Do narcissists struggle to get and keep a good job?

Updated on : January 20, 2022 by Dana Orr



Do narcissists struggle to get and keep a good job?

In my experience with a narcissist, he made up his entire work history, from working in the movie industry to the music industry and selling oil to real estate loans. I never saw any evidence that he was actually doing a job, he just spoke without pursuing stocks or financial gains from any of that ... actually he said he lost everything because he was not paid from the oil mandate he lived in Dubai hahaha. It was always someone else's fault why the expected payments, which were always huge, were never met, why his contributions on famous songs were never credited to him. He was a Vietnam Veteran

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In my experience with a narcissist, he made up his entire work history, from working in the movie industry to the music industry and selling oil to real estate loans. I never saw any evidence that he was actually doing a job, he just spoke without pursuing stocks or financial gains from any of that ... actually he said he lost everything because he was not paid from the oil mandate he lived in Dubai hahaha. It was always someone else's fault why the expected payments, which were always huge, were never met, why his contributions on famous songs were never credited to him. He was a veteran of the Vietnam War and that was the only truth I could confirm.

The former narcissist had a good union job and managed to retire from that job. The company gave him an early retirement (probably to get rid of him). However, various disciplinary measures were taken against him over the years. He had time off many times, among other things, due to sexual harassment. He was stealing from the workplace because he had not received a raise in a few years and felt he was entitled to supplement his income. He did not get along with management, or any boss, and simply had a generally bad and argumentative attitude towards everyone. At one point, the former wrecked

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The former narcissist had a good union job and managed to retire from that job. The company gave him an early retirement (probably to get rid of him). However, various disciplinary measures were taken against him over the years. He had time off many times, among other things, due to sexual harassment. He was stealing from the workplace because he had not received a raise in a few years and felt he was entitled to supplement his income. He did not get along with management, or any boss, and simply had a generally bad and argumentative attitude towards everyone. At one point, the former destroyed the vehicle of the boss, who had given him his disciplinary time off. He would go to work drunk and find a place to hide and sleep, all while putting as little effort into his work as possible.

My former drug lord lost two jobs while I was with him. They were secondary jobs.

His main job, playing in a symphony, is a MAJOR source of narco fuel for him. He has triangulated his colleagues and caused hostile working conditions (especially for young women), but he is also charismatic and “cool”. Then you get a free pass. Although he is a narco, misbehaves and causes trouble, he seems to value that position enough to avoid crossing lines that people care enough to end him. Sadly, abusing women is not one of those lines.

He once boasted to me that various people from the symphony speak to him.

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My former drug lord lost two jobs while I was with him. They were secondary jobs.

His main job, playing in a symphony, is a MAJOR source of narco fuel for him. He has triangulated his colleagues and caused hostile working conditions (especially for young women), but he is also charismatic and “cool”. Then you get a free pass. Although he is a narco, misbehaves and causes trouble, he seems to value that position enough to avoid crossing lines that people care enough to end him. Sadly, abusing women is not one of those lines.

He once boasted to me that several people in the symphony were talking to their therapist about him.

However, again ... he has something they like ... Superficial charm ... He throws cookies at them and they eat them, mmm. He also spreads lies about his victims, which the monkeys readily accept.

It's awful. Heartbreaking, really.

Narcissists don't usually have a problem landing a good job, because they're quintessential shitty artists! But keeping those jobs is a struggle, because they are quickly discovered. They are capable of caring for anyone other than themselves. They lie, often when the truth would fit better. They are lousy listeners, because they listen to respond, not to learn. And worst of all, they think they're the smartest guy in the room, and the rest of us are dumb, put on the planet to serve them.

Big question. The abuser I know cannot be employed. They have built their life on a lie. A lie that they keep hidden in order to get money from others. The interesting thing is that as the city I am in begins to grow, other experts in his field have matured ... and he has had to hide from the media attention. You have taken down your website and you do little online promotion. He is hiding from the truth that is tracking him and it is very interesting to me to watch him go by. Provides a school in self-defense. I leave it at that. I can't identify it because there are students there whose worlds would be b

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Big question. The abuser I know cannot be employed. They have built their life on a lie. A lie that they keep hidden in order to get money from others. The interesting thing is that as the city I am in begins to grow, other experts in his field have matured ... and he has had to hide from the media attention. You have taken down your website and you do little online promotion. He is hiding from the truth that is tracking him and it is very interesting to me to watch him go by. Provides a school in self-defense. I leave it at that. I cannot identify it because there are students there whose worlds would be questioned and the fall would be terrible. I never want any of your students to go through the embarrassment that I went through once I left your school.

