I am 23 years old, I made the wrong career choice and I am afraid to change. I am doomed?

Updated on : January 20, 2022 by Leon Richards



I am 23 years old, I made the wrong career choice and I am afraid to change. I am doomed?

No, while doing a job, look for what interests you, once you find your interest, start working in that type of job and then after getting some experiences, switch in that industry.

Suppose I love bodybuilding, but I am a chemical engineer I am working in a chemical industry. What I will do is try to work in a gym as a coach this way I will stick to my passion and side by side I would do it. look for opportunities in the modeling industry as soon as I have a good opportunity I will change fields.

Always remember that it is never later, until you have given up hope and unless you have.

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No, while doing a job, look for what interests you, once you find your interest, start working in that type of job and then after getting some experiences, switch in that industry.

Suppose I love bodybuilding, but I am a chemical engineer I am working in a chemical industry. What I will do is try to work in a gym as a coach this way I will stick to my passion and side by side I would do it. look for opportunities in the modeling industry as soon as I have a good opportunity I will change fields.

Always remember that it is never later, until you have given up hope and unless you have. Believe in yourself, have faith and keep working for your passion.

Someone who has lost hope is a dead man….

Be a doer, that a dreamer there is no age limit

Don't be afraid now, you're only 23 ... how can you live with the wrong career at 33-43–53-63 and so on ... A long way to go ... Pick a career you like ... It took me 4 years to choose a career. After 12th place in 2015 I was lost, now I am 22 years old and I have taken a completely new route in 2019 ... Sometimes I regret losing 4 years, but that's okay! Nothing is worth it if you are not happy .. I am ready to work hard and succeed .. If you know you can, then obviously you can .. :) All the best

  • NO
  • NO
  • NO
  • Not at all.
  • People experiment until they are 35 years old.
  • You really are not doomed.
  • You are very lucky to have understood the mistake too soon.
  • Choose what you like the most.
  • All the best

I hope this helps.

I have this talk with 25-year-olds all the time.

Most people still don't know themselves at age 25, much less their life purpose. In his role, he would pursue new perspectives, not high expectations. Your life will find you, once you know enough to recognize it. Spoiler warning: not what you expected.

However, getting back to the race, the best strategy you can follow is the constant acquisition of skills.

This is how this works.

There are incredible opportunities that pass by on the street every day, you simply lack the perspective to identify them. That's because the

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I have this talk with 25-year-olds all the time.

Most people still don't know themselves at age 25, much less their life purpose. In his role, he would pursue new perspectives, not high expectations. Your life will find you, once you know enough to recognize it. Spoiler warning: not what you expected.

However, getting back to the race, the best strategy you can follow is the constant acquisition of skills.

This is how this works.

There are incredible opportunities that pass by on the street every day, you simply lack the perspective to identify them. That's because the necessary perspective would be a direct result of having the skills to capitalize on them. You do not have the skills, nor have you developed the ability to recognize them in others as potential allies; so the opportunities don't even occur to you.

That's normal at 25. Don't worry.

Unless you've been lucky in a career, or miserably pursued your parents' dream instead of yours, things are basically exactly how they should be. Hell, I didn't even go back for my bachelor's degree until I was 27. I'm fine at 41.

The perspective necessary to understand the range of options available to your life requires only two things: an insatiable curiosity coupled with a relentless search for new skills and experiences. After enough years of habitual mastery over the challenges on the life path, spawned as a consequence of your curious nature, you will begin to see the world differently.

The signal will start to sing through the noise. For me it happened around 35.

When leading a team, you will have a competent familiarity with everyone's work, along with an appreciation of what it takes to do it at an elite level. Why? Probably because you tried it or studied it, or if you didn't, as a result you asked dozens of questions about it.

When you strike up a conversation, you will sound more like the most interesting man in the world and less like "I was a boring stockbroker at 23."

I know which identity I prefer.

To top it all, the depth of your perspective will give you a natural humility that will put people at ease. It's all there if you want it.

All you need to do is put aside the things that you think you have not achieved and accept more of what others have not valued.

Be kind, curious, and never stop learning new things. When you're ready, success will be the most natural thing in the world.

You have made a wrong decision. Live with it.

I assume you are one of those few people who joined CS / IT hoping to get a good job at the end of four years. Many do and are successful even though they have no interest in computing. You will be surprised how many people make a good living from the IT industry even though they did not want to become software engineers.

I always wanted to be a particle physicist as a kid. However, in my high school, several factors (but without parental strength) encouraged me to take CS / IT. One of the main reasons was the probability of

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You have made a wrong decision. Live with it.

