I am 26 years old, I never had a job and I ruined my life with wrong decisions. Is there a book that can help me change my life?

Updated on : December 3, 2021 by Emmitt Dillon



I am 26 years old, I never had a job and I ruined my life with wrong decisions. Is there a book that can help me change my life?

I'll say this, 26 is very young. I am 38 years old now, but I was a lost soul myself.

I never finished high school, I was kicked out of the education system even before I finished year 10, I got into a fight with another kid in home economics classroom, it all happened near the sink, and throughout the heat of what it was. a losing battle (I was the skinniest kid in school), I picked up a knife that was in the sink, picked it up and stabbed it and it all happened so fast, I didn't really realize until after it happened what had all happened It happened so instantly.

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I'll say this, 26 is very young. I am 38 years old now, but I was a lost soul myself.

I never finished high school, I was kicked out of the education system even before I finished year 10, I got into a fight with another kid in home economics classroom, it all happened near the sink, and throughout the heat of what it was. a losing battle (I was the skinniest kid in school), I picked up a knife that was in the sink, picked it up and stabbed it and it all happened so fast, I didn't really realize until after it happened what had all happened It happened so instantly.

Master and all the other children ran out of the room, it was all very dramatic.
the boy I stabbed didn't die, and I'm grateful for that. Otherwise, he would probably still be in jail. but what happened that day changed my life,

All this happened to me when I was 15 years old, a stupid kid. And yes, it was all my fault.

I was diagnosed with epilepsy and ADD at a very young age, I had a slow development due to the excessive use of ritalin. I am now 38 years old and still dependent on this prescription drug. I inhale ritalin every 2 hours and I can't even smell anymore. It's real, nosebleeds are very real.

Now, after the stabbing incident happened, I was no longer even allowed to attend public schools. and my parents couldn't afford to place me in a private school so I just did nothing, basically locked myself in a room for 10 years.
fortunately I had the support of my parents. and my mother loved me very much, she went into the world and came back to try to make me happy, she could see that I was depressed, falling apart. she bought me a computer in 2000. I didn't even know how to use one, all I did was play video games, but when I got the computer I learned very quickly. I still played video games, but something happened to me in those 10 years locked in a room with nothing but a computer.

I played a lot of video games and even developed an addiction to pornography.

but the best thing that happened to me was that I taught myself to write c ++, a programming language. I wanted to cheat on the games I was playing and as a result taught myself how to hack games, create aimbots, trainers, etc. I was so excited about it. I started to enjoy making bots for mmorpgs, hacks, and other types of cheat programs in games so much that I enjoyed doing it more than playing games. So what started as wrong intention, I started cracking software.

I started to understand and reverse engineer the x86 compiled assembly, I started cracking software for the fun and challenge of doing it. Think about how to solve puzzles, it is the same by nature.

I had no idea if I was good at this, there was also no google or stackoverflow back then, as the years went by I was invited to join an underground warez group known as the Razor 1911 (RZR), one of the biggest and old software cracks. group that is still active on the internet, and the people there are some of the smartest people you'd never have heard of. I was very honored when I became a member.

back in 2011 about 10 years later i applied for an IT job that had some short programming elements and thought i would try to apply, still today i am amazed they even gave me an interview, i was given a software test, i passed it pretty easily and passed 10 years working there.

That's my story, I know it doesn't help you, but get it, you have to be good at something you like to do and stick with it. It might take you 10 years like me, but buddy, trust me. You just have to stick with it until someone pays you money to do it. then you have a career.

Now I am 38 years old, I earn 185,000 a year as a software engineer

I once went to one of the most elite and advanced makeup academies in So Cals and our director used to have a saying. That saying was “If you make a mistake, you are not a bad person. If you make a mistake and it doesn't fix it, then you are a bad person. "

Things happen, everyone makes bad decisions from time to time. Some people do a lot of them, like my husband. His mom screwed up his whole life. When I met him he had a job, but it turns out it was a family business and he works a week or two at a time, once or twice, even a year. I met him at a strange time apparently, and I didn't fully know about his jo.

