I am a 26 year old girl, sad, unemployed for the last six years, insecure, inferior and clueless. How can I start my career?

Updated on : December 7, 2021 by Asher Wilkins



I am a 26 year old girl, sad, unemployed for the last six years, insecure, inferior and clueless. How can I start my career?

Hey! I would have liked to be anonymous on this, but let's face it!

I am a 25 year old woman. I've had pretty disappointing twists and turns in my life. I had a 2 year gap in education (once after the 10th, then after a second higher) just because I am a very bad decision maker. I went from being a pretty good student to someone who had no faith in life, had suicidal tendencies, my friends had been ahead of time. Life stopped! The only options he had were, change situations or just let time heal everything. And no, unlike all success stories, I didn't change the situation because I was too scared to cover it up.

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Hey! I would have liked to be anonymous on this, but let's face it!

I am a 25 year old woman. I've had pretty disappointing twists and turns in my life. I had a 2 year gap in education (once after the 10th, then after a second higher) just because I am a very bad decision maker. I went from being a pretty good student to someone who had no faith in life, had suicidal tendencies, my friends had been ahead of time. Life stopped! The only options he had were, change situations or just let time heal everything. And no, unlike all success stories, I didn't change the situation because I was too scared to make decisions. I went with the flow. After a year of breach (after a higher level of security) I signed up for B.Sc with a combination of CBZ (had to take advantage of my low percentage).

Now the journey had begun. Having no faith in myself or my life, I had decided to accept the situation because I could not bear another failure.

The next two years were devastating! I was depressed all the time. Besides, he had very bad friends. They just made fun of me, they belittled me every damn moment! This pissed me off even more! I suffered from severe anxiety, I couldn't speak without gathering all my strength!

My brother observed all this and decided to make me spend some time away from home. This was after two years of graduation.

I don't know what made me look for a Yoga course. With the constant support of my brother, I completed a 42-day Yoga course. That is all! Those 42 days had totally changed me. I realized that it wasn't bad, it was the people around me who were treating me like shit, that having a gap of 2 years does not matter at all in the future, that there are amazing people out there and I just needed love and moral support!

Fast forward two years.

After completing my graduation in Zoology, I did a postgraduate diploma in Yoga. Finally, at the age of 25, I work as a Yoga teacher in a school. Life now seems fair.

So the moral of the story is that you have to get away from it all for a few days, the right things come to you if you let go of your worries! For me it was only 42 days! Imagine, so little time to bring such a big change! Never underestimate even a small change! For me, it was just the acceptance and love that I needed the most! (And obviously the self-approval, which Yoga gave me).

In your case, forget about all the pressure, focus on what you really like and take steps in that direction! The beginning will be difficult but finally the feeling will be worth it!

In the end I would like to publish this photo. These motivational messages helped me a lot.

Have faith in time! :)

Edit: My first answer to get 100+ upvotes. This is real! Thanks guys!

Hi there. I hope you are well. Even though I'm not 26 yet, I can resonate with all the emotions and pain behind your words. I've been lazing around for a while, especially with this whole pandemic. I feel guilty, unproductive, and useless almost every day. Honestly, you have been experiencing a frustrating and difficult journey.

First of all, let me tell you how to work on your inner difficulties. Insecurities arise for many reasons. Lack of self confidence, terrible past experiences that leave scars and feeling emotionally alone. You need to reach out to someone you trust or take

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Hi there. I hope you are well. Even though I'm not 26 yet, I can resonate with all the emotions and pain behind your words. I've been lazing around for a while, especially with this whole pandemic. I feel guilty, unproductive, and useless almost every day. Honestly, you have been experiencing a frustrating and difficult journey.

First of all, let me tell you how to work on your inner difficulties. Insecurities arise for many reasons. Lack of self confidence, terrible past experiences that leave scars and feeling emotionally alone. You should contact someone you trust or seriously consider professional therapy. I'm not going to assume what you've been through and invalidate your sufferings, but whatever it is, identifying, accepting and finding solutions to overcome them is really important. Talk to someone, I assure you it helps. I have felt so much relief and clarity every time I have opened up in the past.

You must understand that things like the inferiority complex and the constant questioning of your self-esteem are not things that you can overcome in a day or two. It must have taken years for such things to develop and you need to spend so much time on it. Again, without professional / personal support, this would be very difficult.

Learn to love yourself for what it is. Accept your flaws and imperfections. Don't hold back your sadness, feel them as they come and then it will be easier for you to let them go. I know this is not easy, I am still learning. I found that when I write about the things that have a great impact on me, I get some temporary comfort and serenity in my head. So, I resorted to writing a lot of poems, prose and in general about myself. Music has the same effect on me too. Find something that is your catharsis. Plus, that can eventually end up being your profession too.

Now when starting a career, you need to understand what your interests are. Working in a field you despise will only add to overall dissatisfaction. Take the time, do your research, and find out what you want. Then write down your experiences and accomplishments that are or may be related to your chosen occupation. Read lots of articles on resume writing, look for templates, and spend quality time writing a good, impressive resume. Start talking to people you know / meet on social media accounts like LinkedIn. Build a strong relationship with them, apply for job openings. Additionally, there are many websites online that list freelance internships and vacancies. Start requesting them. Eventually, you will get there. Trust the process. Trust yourself.

Hope this has helped.

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