I assume you are one of those few people who joined CS / IT hoping to get a good job at the end of four years. Many do and are successful even though they have no interest in computing. You will be surprised how many people make a good living from the IT industry even though they did not want to become software engineers.

I always wanted to be a particle physicist as a kid. However, in my high school, several factors (but without parental strength) encouraged me to take CS / IT. One of the main reasons was the likelihood of a well-paying job.

But unlike your case, I actually really liked the encoding. Mostly because it was math. I had earlier exposure to coding than most of my peers. I had access to my personal desktop computer when I was on the eighth level. I used to play games and I was very curious to know how things work.

And as the user pointed out, you must learn to live with the decisions you make. In the long run, no choice is wrong, because this choice will teach you how to make good decisions in the future. Always trust your intuition. Somehow they know what you want.

You can get out of your branch and do something that you really love. But do it only when you know that you will really love doing what you will do. Big Risk is a prerequisite for success. So if people are calling you a fool because you dropped your college degree, then just keep calm and hold on. Success is the best revenge.

Also specific to your branch and institute - I can assure you that many in your group don't even understand the first slide. There is no teacher who can make the subject interesting and attractive to students. Half of those topics are not about programming at all. So let me assure you that the life of a software developer is not as bad as these courses led you to believe. Programmers often find interesting problems and solve them with basic common sense :)

When it comes to competitive programming, you're not trying hard enough. You don't want it that much. You should keep trying. It's about practice and hard work.

I turn 22 in March. So my advice may not be the best, but relevant nonetheless.

The truth is, I don't think we will ever know what we want, because we don't know enough about everything to get an adequate answer.

So what do we do?
Life is a career unto itself. Focus on constantly improving yourself every day, learning more, getting fit and staying fit, and learning more. This will maximize our chances in life.
The more I learn about life, the more I learn about myself, the more I realize what I want.

I think after 2 years of solid thinking, I think I have figured out what I want and how (for the record, I'm on my third goi

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I turn 22 in March. So my advice may not be the best, but relevant nonetheless.

The truth is, I don't think we will ever know what we want, because we don't know enough about everything to get an adequate answer.

So what do we do?
Life is a career unto itself. Focus on constantly improving yourself every day, learning more, getting fit and staying fit, and learning more. This will maximize our chances in life.
The more I learn about life, the more I learn about myself, the more I realize what I want.

I think after 2 years of solid thinking, I think I have figured out what I want and how (for the record, I am in my third and fourth and fifth "career" picks).

You and I (I guess) want to live a long, healthy, happy, rich and successful life, so let's update all the skills that will lead us in that direction. Skills like:

  • Health and Beauty
  • Knowledge, understanding and our ability to learn
  • Communication, time management, organization, etc.
  • Social skills, personal and intimate relationships.
  • Work ethics and general work skills
  • Personal finance
  • Mentoring (if you see a successful person you know, hang on to them and drown them with questions. The worst thing they will do to you is tell you to fuck off)


The reason for all this dribbling is this:

The harder we try, the better our capabilities. The better our capabilities, the greater our ambition ...

That is why I have changed my perception of my future so many times, because I have a mission to constantly push myself.

FOCUS ON MOVING FORWARD and the path will be paved.

However, the only thing I HAVE to recommend is personal finances. The reason we work is to earn money. I know that I will retire early, be rich and successful. I absolutely know.
I know from these two books.

  1. The Richest Man in Babylon by George C. Clayson
  2. Rich dad, poor dad by Robert Kiyosaki


Just read them both in any order. It will be the BEST decision of your life so far. They teach you the fundamentals of personal finance and how to stay in control of your money for the rest of your life, reflecting a successful life. Research the reviews and book sales yourself.

If you read them both, I welcome you in advance :)

My answer will not be soft and cuddly. It would be downright unpleasant. So if you don't want to, just skip to other people's responses who will give you the pity party you want.

There are two possible objective realities when you say "I'm depressed." One: something is terribly wrong with the balance of neurochemicals in your brain. In this case, get a prescription from a medical professional to help restore this balance.

Two: You feel sad because the world does not give you everything you want to eat with a spoon; And you just want people to pay attention to you This is the m

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My answer will not be soft and cuddly. It would be downright unpleasant. So if you don't want to, just skip to other people's responses who will give you the pity party you want.

There are two possible objective realities when you say "I'm depressed." One: something is terribly wrong with the balance of neurochemicals in your brain. In this case, get a prescription from a medical professional to help restore this balance.

Two: You feel sad because the world does not give you everything you want to eat with a spoon; And you just want people to pay attention to you This is the most probable objective reality; where my suggestion is: stop indulging me with self pity and get off your ass and get what you need.