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I once went to one of the most elite and advanced makeup academies in So Cals and our director used to have a saying. That saying was “If you make a mistake, you are not a bad person. If you make a mistake and it doesn't fix it, then you are a bad person. "

Things happen, everyone makes bad decisions from time to time. Some people do a lot of them, like my husband. His mom screwed up his whole life. When I met him he had a job, but it turns out it was a family business and he works a week or two at a time, once or twice, even a year. I met him at a strange time apparently, and didn't fully learn about his work history until after we were married. He's good and avoids things and changes the subject. I saw that he seemed to be trying, so I married him thinking that he would really be a man as he said after we were married. LOL. I really thought he was just unlucky to find work outside of his family's factory, which didn't put him on a payroll, so it was never legitimate and that is why he needed me to get a real job so we could buy a house and get it. loans. However, my husband is now 32 years old,

I've been patient with him because I know how difficult it can be to get a job with little or no experience when a person is a certain age and doesn't really have any real experience or advanced degrees.

So I understand your pain and delima and the stress you must put on your friends and family around you.

However, their situation is not easy.

My husband has trouble explaining what he has been doing all these years to protective employers. In fact, I do too when I try to find work for him. I buy storage units and resell things, and last week I found out that one of my units belonged to a child preditor who is on meganslist and has a history of lewd acts (some recent) with children under 12 years old and, curiously, not is in jail, but actually on bail and holding 2 full time jobs with previous and pending child phonography charges and other lewd conduct pending with lesser charges.

So if that guy can bounce back, anyone can.

But as for you, the good thing about this is that you can fix it. You just have to make bad decisions that ruin your life until the day you stop making bad decisions and fix your life.

Stay away from bad people who do bad things and surround yourself with good people who do good things, and follow their lead and good things are likely to happen to you. Perhaps some of them may have job opportunities for you. If they know you and know your good side, they will give you good references.

Maybe you can go back to school and learn a trade. Maybe one you can get with your registration if you have one, and one that allows the internship. The internship is a great job reference and helps you get a foot in the door.

I bought my husband the Adulting book. It wouldn't help much with a job, but it did a good job of helping you understand that it's not time to play anymore and that growing up is inevitable, so maybe that book can help you with whatever issues you may have to highlight that might affect you. . your stability later down the road when you find a job and appear to be doing significantly better.

You can buy it for a reasonable price on Amazon, so maybe give that a try.

26 is young. I was a stuttering, hungry screenwriter who had trouble with authority in odd jobs like driving a taxi, etc. at age 20. He had a lot of patience with people he considered weak and downtrodden, but he definitely had anger issues with everyone else. There was nothing wrong with working odd jobs, but pay to pay is a very stressful existence.

Then I started wondering what my skills were and realized that I was very good with logic, reading, and writing, so I ended up looking at law school, faced my fear of public speaking, and mastered the LSAT. Then I got a steady job

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26 is young. I was a stuttering, hungry screenwriter who had trouble with authority in odd jobs like driving a taxi, etc. at age 20. He had a lot of patience with people he considered weak and downtrodden, but he definitely had anger issues with everyone else. There was nothing wrong with working odd jobs, but pay to pay is a very stressful existence.

Then I started wondering what my skills were and realized that I was very good with logic, reading, and writing, so I ended up looking at law school, faced my fear of public speaking, and mastered the LSAT. Then I got a steady job teaching the test and enrolled in top law schools. I will always stutter and find some discrimination for it, but it is what it is, and not enough to prevent it from providing value that others cannot.

So my point is, you have to find what you're good at and create a disciplined plan for yourself: think I'm good at A, B, and C. How do I take A, B, and C and produce value than other people? I can use? In some cases, it is easy. If you are good at cooking, you can create foods that people pay you to eat. In most cases, it is not that simple, but I am firmly convinced that any human being who can work can create something that benefits others, and economies are nothing more than the exchange of value between A and B. This because everyone should do it or something, ignore them. Being a replaceable gear in a wheel is the system's way of * f'd * it. You really want to contribute individual and specialized value, because that is the value that people pay the most for.