I think some outperform and have to be the best of the best with the people who work for them or they may even own the business. They get the superiority they crave and the fuel they need, while others can't hold a job for more than a couple of weeks and do many different jobs. They feel entitled and think they shouldn't have to work and should be given everything or they fight authority figures and quit. So they take and use those around them to get what they want while being fed and supported. I've seen it both ways.

If you look at their stories, relationships, and work, you will see a pattern. In time, they will feel like others will let them down. By letting them down, I mean they didn't get enough praise, attention, recognition, etc. They suffered some kind of narcissistic damage. It is unavoidable. Now your co-workers and / or superiors are garbage in your eyes. In response, they act to wreak havoc. It seems that they need to move on. Then you see a trail of broken relationships (including jobs) in its wake.

Some do, but not all. Many people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are well-educated, hardworking, and high-achieving individuals who can be found working in a variety of professions. In fact, many people with NPD will use a high-flying career as a means to fulfill their never-ending quest for validation, admiration, and prestige.

Narcissists don't fight to get and keep a good job. Their mask shows a charming personality, and they have no problem lying and / or exaggerating their achievements.

Even after being exposed, a narcissist is a master at playing the victim, if that means keeping his job.

Perfect manipulators? Is it difficult for you to keep a job?

Now ask what happens when a narcissist convinces his job boss to fire a collateral worker, someone more deserving of the job, but fired to cover the narco's butt.

Narcissists don't fight at all ... they brainwash everyone with their fake attitude.

  • Whether a narcissist changes jobs frequently depends on the narcissist in question. The way narcissists tend to act when they start new jobs is pretty consistent.
    • Imagine how challenging life would be if, as an adult, you experienced the kinds of worries that high school students have to deal with every day.
    • For example, if you were an adult narcissist, starting a new job, you would be preoccupied with issues that were the equivalent of whether or not you can sit at the “cool kids table” in the high school lunchroom.
    • Narcissists in the workplace often behave as they supposedly did in high school when
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  • Whether a narcissist changes jobs frequently depends on the narcissist in question. The way narcissists tend to act when they start new jobs is pretty consistent.
    • Imagine how challenging life would be if, as an adult, you experienced the kinds of worries that high school students have to deal with every day.
    • For example, if you were an adult narcissist, starting a new job, you would be preoccupied with issues that were the equivalent of whether or not you can sit at the “cool kids table” in the high school lunchroom.
    • Narcissists in the workplace often behave as they presumably did in high school when they studied popular groups from afar to learn their "cool kid codes of conduct."
    • Many narcissistic adults in the workforce are obsessed with being accepted and recognized. By trying too hard to be liked, they tend to idealize those they perceive as the "popular kids."
    • It doesn't take long before any borderline narcissist hooks up with those coworkers who are quick to claim they have influence and / or some mid-level manager who can provide benefits.
    • This is when the predator can become prey because any co-worker with a group B streak will instantly detect that the novice narcissistic employee is wearing their favorite perfume Damsel in Distress: Vulnerability.
    • Although narcissists probably know from past experience that mixing work and play is a recipe for disaster, "no one will tell you what to do!" "Even if it turns out that no one is himself."
    • As usual, whenever partners in a narcissistic relationship have a dispute or are geographically separated from their loved ones, they immediately hear the melody of that annoying song, "My lack of constancy of objects causes me to constantly act against my best interests. "
    • Unable to go out of their own way and do the right thing for those who actually care about them, narcissists will challenge their loved ones and take an oppositional stance regarding what their loved ones suggest.
    • Meanwhile, narcissists suck on their new crush, cool co-workers who look "bright" and eager to throw their so easily influenced rookie narcissistic coworkers new nuggets of attention in exchange for physical intimacy.
    • As soon as the narcissistic partner in the relationship begins to receive the consistently provided attention from an obedient co-worker, the narcissist radio-calls his train conductor to tell him to pick up his coal shovel and start lighting the engine of the Devaluation train.
    • Unintentionally, unbeknownst to her, he is about to take a heartbreaking ride on the narcissistic couple's Chafe train, which runs twice a day carrying worn-out and tired passengers back and forth between stops on Approach Boulevard. and Avoid Avenue.

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