ago, I had a particularly difficult time. It was then that I lost a lot of my 'friends'. They just went ahead and let me suffer. They no longer wanted to spend time with me; I don't even know why, but it was probably because it wasn't fun anymore. I can't explain to you how hurt I was. I thought the problem was with me. Until I realized that there were still some people by my side and if they could love me in the midst of chaos, why couldn't the others? It was then that I decided not to give anyone else the power to hurt me.

But we are social animals. We need people to validate our existence from time to time. More than that, we need people, friends to share our lives with because what is the use of living when you have no one to talk to about it? And this is what I said to myself when I approached a girl who showed true potential to be the closest friend I've ever had. He was disappointed once again. Years of friendship disappeared in a matter of minutes. And it probably wasn't his fault. It was mine.

What we must understand is that people do not have an obligation to be nice to us. Yes, we often think that our friends would cross oceans for us, because we would do the same for them without hesitation. But not everything is the same.
It's not people who hurt us, it's our own expectations.

You will have to make thousands of friends to get a real one and even then you won't know for sure what you are signing up for. In my case, I have a terrible choice in people that often leads to disappointment. Most of the friends I've made so far are gone. I am alone. All alone. But not only. I have trained myself to be my own friend because that is something they can never take away from me.

So make friends, but keep your expectations low. When you help someone, don't think they will help you back down just out of gratitude; Trust me, in most cases you will get an excuse instead of gratitude. Help them, because you want to. I guess one day you will find what you are looking for, until you learn to love your own company. Discover yourself.

I repeat, staying alone is more of a blessing than a nightmare. Use your alone time wisely, it defines you.
All the best :)

Most people don't have friends. They have a lot of people who like what they can do for them, but they are acquaintances, not friends.

People really think they have a lot of friends, they just don't know how false that is, until they lose everything, and they turn to the people they thought were their friends for help.

I keep saying, people don't like you, they like what you can do for them. And they will continue to like it, until the day when you can no longer do anything for anyone. If that day comes, only then will they know who their friends were. Usually, they will be the people you least expect.

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Most people don't have friends. They have a lot of people who like what they can do for them, but they are acquaintances, not friends.

People really think they have a lot of friends, they just don't know how false that is, until they lose everything, and they turn to the people they thought were their friends for help.

I keep saying, people don't like you, they like what you can do for them. And they will continue to like it, until the day when you can no longer do anything for anyone. If that day comes, only then will they know who their friends were. Usually they will be the people you least expected. And not many of them.

So, let's get back to your question but with a twist. "How can I not feel bad about not having acquaintances?"

If you are alone without acquaintances to help you enjoy your vacation, or keep you company, or talk to you, you may be doing something wrong.

You may be looking in the wrong places.

You may be looking for the "wrong people."

Maybe you don't like giving and sharing too much.

Maybe you don't like yourself.

Find things that interest you and find people who share the same interests. If you find them, in a bar, in an art gallery, in a library, in an exhibition, in a forum or wherever, just go talk to them. Be interesting and learn to listen. Even if you want to get to know a particular person, find out what that person is interested in, learn about it, and once you've gotten enough information, on any topic that makes that person 'work', reach out to them and participate in a conversation. If you are interesting enough and willing to listen too, you will have a new acquaintance. From then on, it's up to you. As long as you are willing to share, as long as you can remain interesting, as long as the other person watches,

Therefore, do not stay home crying over the fact that you have no acquaintances. That will not change anything or help you in any way. It is not up to other people to change the position you are in. It's up to you.

Change the way you've been doing things. Read a few things about self confidence. If he doesn't like you, other people won't like you either. You don't need to be arrogant. All you need is to like yourself and accept yourself. Once you can do that, other people will start to accept it as well.

Be more confident in yourself, be nice, funny, crazy, nerdy, be what you want to be, but above all, be yourself and be interesting. Don't try to be something you are not to fit in. "Ahhh, but I'm not interesting." Well, get interesting. It takes practice, but you will get it. Just don't force yourself on people. If you have something of interest to give, they will come for you.

Change and your world will change with you.

Just don't expect the world to change to suit you. This is not how it works. Do you want something from the people? You have to have something of value to give. It can be anything, but you have to have something. As I said before. People like what you can do for them, not you. Is that how it works.

Peace :)

True friends? That's another history. Maybe you'll get one on the way. Possibly two. Don't expect much more than that.