Focus on one step and one goal at a time - your plan will most likely have many steps with multiple obstacles. Always focus on going from step one to step two, and always work, but don't rush the process. Along the way, if any place hurts your confidence or your momentum, you will want to leave that place. Long-term psychological strength is always more important than short-term satisfaction.

What I learned while teaching is that young people struggle when they don't have a set schedule. He grows up with someone who tells him what to do hour after hour, then he turns 18 and loves freedom, but lacks structure. This is true whether you have dropped out of high school or graduated from Harvard. You have to become your own father and follow yourself 24/7. You can take time to have fun and be kind to yourself, and love yourself like a parent loves a child, but you * need * structure and consistency. The trick to adulthood is to create * your own * structure.

You cannot fix your life by reading a book, without knowing how you ruined your life, it is also impossible to give recommendations that apply specifically to your situation, so here are some general recommendations and tips.

1- find a job in an area where they need so much people that it doesn't really matter if you had previous experience ... here is a list of entry-level jobs (and description) that do not require education or experience, you will learn on the job:

-Construction worker

Construction workers have general construction experience and work on construction sites. They can fill hoop areas

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You cannot fix your life by reading a book, without knowing how you ruined your life, it is also impossible to give recommendations that apply specifically to your situation, so here are some general recommendations and tips.

1- find a job in an area where they need so much people that it doesn't really matter if you had previous experience ... here is a list of entry-level jobs (and description) that do not require education or experience, you will learn on the job:

-Construction worker

Construction workers have general construction experience and work on construction sites. They can fill in areas around foundations, operate small machinery, touch up paint, or clean debris from a job site.

-Material handler

Without the need for formal education or experience, the only requirement from employers is that material handlers can handle the physical workload on a regular basis.

Material handlers use equipment such as forklifts or labor to move materials and products around a warehouse or on trucks or other shipping transport.

-Postal Service

When delivering mail, the only requirement for this job is to have a driver's license to be able to drive the truck. To get started, just contact the postal service, it is also a government service so they pay on time and it can be a job for life, it also pays ... relatively well with entry level positions that pay 20 to $ 21 an hour, better yet, he actually has a career, give him a few years and you can make it to the postmaster.

-Power plant operator

Everyone needs their lights on and almost every city has a power plant nearby, as long as you don't have a criminal record, there are no education requirements for this job. It's dangerous work, but as long as you follow safety regulations, it should be fine ...

-Commercial fishing

Another dangerous job, but it pays well, also expect to spend a lot of time at sea (3 months or so), you will also need to be careful with money, fishermen can earn around $ 45,000 to $ 60,000 for the 3 month stay in the sea, but they are not paid the rest of the year, so money management is a must for downtime.

Those are all entry-level jobs that come to mind.

If all else fails, there is one important thing to consider not only as a last resort, but to be constantly on your mind.

Something important but that everyone hates, Internships, I know, I KNOW that the idea of ​​working without pay makes me angry. I was there, but internships are a great way to get into a company and show your work and what you are capable of and gain work experience. If an employer is looking for people by the time your internship ends and you did well, it will also be easier for you to get into the company, the devil you know and all that.

2- Discipline

I know, I know the "okay boomer" moment, but it's true, you need a certain level of discipline to lead your life, if your problem is addiction to games or drugs, hang on, it's easier said than done, I know, but there is a time and a place for everything, make up your bed, stand up straight with your shoulders back, speak correctly, set a time to exercise and a time to sleep and a time to play.

Those are all the little things that will help you in the long run, good posture is important for professional interaction, and setting a schedule is important for separating your personal and professional life.

So be disciplined.

3-chin up

In interviews, be prepared, maintain good posture, choose your words carefully and always be ALWAYS prepared, research the company you are looking for work with, always carry a supporting resume, etc. You show interest in the job, which goes a long way in convincing your future employer that you really want to be there.