This advice is not given out of malice, because I was where you were once. I graduated with Bachelor of Computer Science and also Master of Commerce. So we are taking similar courses.

Guess what? I didn't have my own laptop back then. If I want to code, I have to queue for a replacement computer in university computer labs, often for hours. But it was too vague. I want it easy. So I didn't.

I had no friends, I was too shy to approach strangers and make small talks, I had no social life; most of my time was devoted to laziness and pity; while working low-skilled jobs, so I have some extra money.

Needless to say, the bachelor's degree was of no value to me, and the biggest waste to my parents who funded the course. Nobody hired half programmers without skill, without motivation, without experience. So I keep working low-skilled jobs for years. It was not the best time of my life. I lifted hundreds of boxes for a few dozen dollars a week.

There were days when I can barely contain how angry and depressed I was about how my life turned out. But now about 14 years have passed since that period. And my life turned out well, combination of having parents who never stopped kicking my ass when I gave up; and strokes of luck when people gave me the few opportunities in my life; and a large government loan (which I paid off many years ago) to earn a Master of Commerce degree.

Life is not easy. Life is a whore. But I understood it more easily than most people. There are people living their whole lives for $ 2 a day. There are 3 billion of them. War, no running water, poverty with no way out. So stop wasting your life and do something with it. The stroke of luck will never come if you give up.

We are one and the same. (Or am I a little more than you ...)

1. I feel the same in college ... (I'm a business student at first) thinking I'm in the wrong field. And I dropped it. and I went to Design College (yes! I did that ...)

2. I changed 3 companies during the internship thinking that this was not right or that I was doing it in the wrong field, I ended up without a good portfolio in any of the fields. \

3. Now I am doing a job with a good salary scale in the major multinational companies ... (By the grace of God ... my mother's prayers worked) guess what I still feel the same ...

I have come to know that it is not about the environment, the culture, the opportunities.

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We are one and the same. (Or am I a little more than you ...)

1. I feel the same in college ... (I'm a business student at first) thinking I'm in the wrong field. And I dropped it. and I went to Design College (yes! I did that ...)

2. I changed 3 companies during the internship thinking that this was not right or that I was doing it in the wrong field, I ended up without a good portfolio in any of the fields. \

3. Now I am doing a job with a good salary scale in the major multinational companies ... (By the grace of God ... my mother's prayers worked) guess what I still feel the same ...

I've come to know that it's not about the environment, the culture, the opportunities, or our abilities ...

Believe me, everything is in our brain and in our way of thinking. When I understood this, I started to change my way of thinking. It helped me a lot ... I can't say it's perfect, but it helped me a lot. Hope these 2 ideas help you ...

A. The main reason I think I do is because I don't like what I do. I can do better if I do something else, this is the worst that is taught ...

This is the root cause of all our problems ... Just remember one thing, nobody loves what they are doing ... because it depends on many external factors ... such as colleagues, employer and office environment. .. If you have good friends, you may be fine to do any job ...

Stop thinking I don't like this job.

Start thinking about how to get the job done in your hand quickly and well, not perfect but good (and fast).

B. This was the second thought that helped me ...

It's not my time at the office (you're doing something you get paid for). Go home and do what you want.

Do everything you can in your free time to make yourself happy, have a hobby, watch movies, hang out with friends ... But you never spent this time at home feeling bad about the office or dreaming of a better future (I do this all time time ... Believe me, it won't help ...)
Spend weekends on refreshing things so you have the energy to survive hell on weekdays ... ALWAYS REMEMBER ONE THING "RELAX"

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Not knowing what you want to do is not so bad.

This is my advice:

No one really knows what they want to do until they have tried other things. People grow obsessed with wanting to be an architect or a singer and when they get to experience it, they hate it.

What I have discovered is that it is a sadistic life game of trial and error. You can only really know what you don't want to do.

That being said, if this is what you want to play, there are a few rules that go with this game.

(1) Never obsess over finances. There are only 2 money things you should be thinking about. I will have enough

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Not knowing what you want to do is not so bad.

This is my advice:

No one really knows what they want to do until they have tried other things. People grow obsessed with wanting to be an architect or a singer and when they get to experience it, they hate it.

What I have discovered is that it is a sadistic life game of trial and error. You can only really know what you don't want to do.

That being said, if this is what you want to play, there are a few rules that go with this game.

(1) Never obsess over finances. There are only 2 money things you should be thinking about. Will I have enough money to live next year and am I saving money? Savings are very important.

(2) Whichever path you choose, (even if you don't like it) commit to it. Each must last 6 months - 1 year minimum. A shorter resume will make your resume look like a blood splatter and you are just plain rude to people who have taken a risk by hiring you.