Sadness is not a sign of having done anything wrong. Sadness is a normal part of life. It usually means that you are disappointed in something that happened. What happened did not meet your expectations nor did it hurt or hurt you.

If you feel that because you feel sad that you are doing something wrong, that indicates that you hope not to feel sad. Since sadness is part of everyone's experience, not waiting for sadness will increase the severity of any sadness you feel.

Even if you expect to feel disappointed from time to time, or even all the time, this does not eliminate sadness when you are disappointed.

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Sadness is not a sign of having done anything wrong. Sadness is a normal part of life. It usually means that you are disappointed in something that happened. What happened did not meet your expectations nor did it hurt or hurt you.

If you feel that because you feel sad that you are doing something wrong, that indicates that you hope not to feel sad. Since sadness is part of everyone's experience, not waiting for sadness will increase the severity of any sadness you feel.

Even if you expect to feel disappointed from time to time, or even all the time, this does not eliminate sadness when you are disappointed, but it can reduce it a bit. Most people hope that if they take an action, it will bring about the result they were trying to achieve. When your efforts do not produce that result or produce less than the expected result or expected result, you may feel sad.

Some people may not feel sad when their expectations are not met. Even more rarely, some people feel empowered when their expectations are not met. They respond by accepting the challenge. Not many people can do this.

Most people feel sad when their expectations are not met, and some also feel bad about themselves, as if they have done something wrong. It is not bad to have expectations. It's just that it's impossible to always meet your expectations, and sadness is the result when you don't meet your expectations.

Some people try to lower their expectations to avoid sadness. This can help, but it can also hurt, because people don't expect to have to lower expectations, so reducing expectations can also cause sadness. Sometimes people go into a self-reinforcing cycle where they lower expectations to try to protect themselves from sadness, but feel sad, anyway, because they didn't really expect to have to lower expectations. They then lower their expectations even further to try to protect themselves against sadness, but this actually triggers more sadness, which can, if the cycle repeats itself, turn into a constant and overwhelming sadness, also called "depression."

For most people, there is an ideal balance between having expectations that you can meet and expectations that you don't, resulting in sadness. Most people can handle a certain level of sadness without a problem. They don't get caught up in the cycle of depression and have little sadness that they can eventually bounce back and find a way to live up to their expectations. Sadness is a normal part of life. However, if there is too much sadness, that can cause deeper problems. But the difference between bearable sadness and too much sadness is different for everyone. However, no one is doing anything wrong if they feel sad. It is an unavoidable part of life.

Because you don't feel confident and satisfied with your own achievements and where you have come so far in your life. If you were feeling fulfilled and living up to your full potential, then you wouldn't be put off by the success of others, especially those close to you.

It is a sign of inner weakness when we cannot rejoice in the success of others. So our goal is to become strong on the inside. If you are a spiritual person, a believer, it will be easier for you. Otherwise (and along with your spirituality) I encourage you to practice mental exercises. you

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Because you don't feel confident and satisfied with your own achievements and where you have come so far in your life. If you were feeling fulfilled and living up to your full potential, then you wouldn't be put off by the success of others, especially those close to you.

It is a sign of inner weakness when we cannot rejoice in the success of others. So our goal is to become strong on the inside. If you are a spiritual person, a believer, it will be easier for you. Otherwise (and along with your spirituality) I encourage you to practice mental exercises. You need to counter the negative thoughts that come with someone else's success with affirmations like, "I'm good enough." "I don't need a lot of friends, just a few who are sincere." "God made me and loves me." “I am talented / intelligent / compassionate (whatever your attributes are) and I don't need to convince anyone that I am. I know it's true. And God knows the most important thing. "Etcetera ...

All of this will be very difficult to maintain if you are still not happy. So your goal is to be a happy person. And only you can make you happy. For me, it is not so much about what I am doing as it is about what I am. Do I care for others in need, see the good even when there is bad, appreciate the little things, smile and ask how others are? If I have a degree in Rocket Science, many fans, write a post in Science Quarterly and treat others badly, what is there to envy? Don't look outside. Look inside and there will be your answer.

Find your inner peace and live in peace!

Doing many things at the same time is not only your problem, it is a problem for many young people.

Before finding any solution we have to know the problems thoroughly.