4- CV

Your resume should grab attention, it should emphasize the parts that are important to the job you are applying for, so make different resumes that emphasize the different skills that apply to the job at hand.

Yes.

I am also 26 years old, never had a job and also “ruined my life” with some wrong decisions.

But fortunately, no one is so stupid that they have spent their entire life making mistakes. I did some good things and I'm sure you did too. It is up to you to find out what these things were and how they can help you on your way to a life beyond this state of misery.

You've probably graduated from high school. This was your past self ensuring a better life for your present self. Take it as a gift: that's what you took care of yourself. Think about everything you learned from that experience, something you gained from all of that.

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Yes.

I am also 26 years old, never had a job and also “ruined my life” with some wrong decisions.

But fortunately, no one is so stupid that they have spent their entire life making mistakes. I did some good things and I'm sure you did too. It is up to you to find out what these things were and how they can help you on your way to a life beyond this state of misery.

You've probably graduated from high school. This was your past self ensuring a better life for your present self. Take it as a gift: that's what you took care of yourself. Think about everything you learned from that experience, something you gained from all of that. Good or bad, it doesn't matter. What really matters is that you know how these things affected you and you can decide what you will do with this knowledge (and degree and connections) from now on.

And if not, try to identify other things you did that certainly ensured you a better life than you would have if you didn't. Did you brush your teeth frequently? So he has them all in his mouth right now. Did you dedicate time to a hobby, to learn something of your interest? So you have a skill right now. Even the smallest things count.

You probably helped someone. Whether it's a kitten you took off the street, a stranger you gave your time and attention to, a friend you helped feel better just by your presence. Watch? You didn't screw everything up. There are people who are very nice to you and this can open many doors. Contact them if you feel comfortable enough. It is good to share your doubts. Without a doubt, sharing this period of personal transformation with other people can bring you closer to them.

Believe it, you're off to a good start.

You gave yourself the best start you could. People are as they can be and you are no exception. It may be a long process, but as you look back, try to accept that you were what you could be in that moment.

And, to help you in the inevitable (and so important!) Moments of loneliness, I recommend the book "Letters to a young poet", by Rainer Maria Rilke.

It's not self-help shit, it's not written by someone trying to get rich selling generic advice to vulnerable people. It is truly a compilation of heartfelt and warm letters from one artist to a younger one, from one human being to another. It is about love, life, suffering, transformation and meaning. Meaning.

You can read from head to toe, but if your concentration is not the same and reading is being difficult at the moment, you can choose a letter at random to accompany your little moments of introspection.

I wish you all the good things in the world and I hope this helps you.

The most important thing you already have: the desire to change. Then it will get better. I promise.

Listen my friend.

Don't worry, you are not alone. I felt the same until February 4, I was actually addicted to some kind of drug that I also had to stop during the last two months of travel, I hope it will continue to be for the rest of my life the same as I am doing now.

I studied engineering for 8 to 9 years, to be specific two degrees, I graduated last year from my second degree in electrical engineering and information technology. I felt lost, I have no ability, my grades are excellent, but still I feel lost, I am useless and worthless. I have no value to offer, that was the reason why I started

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Listen my friend.

Don't worry, you are not alone. I felt the same until February 4, I was actually addicted to some kind of drug that I also had to stop during the last two months of travel, I hope it will continue to be for the rest of my life the same as I am doing now.

I studied engineering for 8 to 9 years, to be specific two degrees, I graduated last year from my second degree in electrical engineering and information technology. I felt lost, I have no ability, my grades are excellent, but still I feel lost, I am useless and worthless. I have no value to offer, that was the reason why I started abusing the drug.

On February 4, a year after abusing drugs, I decided to go for more, for seven continuous days, until I had a very bad trip, alone, alone, and since I decided to change cities last January, the closest friend for me was 8 hours "in a foreign country". On the trip I forgot my name and everything about me. I was going crazy and decided to start remembering anything and analyze the feeling that I have writing in a note, why am I afraid of this drug? What can I do without it? Who I am ? Can I change the situation?