(3) Learn. Again, if it turns out that you don't like the path you've chosen. Take every opportunity to learn, be challenged, grow while you are there. This experience will help you in all stages of your life. The skills you practice and the network you develop will be much more transferable than you can imagine.

Obviously, there are more rules, but these are the 3 to start with.

NB. If you have more than 50% of the way to a title, grab it and finish it.

Just like the people close to you don't take you seriously, the industry won't take you seriously until you get involved.

Someone I know was a prominent employee at Infosys, quit his wonderful, well-paying job, went to film school, immersed himself in cinematography, became a camera assistant, and has now become a cinematographer. Two films he worked on won national awards last year.

I've seen how they yelled at him on set, made him run like a hare, when he was learning things. But he always had fun, even while cursing! It is not easy and it is not

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Just like the people close to you don't take you seriously, the industry won't take you seriously until you get involved.

Someone I know was a prominent employee at Infosys, quit his wonderful, well-paying job, went to film school, immersed himself in cinematography, became a camera assistant, and has now become a cinematographer. Two films he worked on won national awards last year.

I've seen how they yelled at him on set, made him run like a hare, when he was learning things. But he always had fun, even while cursing! It is not easy and it is not for everyone, this life in the cinema. Being attracted to him may get you out the door, but after that it's routine. It sure has its satisfying moments, and if that's all you want to do, you won't ask us here!

The only quality directors have is the ability to make decisions and make them work. It's not like they know exactly what they want all the time, but at some point, they will take a leap in the knowledge of faith. They do this every day of their working life. It would be nice if you could turn off all the noise and wonder if the unknown really draws you so strongly. If so, answer that call.

Nobody cares about your age or your educational qualifications. You prove yourself IN the industry when you start working. It shouldn't even require courage right now. You should make a simple decision on your part, knowing full well that you are opting for a big lifestyle change.

You'll need all the luck in the world to be able to make movies, so effort is the least you can do. If you're not willing to go full throttle, the competition will take you out in no time. Then you will really be left wondering what to do!

Start learning and you will immediately know how strong the call is.

At your age you have probably had several jobs. Weren't any of them inspiring enough to want to be higher in the organization? In other words, on your travels, haven't you seen something that you would really like to do? Okay, without the background and due to the length of your education, you can't be an astrophysicist. But you could get a degree in physics and work in technology. College takes 4 years and a lot of money, but you can borrow the funds and pay them back while you are employed. You could even go to a high school for 2 years and learn bookkeeping and start a service. There are many small businesses

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At your age you have probably had several jobs. Weren't any of them inspiring enough to want to be higher in the organization? In other words, on your travels, haven't you seen something that you would really like to do? Okay, without the background and due to the length of your education, you can't be an astrophysicist. But you could get a degree in physics and work in technology. College takes 4 years and a lot of money, but you can borrow the funds and pay them back while you are employed. You could even go to a high school for 2 years and learn bookkeeping and start a service. There are many small businesses that could use your services to have a profit and loss statement once a month on how to judge your business performance. Many have no idea whether or not they are making a profit. And, most have never prepared a balance sheet or cash flow statement for their business. You probably gave your accountant your pay stubs at the end of each year and he prepared your tax return.

At age 28, your best bet may be to go into a low-capital business, like mowing your lawn and plowing snow. The guy who plows my way in our house in Maine is busy all summer, from dawn to dusk, mowing the lawn. When the first snow comes, he is busy all day cleaning people's paths. It's hard work and long hours, but it's worth it, and if you put 10% of your salary into a mutual fund, you'll be able to retire well at 68, still young enough to enjoy a trip.

You weren't "made" at all. The real world doesn't work like that. The stars are not going to align, a ray of light is not going to split the clouds and light the way to the perfect race. You just have to figure it out. I was on a similar ship once and it took me a long time. The only advice I can give you is to keep your head up and look everywhere for opportunities. Jump right in and commit to all the possibilities. At some point, you should notice that one thing feels more correct than everything else you have tried and you will begin to gain real experience and expertise.

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You weren't "made" at all. The real world doesn't work like that. The stars are not going to align, a ray of light is not going to split the clouds and light the way to the perfect race. You just have to figure it out. I was on a similar ship once and it took me a long time. The only advice I can give you is to keep your head up and look everywhere for opportunities. Jump right in and commit to all the possibilities. At some point, you should notice that one thing feels more correct than anything you've tried and you will start to gain enough experience and real expertise in something that it begins to give you a sense of purpose in life. That is the time to fully focus on that one thing

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