So the problems are: -

  1. Our wishes are unlimited.
  2. We want all titles on our nameplate.
  3. The world is so competitive that we cannot ignore any opportunity.
  4. We lack perfect future planning.
  5. We want to be famous and successful at the same time.

If we discuss about this problem, we could find out in each person,

At the same time, we want to be a: -

  1. A good corporate man
  2. A successful businessman
  3. A star with a lot
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Doing many things at the same time is not only your problem, it is a problem for many young people.

Before finding any solution we have to know the problems thoroughly.

So the problems are: -

  1. Our wishes are unlimited.
  2. We want all titles on our nameplate.
  3. The world is so competitive that we cannot ignore any opportunity.
  4. We lack perfect future planning.
  5. We want to be famous and successful at the same time.

If we discuss about this problem, we could find out in each person,

At the same time, we want to be a: -

  1. A good corporate man
  2. A successful businessman
  3. A star with many fans hanging around.
  4. A cool boy with a lot of girls around.
  5. A very successful athlete.
  6. A billionaire
  7. A brilliant student in class.
  8. A good singer we even have the worst tone.
  9. Many people even try to be prime minister.
  10. Of course, a good photographer, clicking random photos of everything with a DSLR.

Ok these sound good individually but all qualities with one person, nahhh not possible (rajnikant may do)

Can you imagine PM modi at a musical concert singing the song “naadan parindey” no? No! No ! I can't even imagine it.

Can you imagine Bill Gates on the football team and hitting the ball for a brilliant goal (not possible)?

So, we want to be successful in our life, but in only one field it is good to be in two or three but not in all.

You can only be a good dancer or a good singer. If you want to try both, you will end up average. Yes, I agree that there are certain exemptions but they are exemptions.

There are certain things that will help you: -

  1. Proper future planning
  2. Measure your sheer strength.
  3. List the things you like or want to do.
  4. Do a proper market research by reading your list.
  5. Rank them accordingly
  6. Choose a certain number of things that are necessary.
  7. Schedule each thing accordingly.

Remember that life is a race and you have to run wisely.

Live the king size life.

Thanks.

I am so sorry that you feel like this, it is not a comfortable way to spend your days. I would first ask if you have talked to your doctor about this feeling and have been evaluated for clinical depression. Also the periods of feeling lonely are normal that we all do from time to time. However, if this is consistent, you may want to ask yourself if the friends you have are giving you positive experiences. Also, many times when we feel like this we also need to do an examination of conscience and see if there is something within us that we should work on, perhaps ways to develop our self-esteem and feelings.

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I am so sorry that you feel like this, it is not a comfortable way to spend your days. I would first ask if you have talked to your doctor about this feeling and have been evaluated for clinical depression. Also the periods of feeling lonely are normal that we all do from time to time. However, if this is consistent, you may want to ask yourself if the friends you have are giving you positive experiences. Also, many times when we feel this way, we also need to do some soul searching and see if there is something within us that we need to work on, perhaps ways to develop our self-esteem and feelings of well-being. If there are habits, we must consider whether they are adding to our sense of well-being or the opposite.

And I am old enough and have lived long enough to also learn a valuable truth and that is that a friend is a friend, and is authentic and open. If we are not transparent, we live authentically and we are who we are, we can make it difficult for people to relate because they don't really know us.

And also avoiding waiting or depending on others to satisfy all of our needs or sense of self worth, which is found in developing a healthy lifestyle and sense of self worth and embracing our life and each day with gratitude. A smile and gratitude True gratitude for all that is given to us contributes greatly to the development of a real emotional relationship.

This is the story of two boys. Ricky and Antony. They both graduated from the same university.

Ricky got a job paying $ 80,000, Antony couldn't find anything.

Ricky got the girls, Antony was celibate.

Ricky went to parties every day, Antony was losing his 20s

Ricky was promoted, Antony was a waiter.

Ricky invested in stocks, Antony barely made enough to invest

Ricky lost everything in stocks, Antony found the love of his life

Ricky was dumped by all the girls, Antony got married.

Ricky was broke, Antony built a house.

Ricky didn't have sex, Antony made love every day.

Ricky desperately wanted to marry, Antony would soon be bec

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This is the story of two boys. Ricky and Antony. They both graduated from the same university.

Ricky got a job paying $ 80,000, Antony couldn't find anything.

Ricky got the girls, Antony was celibate.

Ricky went to parties every day, Antony was losing his 20s

Ricky was promoted, Antony was a waiter.