With the help of my mother, and my sister with their endless love and affection (they do not know that I am addicted to any drug or if I am going through a bad situation, the last time I met them was two years ago), and a friend who works in psychotherapy, all talking on the phone, no one for two months, no one familiar. I could survive this very difficult situation, and I could develop the habit of reading and writing, I write a summary of what I read. That is why it is important for you to know that it is not about how much you read, it is about how you read. In other words, if someone wrote a book in 2-6 years and you say I read it in a couple of hours ... congratulations, you didn't do anything. I will suggest self-help books that I read during the last two months, I chose these books very carefully, I will suggest everything that I have read,

The meaning of life: introduce what effects our meaning of life has.

The obstacle is the way: why every obstacle we face can be our way to success?

Unscripted - Very, Very Important - Change your mind about living a scripted life, guided thinking, or being mediocre. Start living Unscripted, unlike anyone you know, different than you have ever imagined.

Man's search for meaning - very important: How can you find meaning in life IN SUFFERING, even if your suffering is enormous, you can still find meaning in it? The book can be a bit boring in some areas, but I took a full 3 days studying this book and ended up with 10 A4 summary pages of this little book, which are relevant to me and explained using logotherapy.


Next on the list:

How to win friends and influence people.

The laws of human nature.

Calm.

Learning to learn.

In the end, you have to make the decision my friend, it seems that you really got bored of what you are doing at the ATM. Take the steps slowly, but with great intensity. We are both 26 years old and we think we were late in the game, but trust me, none of the respondents know what it feels like, and I can even think that neither of them thought I was a loser. We are all losers, my friend, and the first step to take is to ask yourself, why am I a loser and how can I change that fact?

We are never late, go learn and you are ignorant. Since you don't know anything in life and you are a newborn baby trying to understand the environment.

If you need more information, send me a private message please.

Good luck and best wishes.

I'll start by saying, don't worry at all. The time to waste and make silly mistakes is when you are young. What most older people don't tell you is that most reach their 40s or even 50s, and are still a bit confused about who they are, what they really want out of life, their beliefs, and many. of them. they are miserable. Life is not a perfectly linear progression, and if it has been for some people, then those people have simply never lived outside of their comfort zone. Life is an immersive experience, full of ups and downs, good decisions, bad decisions, happiness, s

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I'll start by saying, don't worry at all. The time to waste and make silly mistakes is when you are young. What most older people don't tell you is that most reach their 40s or even 50s, and are still a bit confused about who they are, what they really want out of life, their beliefs, and many. of them. they are miserable. Life is not a perfectly linear progression, and if it has been for some people, then those people have simply never lived outside of their comfort zone. Life is a totally immersive experience, full of ups and downs, good decisions, bad decisions, happiness, sadness, confusion and, sometimes, what you feel is certainty. The truth is that we are all in one way or another moving through life with a cocktail of emotions and with a degree of uncertainty about so many aspects of it. That's life.

I think what you probably long for is a measure of "stability" and meaning. You can't get that from a book, BUT reading in general will totally transform your thinking, add depth and dimension to your creative thinking, and help you improve your decision-making.

I would say start by making a list of what you would like out of life, what things in life make you happy, what skills you would like to have, and slowly work your way down that list. You need to mingle with like-minded people, avoid those who are toxic and hold you back, exercise your body and mind while staying in good physical shape. All of these things come together to create you and transform you into a new person. Stick to it, stay focused, try to develop discipline, and you will see that you will become a much happier, fulfilled, and hopefully successful person. Never give up, you are only 26 and I know you seem to be 'old', but many 50 year olds wish they were 40 again, so 26 is a gift. You can skip years in just one year if you really put your mind to it. Good luck

Wouldn't it be nice if all you needed was to read a book to solve all your problems? Unfortunately, the real world doesn't work like that.

Getting a job and fixing your life requires you to have skills that others value. The more valuable your skills, the better the job you will get. There are many ways to acquire and practice these skills: college or an apprenticeship to learn a trade, or working in a job that is not a dead end and requires you to think on your feet. Dead-end jobs won't help much with the skill-building part, so you'd avoid those kinds of jobs as your only means of employment.

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Wouldn't it be nice if all you needed was to read a book to solve all your problems? Unfortunately, the real world doesn't work like that.

Getting a job and fixing your life requires you to have skills that others value. The more valuable your skills, the better the job you will get. There are many ways to acquire and practice these skills: college or an apprenticeship to learn a trade, or working in a job that is not a dead end and requires you to think on your feet. Deadless jobs won't help much with the skill development part, so you would avoid those kinds of jobs as your only means of employment (fast food, grocery stores, etc.).

26 is still young and has plenty of time to work on himself and develop valuable skills, but he needs to identify his strengths and interests early and start an appropriate career *. And getting a simple job in a field you like or like would be a positive first step you could take. Taking a job you hate, on the other hand, would be a terrible idea and would set you back even further, even if it paid more.

Use this time to find your interests and develop valuable skills in order to pursue a long-term career in that field. Don't look for shortcuts because there are no worthwhile shortcuts.


* Career ≠ Work

A job is something you do just for the money and does not involve any long-term planning or future growth considerations.

A career implies that you enjoy your work and implies progressive growth as one gains more responsibility and competence over time.


EDIT: Please stop messaging me with book names. Doing so shows that you completely misunderstood the answer.

You know the saying, Knowledge will set you free. And there is another, to be old and wise you first have to be young and stupid. well what does that really mean? The fact that your life has not ended because of the wrong decisions you made means that you have time to change your life. The question you asked actually looked a lot like me when I was 24 years old. I was completely lost. and I had the same question is there a book?

You may have noticed that many people have suggested various books, I will say read them all. spend all your time reading them. You will improve your outlook on life and reflect on it. Not to do

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You know the saying, Knowledge will set you free. And there is another, to be old and wise you first have to be young and stupid. well what does that really mean? The fact that your life has not ended because of the wrong decisions you made means that you have time to change your life. The question you asked actually looked a lot like me when I was 24 years old. I was completely lost. and I had the same question is there a book?

You may have noticed that many people have suggested various books, I will say read them all. spend all your time reading them. You will improve your outlook on life and reflect on it. Do not rush. Take the time to think about what you have done and what you want and what the actual amount of loss you suffered is as well as wasting time to achieve what you want. the answers may surprise you.

My area of ​​study was Sociology, I had to read a lot of social change and transformation of society and people. Every example you come across, you see that it takes time, it's a slow process, except for one exception. I'll detail it in a moment.

There are not many books that claim to have all the answers and rules of life except religious scriptures. And one thing about them is that they are very philosophical. There are suggestions for reading the Bible. But there is one book among all the AL Koran: the religious scripture of the Muslims. In many ways, it is similar to the Bibles and differs greatly in other respects as well. I found it really amazing compared to all the others due to the following facts:

1. It came from a person who could not read and the prayers are his recitals in a different situation that, according to him, was from God. But the thing is, when you read it you can never say it's a speech. The writing and the sentences are as precise as the written form, clearly the speech and the written form have differences.

2. It transformed an entire society and each of its people who abide by it in a span of 23 years. It changed everything from the culture, the dress pattern, the way they spoke, the governance to the use of the bathroom. every little thing in just 23 years. each town was completely different. as a sociologist that really amazed me. It is almost like a miracle and the same is never seen in any other example of social and societal changes and the transformation of people in such a short time. 100% of the people in that society of that time who claimed to have read it also claimed to have found a way or a solution to the problems in their life. well that's a strong claim, isn't it?

3. A man who could not read preached a book and changed everything in a society and in each of its people in only 23 years? Really? Doesn't that sound amazing? What's in that book? what is so special

Once again, everyone suggested several books. I suggest reading them all along with this one with an open mind. Find the translation. You can find the description of your situation and solution. I would also say launch it from anywhere at random. Just open a page from the middle and start reading. what you find could be so interesting. It happened to me.