Ricky invested in stocks, Antony barely made enough to invest

Ricky lost everything in stocks, Antony found the love of his life

Ricky was dumped by all the girls, Antony got married.

Ricky was broke, Antony built a house.

Ricky didn't have sex, Antony made love every day.

Ricky desperately wanted to get married, Antony would soon become a father.

Ricky turned to drugs, Antony turned to his children.

Ricky lost everything, Antony found everything.


I hope you understand. Everyone fails in life. Not just at the same time or in the same things. This is your turn. Do not give up. Fight hard. Because success tastes much sweeter after failure.

Maybe your problem isn't the job itself.

Understanding that a new job is a main reason to feel happy, I would suggest that your feelings have their origin in one of two possible scenarios:

• You may believe that the choices you have been making are not the ones you would have liked the most, so you are not satisfied enough with your career, achievements, and new job. This means that you had expectations for this new job, you may have thought that it would finally bring you the peace of these choices that you have been regretting. But now that this was not the case, you suddenly come down

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Maybe your problem isn't the job itself.

Understanding that a new job is a main reason to feel happy, I would suggest that your feelings have their origin in one of two possible scenarios:

• You may believe that the choices you have been making are not the ones you would have liked the most, so you are not satisfied enough with your career, achievements, and new job. This means that you had expectations for this new job, you may have thought that it would finally bring you the peace of these choices that you have been regretting. But now that this was not the case, he suddenly becomes emotionally depressed due to the sudden change in the end result. OR;

• Your job and career have nothing to do with it and the real cause is outside this area.

I imagine it could be loneliness: not spending enough time with family and friends or maybe you feel empty because you have not yet met that "special" (if that is the case, I am as lonely as you, hehe).

Or maybe you are experiencing financial problems that are keeping you out of focus.

It really could be anything.

But my diagnosis comes from my memory of this little boy:

Are you sure you've heard of him?

I hope this helps! Good luck!

There are few reasons. As if we're afraid of being judged, misunderstood, or having crazy fun and sometimes babysitting someone who's worried about you.

I have been there. I can give advice on what worked for me.

There is a saying "I know who you want to be with". So make yourself better before your very eyes. Your confidence, your attitude, your behavior will attract the attention of others.

First I had to decide that I no longer want to be like this. I finished waiting for someone to come into my life and make it easier for me. I had to fight on my own, that's the most important decision I had to make.

I cut everything

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There are few reasons. As if we're afraid of being judged, misunderstood, or having crazy fun and sometimes babysitting someone who's worried about you.

I have been there. I can give advice on what worked for me.

There is a saying "I know who you want to be with". So make yourself better before your very eyes. Your confidence, your attitude, your behavior will attract the attention of others.

First I had to decide that I no longer want to be like this. I finished waiting for someone to come into my life and make it easier for me. I had to fight on my own, that's the most important decision I had to make.

I cut out all the people who gave me negative vibes. I stopped thinking about what others think of me. I started going to the gym, doing sports to occupy my free time. I spoke with a friend who just listened to me. I also have a pet and I give it all my love.

I suggest you find something to keep you busy. Something that you like to do. Like sports, gardening, painting, dancing, etc., be yourself.

Do what you like to do. He doesn't give a damn about the world. Be your own friend. I hope that helps..

Because you are still working to become a person who has healed his emptiness and the holes in his spirit, so when you are with friends and you are distracted, you do not realize that the dragons are still lurking, but when you finish and you are alone. again, they sneak back. It is a very similar syndrome, only emotionally, to that experienced by an addict. They feel good when they're high, and not so good, or downright horrible when they're not. So they go back up, only each time it has to be even bigger to feel good. The goal of every person on the planet is to get to a place where they feel good about themselves ALL the time.

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Because you are still working to become a person who has healed his emptiness and the holes in his spirit, so when you are with friends and you are distracted, you do not realize that the dragons are still lurking, but when you finish and you are alone. again, they sneak back. It is a very similar syndrome, only emotionally, to that experienced by an addict. They feel good when they're high, and not so good, or downright horrible when they're not. So they go back up, only each time it has to be even bigger to feel good. The goal of every person on the planet is to get to a place where you feel good about yourself ALL the time (well, unless you are engaging in evil or unacceptable actions), so ask yourself what you need to work on when you are alone to feel whole. . in and of yourself.

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