May you find the straight path in your life.

I read a lot of comments and I am really surprised that no one mentioned this. Yes, there is a book that can change your life. It's called the Bible.

Start by reading one proverb a day. There are 31, so match the chapter with the date. For example, today you would read chapter 20. Tomorrow you would read chapter 21 and so on.

It will help you think about your values ​​and decisions and it will also show you how it is not wasteful. It will also help you understand that you cannot always save yourself. You need God for that.

You don't need a successful career doing hundreds of thousands and college degrees to be happy or

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I read a lot of comments and I am really surprised that no one mentioned this. Yes, there is a book that can change your life. It's called the Bible.

Start by reading one proverb a day. There are 31, so match the chapter with the date. For example, today you would read chapter 20. Tomorrow you would read chapter 21 and so on.

It will help you think about your values ​​and decisions and it will also show you how it is not wasteful. It will also help you understand that you cannot always save yourself. You need God for that.

You don't need a successful career that earns hundreds of thousands and college degrees to be happy or fulfilled in your life. That's what this empty society tells you and then buries you in debt and jobs that generate huge amounts of money to pay others and keep almost nothing. You can become a slave to your "amazing life" with staggering amounts of debt.

What is good for others can make you feel more miserable. I had a friend who made six figures in IT. He wanted to commit suicide. I dropped everything and went to be a scuba instructor. I was happy again and wanted to live. He did it for a few years saving some money until he found out what was next for him.

Another of my friends wasted his life until he was 30 on drugs and a frustrated musical career… one day he found God and stopped wasting time. now he is a carpenter. He doesn't make a lot of money, but he's one of the most grateful and happy human beings you'll ever meet. He loves and enjoys his simple life… and I even envy that life at times.

"Don't take a dead-end job at a supermarket" is not only pretentious, but also bad advice. You will never start a high paying job in a managerial position right now.

Working such a job can teach you many valuable lessons and skills as you clean up your clutter and plan how to make your next move. That is better than nothing.

Your next job should be better than the first. Save money, invest in something, a duplex is a great idea. Read about it.

One of my best friends started out as a dishwasher at a sushi restaurant. He used his breaks to learn how to be a waiter. Then he covered the people who couldn't get in. Then he became a waiter. Then he learned how to make sushi from the chefs. Nobody knew. One day the sushi chef got sick and there was no one to cover. Guess who intervened? That's right my friend! Then they hired him as a sushi chef. Then he started, believe it or not, a sushi cart (he also worked part time at a car wash washing cars manually) Then he saved up and used that money to go to medical school ... today, he is a very successful doctor with an incredible life.

I own a couple of businesses and thank God I have the opportunity to hire people. You always notice the hard work and good attitude and also the desire to learn and grow. I always want to pay those people better too. They deserve it!

A college degree, while not totally wrong, should be something you do only if you have something else in mind. Like going to medical school, law school, an MBA or something like that. Look around you how many people fell for the lie that everyone must go to college and now can't get a job in their "field." So many made up titles. I can't find a job in those fields. I personally know people with advanced degrees who work “dead-end jobs” for $ 10 / hour or walk dogs to help pay the bills.

If you're good at something, learn a trade, become a carpenter, plumber, and electrician… you can make a good living that way.

Start today. Honor God, your parents, and yourself. Work hard. Make a plan on paper. Write down your goal, but also, and perhaps most importantly, how you will get there. Your goal may change over time, but your hard work, your hunger to learn, and your good attitude will always stay with you. God bless you and help you find your way.

It is your life to create it or waste it, however you want. I am glad to hear that you have decided to do a self-assessment, you do not like what you see and you think you would like to change it for the better. I suggest 4 books:

Dr. Viktor Frankl "Man's Search for Meaning", a day's reading. Life is about suffering. If you suffer without a transcendental purpose above and beyond yourself, then your suffering will lead to bitterness, despair and possibly the idea of ​​suicide or revenge against others or society. Does your past suffering sound familiar? The Stanford School of Medicine found that 80% of alcoholics and 100% of dr

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It is your life to create it or waste it, however you want. I am glad to hear that you have decided to do a self-assessment, you do not like what you see and you think you would like to change it for the better. I suggest 4 books:

Dr. Viktor Frankl "Man's Search for Meaning", a day's reading. Life is about suffering. If you suffer without a transcendental purpose above and beyond yourself, then your suffering will lead to bitterness, despair and possibly the idea of ​​suicide or revenge against others or society. Does your past suffering sound familiar? The Stanford School of Medicine found that 80% of alcoholics and 100% of drug addicts surveyed had no clear reason to explain or justify their life or continued existence on this planet (i.e., felt bo or insufficient justification to take up space and consume resources, a net loss to the overall system) Dr. Frankl offers clear and effective solutions.

Dr. Steven Covey "7 Habits of Highly Effective People"

Dr. Jordan Peterson's "12 Rules for Life" and his Own Authorship Suite (see

What is self-authorship? What does the research say? Future Authoring has been used by over 10,000 people and has been shown to help them achieve more, while also relieving anxiety about the future through a feeling of clarity of purpose and direction. While most Future Authoring participants feel better about their future and generally achieve more towards their goals, academic studies have been conducted to demonstrate the effect of the Future Authoring program: Four hundred students completed an abbreviated version of the program Future Authoring during freshman orientation at an undergraduate university. By the second semester, 27% of the class had dropped out, while only 14% of the group that had used Future Authoring had dropped out of college.

), to examine and analyze your past life, and help you self-authorize your current and future life to be better for you, for joy and fulfillment and a clear purpose.

Finally, your God and Creator wrote a comprehensive plan for our world and the individual life of each person in it, called the Holy Bible. In the English language, the best, most accurate, and easiest to understand is the 1760 version of the King James Bible. It is number one in sales in the last 6,000 years of human history. God has a perfect and personalized plan for your life, already detailed before you were born. You have the free will to design and implement your own plan for your life (how is it working for you so far?), Or consider God's perfect plan for your life. We have all made mistakes, some worse than others. God wants you to learn about God, learn God's commandments, realize that you have violated God's laws, confess your sins, believe in Jesus Christ, love God, forgive everyone for the terrible things they did to you in the past, repent (turn away from your past sins and turn to God and his commandments), then God will forgive all your past sins, and then you can use his commandments and advice. in the Bible to build a beautiful life where God continues to love you, you love God, and you love all other people on this planet. Then you have God's help, strength, and protection to get through all the hard times in this fallen and sinful world, and eternal life after your life here is over. Start by reading the Bible here - and then you can use His commandments and advice in the Bible to build a beautiful life where God continues to love you, you love God, and you love all the other people on this planet. Then you have the help, God's strength and protection to overcome all difficult times in this fallen and sinful world, and eternal life after your life here is over. Start by reading the Bible here - and then you can use His commandments and advice in the Bible to build a beautiful life where God continues to love you, you love God, and you love all the other people on this planet. Then you have God's help, strength, and protection to get through all the hard times in this fallen and sinful world, and eternal life after your life here is over. Start by reading the Bible here: And then you can use His commandments and advice in the Bible to build a beautiful life where God continues to love you, you love God, and you love all the other people on this planet. Then you have God's help, strength, and protection to get through all the hard times in this fallen and sinful world, and eternal life after your life here is over. Start by reading the Bible here: And then you can use His commandments and advice in the Bible to build a beautiful life where God continues to love you, you love God, and you love all the other people on this planet. Then you have God's help, strength, and protection to get through all the hard times in this fallen and sinful world, and eternal life after your life here is over. Start by reading the Bible here:

Genesis Chapters 1 to 3 (15 minutes), Book of John (2 hour read) on the life and death of Jesus Christ, then the books of Matthew, Mark and Luke. That should take you less than 9 hours total. After that, you should have enough information to understand why you are currently struggling and what to do about it.

I have recommended 4 books to help. Of these, the most important and greatest help to you in the long run is God and His Bible.

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